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writes:The day I lost my virginity I was 15 but on my period and now my husband thinks I was not a virgin because of that and I really never knew what losing my virginity was Now I am 32 years old and am still married to him now how do I tell him I was a virgin he's the only man that I have ever been with its because I could never prove it to him I was a virgin so I didn't argue with him But he always wanted to know the name of "my first"not knowing he has always been my first my one and only
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): Hey hon,
I, frankly, agree with most comments here. This is disrespect in its purest form. If he truly cared for you, he wouldn't care about this 'issue' and would resume with life. I think you need to have a really long talk about this. Sit down, when he is in a good mood, and have a long discussion.
All the best to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2012): Who cares? Why would any couple who's already been together for 15 years give a rat's rear about what they did when they were 15 years old? Surely your life is more interesting than this?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2012):
 I would be rather insulted if I were you.
I'm not sure what I would do honestly, other then tell him. You were my first for the umpteen time and tell him you are done with the subject because you could tell him it was Brad Pitt and he would probably believe that over the truth. After that if he bring the subject up I'd tell him enough is enough. Maybe you need to grill him as to whom was HIS first?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 October 2012):
 Every time this man refuses to accept your word as being truthful he is negating who you are as a person.
He is calling you a liar and has been calling you a liar for more than 15 years. ENOUGH! Either he is man enough to accept your word and apologise for calling you a liar and untrustworthy for the past 15 years or he can leave!
I am going to assume he is the same age as you, 32. Life expectancy for a male in the US is 75.6. Thats another 42 years of him calling you a liar and untrustworthy. Is that what you want?
You can't change his mind, you can't make him believe your word, you can't force him to believe something he doesn't want to believe. All you can do is show him the consequences of him not chosing to change his mind for himself.
Me, I wouldn't like not being believed on something so fundemental to who I am, I'd be telling him to take his unbelieving self out of there and good luck to him finding another virgin to deflower and then disrespect for the next 15 years!
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reader, Kitoosingh  +, writes (14 October 2012):
Hey this is a question which is better unanswered, believe me the moment you start proving it to him you will start getting into more & more relationship issues. So just lay low and keep him happy and busy with other thing including yourself.
All the best...!
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