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Archived questions from: October, 2012 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Did my alcoholic husband cheat on me, and was it to get back at me for cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - My husband has a drinking problem and likes to stay out later than I think is right especially on weekday nights. Things haven't been going well for us and on Monday we decided that he should stay in the camper for a little while. On Thursday...

Our children are the only glue holding our marriage together!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

30 October 2012 (M) - It seems to get harder and harder. my wife and I have been through alot a couple seperation a near divorce(10 days away from siging). when my kids were very little 2 and 6 months. I went back to school full time and worked full time and was only ...

Husband is away. I'm feeling horny. Should I give in and be unfaithful while my husband is away?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - Am a girl of 26 married with two kids. My husband traveled out of the country a year and 5 months now I don't know when he will be coming back. The problem is that am feeling lonely and horny, many guys do comes around to have sex with me, wh...

After all this time I still can't get over my wife's deceit and betrayal..help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

29 October 2012 (M) - I am in a real mess and am extremely in distress. I hope I will get some help from here. Phase 2: Aster, marriage, kids and all other staff. Here is my story. I married my girlfriend of four years; only to find out she was unfaithful and l...

My husband left me for a 19 year old and took our kids with him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - I have two children, a 16-year-old son and a 21-year-old daughter. Me and my husband have been married for 20 years now. I'm 42, and he's 45, and recently he left me for a 19-year-old and moved in with her taking the kids. I'd gone out to work one...

My husband doesn't care for me because I am unemployed!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - My husband doesn't care for me anymore because I am unemployed. I am looking for a job, but we are so far in debt he just blames me for all the financial situation that we are in. I am 59 now and have health issues, so it is hard to find a job, but ...

How to earn my wifes love back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - my wife and i have been together since she was seventeen and she is now 21. we had a very passionate realationship before our marriage and before our son was born. i lost my career before marriage and went into the marriage depressed. i have not ...

My wife has been keeping secrets from me. What did she do in Vegas?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4391 days ago

26 October 2012 (M) - My wife and I were in Venice sitting on a hotel balcony overlooking the Grand Canal. We were joined by 2 girls in their mid 20s and a boy about the same age. Conversation let to what our favorite city was. When my wife's turn came she stated h...

She's not just curvy anymore. I love my wife and she means a lot to me but why does she ignore my request that she please keep in shape? What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

26 October 2012 (M) - I have an issue. My wife and I have been together for 9 and a half year and married for 8. When we first started dating she was always trying to stay in shape. All the way up to our 4th year of being together. Then she decided to get too relax...

How do I heal the relationship? Do I love too deeply?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4377 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - I have been with my bf for 21 months - nearly two years. We have a beautiful 1 year old son together. I have two kids at home with me so two toddlers. Last night though, out of nowhere he turned around and told me he fell out of love with me ove...

Should I Trust My Husband? Am I Wrong For FeelingThis Way?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I have always trusted him because and have never suspected him cheating on me. Lately he has upset me because of some of the things he has done. One example occurred several years ago when s...

He blocks me out. Yet I do everything for him and his children. Is it time to stop being so giving? or break up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - I met him about 4 years ago. 2 years ago we finally got together after both being in love with each other for about a year. He is about 10 years older than me and has a few kids. At the start things were perfect. He was so in love with...

Do I need professional help? I STILL can't get my ex brother-in-law out of my mind!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4410 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - Can't get ex brother-in-law out of my mind! I'm going to try and make a long story short! I'm still attracted to and in love with my ex brother in law and I can't get him out of my mind! It's driving me crazy! We has sex one time, and use ...

For the last 2 years my husband doesn't touch me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - I've been with my husbend for 12 years now but it's been in the last 2 or 3 years he dont want to touch me or have sex with me anymore I know he's not cheating so pleas help me under stand why or if thare is something Wong with me...

I'm unhappy and feeling worn out in my marriage

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 October 2012 (M) - I've been married for 15+ years. I have two step-children, one of whom lives with us (20 years old). I hate to do it, but I have a laundry list of things that have been bothering me.... I am feeling very worn out of late. My wife has no inte...

I thought marriage was all about cherishing the one you love. All he does is cheat? And ignore his children and me. Should I break up with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - I have been in this relationship for 7 1/2 years and I have been married 2 1/2 years. Through the time of all these years. He has done nothing but cheated and he feels like its not a big deal at all when he gets caught in his lies or the females ...

My boyfriend is going to marry someone else to please his parents!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Two years ago I met my current boyfriend(?) He wanted us to get married and for me to live with him and his parents. I agreed but when I met his parents they were horrible to me and my family. Basically they w...

