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writes:Hey everyone so im so confused about a guy that I've been talking to. We talked everyday for a week mostly snspchatting and messaging. We hung out last Friday and he was super nice, we talked about really deep stuff. And then we hugged for like 10 minutes he kept staring at me and smiling, he kept saying how cute a beautiful I was. Then on Sunday I took my daughter to the park and he came later on with his son and before he left he hugged me again. Then we was talking to the other day he asked what I wanted from him and I didn't know what to say so I asked him what did he want from me and he said kisses, cuddles and to love on him. He said he wanted to make me really happy. Well then I told him that I didn't want to have sex with him if that's what he was getting at and he said that was fine and I told him that I figured he'd stop talking to me and he said " why would I" any way Thursday I believe we talked and I told him that I was to scared to talk to him first via Snapchat or message him because I didn't want to bug him and he said that "I can't bug him" what ever that means. So today I sent him a Snapchat saying hi and he has seen it, but he never said anything. He told me a lot of times that he really liked me so I'm not sure what's going on. Any idea? Did he just want sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 September 2015):
 I believe you'll find that just about every guy "just wants sex..".... but the difference will be in the details of what we will do to manipulate the roadblocks that women will put in front of us to avoid that....
Try to "read" him.... and see how far you have to go to hold him at-bay. IF it's more than you want (to do)... then tell him to take a hike. IF it's more in-keeping with this "sex" game that we all play... then play along and see where it goes....
Good luck..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2015):
 Much probably yes, but maybe it's early for a final verdict.
Tbh, yeah, at first reading " kisses and cuddles , and to love on him "- it induced a big eyeroll in me . That sounds like a cheesy way just to make it sound a bit better than "I want to get laid ".
And , it's a funny coincidence that on Thursday he told you he does not want you just for sex, no problem- but then you never heard from him again.
Then again, it's also too early to draw conclusions that you got played from the fact that you told him " Hi " today and he did not answer yet. "Hi " is not so time sensitive that people have to RUSH to answer, and today is Sunday too- he may be busy with his kid, or his parents- or nursing a huge hangover from yesterday night, for all you know:)
Don't sweat it, don't pressure him, and play it by ear without too many plans or expectations. I would not bet the farm on the fact that he was not after you just for sex, then again if he says the truth, and he really likes you regardless of sexual attraction, he will SHOW it and prove it to you by his actions and behaviour pretty soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2015): Is this someone you were considering dating? No sex ever? I think if dating then i would have said i wanted to take my time before rushing into anything serious such as sex because sex can result in kids obviously :) That i wanted to build a relationship based on friendship and a ton of making out. He may just be after sex but dont think about that, think about what you want.
If i was just after friendship then i would clearly tell him that. If he cant handle it then he cant handle it.
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