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Archived questions from: September, 2017 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I feel excluded by boyfriend's decision to visit alone...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2569 days ago

30 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six years--on and off--but consistently now for the past three years. I suspect that he’s a bit emotionally unavailable because of his compartmentalization tendencies and the fact that he’s told me he’s ...

Why am I the one suffering when all I tried to do was help my family?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

29 September 2017 (F) - I am in some real need of help here. Or maybe just a little support. Its a long story but here goes... ok so after 25 years my husband left me, my kids were 18 and 23. My daughter moved in with her then boyfriend. My son,who was my best friend i...

Am I lacking backbone?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2602 days ago

29 September 2017 (M) - Hi there, I wonder if you can help me a little further. I am fundamentally unable to deal with mood swings from my wife. They are rare and for the majority of the time we’re absolutely fine. Then suddenly, out of the blue she will descend into wha...

We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...

I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2599 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...

What should I do as I see my husband is not using his own proportion in his family? Should I support him to keep independent and works extremely hard like this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2605 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I need honest opinion. My husband is the youngest and only son in his family. Got 2 older sisters. We are asian. We just married for a couple months ago. I found out recently that his sister has a glamourous lifestyle eventhough she keep borrow ...

Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...

My boyfriend's mother came over and rearranged our bedroom, I can't find anything!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and we live together. He is 22 and I’m 20. Let me start off by saying, I think family is super important and I would never want to come between my boyfriend and his family. But it bothers ...

Tough love or does my dad mean it when he says it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

26 September 2017 (M) - I have a job which I'm not enjoying and parents who flip out at me, I suffer with depression and find that when I'm backed into a corner, I lose my anger and have to defend myself, ive been in trouble with the law, had partners who have cheated on ...

Hard to love a man's children like my own.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

26 September 2017 (F) - I've been dating a man for 7 months. I have no children, he has 2 daughters ages 9 and 7. He doesn't see them very often (once a week) on the weekends. I have spent almost every weekend with him and when he gets them. They are great kids don't get ...

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2591 days ago

25 September 2017 (M) - Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

My parents don't know about my relationship till I am 18. A parents advice would be nice

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

25 September 2017 (F) - I am currently 16 and live in Victoria Australia and my boyfriend is 20 from punjabi india.All aspects of our relationship is legal We have been together for just under a year and my parents don't know i plan on telling them when i am 18 but his ...

Mother-in-law is interfering

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

24 September 2017 (F) - Ive been married to my long term fiance for just a month. He treats me amazingly sweet. Especially in front of his family. Its been almost a decade and at first i can feel that they find it strange with how he treated me. I mean his mom and sister. ...

My ex had a baby and am sad, but I don't know why

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

23 September 2017 (F) - My Ex had a kid and now I'm depressed and I don't know why. We dated from 2012-2013 and I would have to say he was my first love. We ended our relationship horribly, he cheated twice and picked the other girl over me and we haven't spoken since. ...

I dated one guy, then his cousin and am now going back to the first man because his cousin was a cheater and a liar

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - Im a 25 year old female. I was dating A from 2006-2009 , then communication got lost between me and him , so in 2012 i got close to B which resulted in me dating with B. A and B are cousins. I stayed with B for a period of 1 month and i discovered...

My wife's sexual past has become a sticking point for me

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2614 days ago

22 September 2017 (M) - OK this might be a bit long winded but here we go. So I have been happilyish married for nearly ten years now. I met my wife in 2003 while on my OE in London and we got together and started dating and then eventually the "how many people have you ...

I desperately want to reconcile with my ex husband. He had sex with me after he had broken up with his girlfriend but hasn't contacted me since

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - This is a long story and I apologize but I really need some advice from some neutral parties here. I am wanting to reconcile with my ex-husband. We were married for 4 years. He was and still is the love of my life but he left me for another ...

Need help/ideas/advice I have a controlling guy friend... He is a friend forreal.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - I have a contolling guy friend...i mean controlling in ways that i dont believe are healthy at all... Prob the worst hardest controlling techniques ever... And yes to me very odd and differant because he is my friend... in that sense i feel its ...

I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...