Why suddenly can my husband not keep an erection?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - My husband has recently done the unthinkable in the bedroom, and I don't know why. The reason I say "Unthinkable" casue to me, its out of character for him. We are two very sexual people and enjoy eachother. I seem to think that its myself, however, ...

Shuold I stick it out with my marriage hoping things will get better?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - My husband is moody and we bicker all the time about things like who turn is it to do the washing up. He says he's moody because hes stressed at work, but he has been like this for the last 18 months. It is really getting me down. We never have ...

Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relations...

IPhone addict? Sending a picture of himself in some of my clothing? What can I do about his addiction to his phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - My husband has recently become obsessed, and I mean obsessed with his iPhone. The iPhone isn't new, he's had it since January, so it's not like a kid with a new toy at Christmas, but he spends hours on social networking sites with it, and spends m...

Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...

His selfish and hurtful behaviour was completely out of character -- what's going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - Worried that something is going on with my husband. We have been together 18 years. We have had anal sex 3-4 times in the past ( i was only 19-21 years old and extremely loaded when we did it) since then we have had 3 children, i am in a twelve ...

Can I stay close to my BF's family if we finish our affair? Life with my husband is not good. And My BF now has a new GF.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - I am married without children and i have a lover. we have been seeing each other for 4 years now and for the the first year we were only friends. I am not happy with my husband but i dont want to leave him as he is a handsome guy and it ends ther...

My culture is uncompromising about virginity before marriage. BUT I am not a virgin. What can I do? I cannot tell him, as the shame is too much.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

21 October 2012 (F) - hi..i had a relationship with an boy i was loved him deeply... Nearly 14 months back only once i had sex with him.. he was not loving with me just wanted to enjoy sex with me we broke up... i was really hurt at that time.. i met with a boy...

Why does my wife of 18 years need to talk to men online? And meet them? and lie? Is this the beginning of the end of our marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) - My wife and I have been together for 18 years. We have 10 year old twins together. We used to share an email account (mine) but now she has 3 or 4 email accounts of her own. I only have one email account and she has the password to my account. She ...

What is the simplest way to get a legal separation in Scotland?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4414 days ago

20 October 2012 (F) - Hi can anyone advise please what is the simplest way to get legal separation in Scotland. I have seen some sites but confused as some day best for both partners to go meet a solicitor while some advise its a form D8 that needs to be filled with a ...

Is she distracted? No longer cares? She cheated on me last year. And now she's forgotten my Birthday. Will things ever go back to how they were?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

19 October 2012 (M) - Hi guys, hope you are well. I will go straight to the point, my wife forgot my birthday and I can't help but feel so sad. She remembered a few minutes to Mid-night and said happy birthday and apologised. I don't know what to do because over...

Follow up: my husband has disappeared 6 weeks after we got married.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

19 October 2012 (F) - Thank you for your help on my question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/married-six-weeks-and-now-he-has-left.html I'll clear up a few things for you now; He's Canadian, born in Vancouver, well Scottish-Canadian to be exact, his ancestors emi...

My husband's interactions with other men make me very uncomfortable, is he gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

19 October 2012 (F) - I have been having suspicions that my husband could be gay for awhile now. When he is talking to other men he is a little to friendly when talking to them. He has friends he talks to that I have never met.When he goes to shake another man's hand he ...

How can marriage be so special if people just move on and pretty much forget the past?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

19 October 2012 (M) - OK, this is a little deep but I know some will understand where I'm coming from. My wife and I have been happily married for 14 years, but she said a couple things that have always stuck with me. She casually said one day " well if we hadn't married ...

I've been branded as a "person of suspicion" and have been banned from seeing my husband at his work. Is his boss crazy?!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4273 days ago

18 October 2012 (F) - As if my life was not weird enough my boyfriends boss is singling me out for harassment. He is a teacher at a local school. She is the principal. I am not at all sure how to deal with this. I noticed about 2 years ago when she started working ...

Married six weeks and now he has left me to live in another country? What can I do? No warning. No idea why.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

18 October 2012 (F) - I've just got married, and been married for 6 weeks now. We haven't even had our honeymoon yet, it's been busy with work etc. Our wedding was lovely - cost about $25,000 - at HIS request, not mine, so I can't really be called a bridezilla for t...

How can I get over this other man completely, and feel united with my husband?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4416 days ago

18 October 2012 (F) - A lot of things happened since I was here last. I tried to be away from the man i used to date in the past years and i met a new guy with whom i get married. Although i feel happy, i think a lot of time about my ex boyfriend. He calls me sometimes...

