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writes:I would like to know if it’s posible to tell when a girl has had an orgasm and how noticable it is. I’ve heard that lots of women use to fake orgasms, and I find it embarrassing to ask if they had one. I don’t have problems with mine, it’s simple to know when I had one but I found it complicated to notice it with the three girls I’ve been with. One used to told me that she came twice or more when I was down on her. Sometimes I try to be sexy about it and whisper in their ear: I wanna hear you tell me when you're coming, it turns me on so much... but it doesn’t work, they simply don't do it.So, are there some signs to look for? Any ideas?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2015): When I met my boyfriend he would make me have an orgasm all the time, he's great at oral sex. But a few times when I was a bit tired or not feeling the best after a stressful day in work I didn't have an orgasm during sex. It doesn't happen all of the time, but he started worrying that he wasn't doing things right and it made me feel bad and kind of under pressure to have one. I'd be constantly thinking I really need to have one or he's going to feel bad. So try not to ask her to tell you when she's coming, it's a bit off putting.
Anyway when I do orgasm my legs shake, and things kinda contract down there. Try not to think about these things though and just enjoy being with each other, it always happens when I don't feel stressed and just feel comfortable.
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reader, msolschool  +, writes (12 September 2015):
 It is hard to tell if a woman is worried about hurting your feelings so she rather fakes an orgasms with you to inflate your ego or to not disappoint your ego. We do it all the time. But this is how to tell a woman is having a real orgasm with you. Like men, we have different ways of showing it. For one, most women will excitedly say she is Cumming, but mainly you can tell by the way she is contorting, twitching, jerking, trembling and moving her head back and forth like she is possess or something, screaming in her pillow, just basically out of control behavior. It will be really animated. But if she is faking it, she will do it verbally, with the fake Oh... baby I'm Cumming, oh... oh... but she won't show any body motions of being out of control or really animated, she just finishes and want you off of her, just laying there still, waiting for you to ask her that dumb question (To her) did you cum? Trust me when a woman Cum's you won't have to ask her. She will voluntarily talk about her orgasm, and how great it made her feel, how excited she is to have one with you, and would want you to do it again. If she is not voluntarily telling you how great you make her feel, she is trying to spare your ego, but, some women can live successfully like this after some years of practice, they just gave up on a man ever satisfying them, they rather sacrifice themselves to make sure that their man don't feel inadequate.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 September 2015):
 Three things I can tell you:
1. Don't ask a woman to tell you when she's coming! When it's happening to YOU, are you in the frame of mind to have a conversation at the moment, or are all your senses going OMFG?? If she is able to TELL you right at the moment matter-of-fact, she's doing it to placate your ego.
2. Speaking of ego, it puts pressure on someone to HAVE to have an orgasm on command for someone else. You'll have to trust that she won't fake it. I never fake it, and sometimes for one or both of us, it doesn't happen, but that doesn't mean that we don't love the closeness.
3. It's hard for a guy to know during intercourse, as they're pretty busy to notice the clitoral and vaginal pulsing contractions (which can feel like flutters if you're going down on her), but most women can't get there with you using your penis. The vagina isn't the clitoris, and the clitoris is where we get our fun. Some women CAN because of the proper ANGLE of stimulation with the penis, but there are a lot of things at play, like your staying power, your size and angle (I'm not talking about just having a massive one), and you NOT asking her if she's coming during sex! That actually makes women self-conscious!
You should get her off at least once before you actually start for yourself. The girl who said she went twice when you went down on here was most likely telling the truth, because someone who's good at that is hitting the clitoris and surrounding area.
I have to watch myself before getting into the "Pornographic" description, which is not allowed here, but it's the contractions in the clitoris and vagina.
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