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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm growing increasingly tired of men thinking they can lust after other women with no consequences. Like us ladies don't notice or we are just supposed to accept it as "men being men". Are there any men out there who genuinely disagree with looking at porn at least while they are in a relationship? I mean any type of thing related to lust such as nude pictures or checking women out and being obvious about it. I'm finding it hard to find a man who agrees with me on this. Is it a lost cause to be looking for something like this? If so, how do I get over it?
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (29 September 2015):
 There are plenty of men who don't lust after porn or other women.
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reader, arc-en-ciel  +, writes (25 September 2015):
 I don't think such a man exists. No matter your sex drive and how great and good looking you are. Men are kind of stuck in their imaginary world.
I also have a high sex drive but it didn't prevent me from dating guys who said they don't know if they could resist the urge to fuck somebody else...
I'm still having a hard time to get over that but I think that the best way to get over it is to seperate love from sex. You wouldn't care that much if it was just a sex friend, would you? Love and sex are in fact 2 different things.
So, in my opinion, as long as your partner don't put your health at risk and as long as he makes an effort to satisfy you sexually , don't expect anything else from him (sexually).
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't believe in men supposedly having a higher libido. I have a much higher libido than any of my boyfriends ever had. In fact when I was looking to have sex with them they were more interested in having sex with other women or looking at porn. It's not like I'm not attractive. I think men are just taught to seek out sex more than women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2015): I feel sure you can find a porn free guy especially as it is important to you.Porn is just a titillation method and definately geared up to men but it is just an extension of the sex trade so keep loooking for someone who is lastingly interested in you and doesnt need porn as a prop to keep their dick under control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2015): Men have higher libidos then us and therefore need to look at pictures and porn to satisfy there sexual needs when we aren't there to do it for them. I know for a fact my man would never cheat on me with another woman - he is completely repulsed by cheaters - but does that stop him from looking at porn? Of course not. I'd rather he looked at porn then looked at other women who are within his reach. I think it is important in a relationship to be open and honest about this kind of thing, my partner and I talk openly about him looking at porn and celebrities that he finds attractive. I have a much lower libido than him and it would be impossible for me to be there for him sexually every time he needs me. I think as long as he is being open with you then there is nothing seedy about it. I think the only way to get over it is by talking openly to him about it and that way you can ask him questions to help understand it better.
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