My wife actively discourages me forming any friendships of my own. How do I find the courage to stand up to her?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

18 October 2012 (M) - My wife won't let me have any friends of my own. We've been married for about two years now, and I've always accepted that. I messed up and cheated on her early in our relationship, but she decided to keep me around, and we got married and moved on. ...

I want to save my marriage.My husband has PTSI and TBI and is so angry and mean. He's kicked me out. How can I get him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

17 October 2012 (F) - my husband moved out of where we were staying while we were seperated, because he kicked me out. Then he left some of my stuff there and had to go get it.. He wrote me in a text that its over and he filed for divorce.. Now he changed his emai...

Is this what married life is like?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

17 October 2012 (M) - I can't meet my wife's expectations. She has the money for a house deposit. She is Chinese and her parents are very poor and asked her to provide the house for them. She has the money to do that but wants to spend it on house for us instead and ...

I'm a mom of 3 and I'm unhappily married. I feel so low and trapped and weak

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

17 October 2012 (F) - Hi everyone, I am a mom of 3 and I am unhappily married. I want to move on with my life but my husband won't let me go. He is abusive physically and emotionally and I tried to leave him before but because of my lack of support and faith I let him ...

My wife has secrets. Do I sit on this? Or tell her I know everything?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

16 October 2012 (M) - Hello everyone im back!!!! My wife and i have been together for thirteen years. I was her first for everything. The problem with my wife is she has regrets for things she missed out on. I know cause when ever she makes comments like ho...

He made a big fuss pretending to not know this woman when she only said 'hi' to him, is he hiding something?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F) - I'm not sure if my husband is hiding something from me. The other night we went to dinner and after went window shopping. A female said hi to him. I immediately said who was that. His first response was I dont know. So I said to him well think ...

Not happy about anything. And my family are pressuring a marriage. What would you do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F) - I love this guy and i really can't think of being happy without him but the chances are very less that we will be together forever as his family doesnt want this i doubt if even he does like me or is he just afraid ? i am not sure. If i even speak...

Marriage in trouble. But could we get back together? best advice???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (M) - Well, my world came tumbling down to earth about 5 weeks ago. I have been married for 8 years, known each other for another 7 or so years earlier, have two boys 8 and 11 with her. We had one break up before we had kids, she met someone at her w...

Even though he is planning to marry me, why do I feel like I am second best? Does the mother of his child have more claim to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a guy we are so good together. he has a child froma past relationship, he loves her so much, that i fear he might have to choose her/(and of courss the mother) over me.,when it gets to the point, wh...

The sex is so unsatisfying for me. What are my options? My husband has ED and has been the doctor, but then forgets his medication for ED

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

15 October 2012 (F) - I don't know where to go. My husband and I were raised in very conservative religious homes and had no sexual experience prior to marriage (at 18 and 19). He has an ongoing problem with premature ejaculation (I think his record is 10 seconds)...

She is half my age and up the duff!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F) - OMG!! my husband of 21 years wants a divorce after getting his co-worker who is half his age pregnant. he says he loves me but he is in love with her and wants to marry her, and is excited about the baby. we had no children together but i had 2 from ...

All these years later my husband refuses to believe he was my 'first'. What do I tell him? The truth is he was my first, but he will not believe me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

14 October 2012 (F) - The day I lost my virginity I was 15 but on my period and now my husband thinks I was not a virgin because of that and I really never knew what losing my virginity was Now I am 32 years old and am still married to him now how do I tell him I was a ...

Lost my baby to SIDS in Feb. My husband is totally unsupportive to me and only wants sex. Is it time to leave and take my daughter with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

13 October 2012 (F) - hey guys i have been married since 2007 we have a 3 yr old girl. When i met him i was so in love but then came him being outside all day with the guys. We lost the relationship we had He never has interest in finding a job to support us. It'...

I am confused by his actions. Can a man concurrently and happily live with his wife, make love to his wife, and care about his children while occasionally having sexual affairs with men?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

13 October 2012 (F) - My husband of 16 years of marriage has admitted to a gay affair and numerous indiscretions with men for the last 6 years. I was devastated and even though 8 weeks have passed I feel a little bit stronger. I have been receiving counselling to come ...

Pregnant but still having an affair - please help!?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

13 October 2012 (F) - I know I will be judged for this but I don't have anyone or anywhere to go with this one. I'm 6 months pregnant with my husband. Just before I got pregnant, I left my husband. Things had been bad for a while and I was falling for another man. ...

Marraige for 5years but we don't have sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M) - I have been married for 5 years.My wife has a degree in bussines adminstration and i have a diploma in social work.The last one year i have suffered insults from her.I work on voluntary for a certain NGO in lusaka and they pay me 2million as a...