I had an affair with my ex husband's cousin and don't know what to do with the feelings I have

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am married, my husband is my best friend and I really don't deserve him. This is my second marriage to the same man, we married,divorced cos he left me for someone else and we were both very young first time anyway. We got back together and were...

She's asked me for advice-Can I be honest and tell her she's in a bad relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on should I say what I think or... be polite and lie. I have 2 cousins who are like sisters to me. One of them is having problems with her papers. She's been living in a foreign country for the past 7 y...

I'm 28, watched my father die, and now watching my mother die. How to deal with anger?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

18 September 2017 (F) - I am 28 years old. My parents have been divorced since I was a child. Both of my parents have had poor health for as long as I can remember -- extreme obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart issues, and so on. As I grew up, I watched my fat...

I want to marry this woman and find it hard to let her go! Please help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

18 September 2017 (?) - Help help help. In a previous column I told everyone about how my x dumped me after 3 1/2 years by text. I also found that she had a dating profile. We talked on the phone. She says she feels like a horrible person for what she did and we had long ...

I want to marry my cousin's grand daughter.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2616 days ago

18 September 2017 (M) - My aunt has a son.That would make him and I first cousins. My first cousin has 3 daughters. Lets say the oldest girl is named Tasha.Lets go a bit further and say Tasha has 2 daughters.One name Mary and the other one named Sue.Is it wrong for me to ...

She has bruises and I think she's cheating with the Baby Daddy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

18 September 2017 (M) - My lady gets mad couse I pointed out two bruises on her back she didn't have before last time we had sex was 5 days ago she takes of one morning to school with baby Dady for conference metting regarding son school I find her on find I phone she ...

I'm worried about my husband's business venture

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2622 days ago

16 September 2017 (F) - My husband is starting up a business and is very excited. He dedicated his life to it and we seldom get quality time as a newly married couple. If he is busy with his own job, i can understand. I know certainly what his business is. But this mor...

Uh Oh .... this guy I really like is brother to my ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - I met this guy and happen to fall deeply in love with him though am not sure he knows about it but just when I was about summoning the courage to tell him how I feel....it all turned out he is a brother to my ex. I really don't know what to do and ...

Should I stay .... or maybe I should go

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2618 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...

I love my boyfriend but am looking elsewhere

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2516 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - My situation.. I met my boyfriend a year ago while while I was living overseas, he is from that country. We ended up getting into a relationship quite fast. Our parents met each other and everything was great. A week later or so, he had to g...

I have a hard time trusting people and showing emotions because of my childhood and my strict mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2623 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - I'm having serious problem of trusting people.In my childhood,my mom and dad were very strict.Everything I did had to be the best.For example I got punished because I got 99 in math in elementary school.My mom always criticizes me,and when I did ...

My step daughter is making my life hell!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2620 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - My step daughter is making my life hell. I'm a nurse on a trauma unit and I work nights. My job is stressful enough without coming home to a battle every day. My husband is far from perfect but his main flaw is his unwillingness to discipline his ...

I want my husband to share me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2536 days ago

14 September 2017 (F) - i want my husband to share me. i have had this desire for a long time. it started when my husband told me, during foreplay one night, he wanted to watch me have sex with another man. we talked about it and i said i would like to do it. but afte...

Ex-boyfriend (considerably older) left me for someone else while being on holiday. I don't understand it and am now thinking of asking for closure.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2622 days ago

14 September 2017 (F) - Hi, will try to keep this as short as I can. A little background: A few months ago I met a charming older man (49 years old) and what began as a short romance started developing into something more serious and longer, with him (he lived in a diffe...

We just don't DO anything!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2623 days ago

14 September 2017 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together since we were 17 and although we are happy, I feel our relationship is just really boring. I was watching a show the other day and this couple did so many fun activities together and when we talk his sister, ...

Kissing Cousin ... yech!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2624 days ago

14 September 2017 (F) - Hi all, One of my older cousin's has been sending me a lot of boring links lately on messenger , which I never have the time to respond to or know what to say. He has complimented my Facebook profile pictures a lot , which is fine . Then yesterday...

Parents blighting my life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2625 days ago

13 September 2017 (F) - How do you cope with toxic parents? And how should you go about protecting your child from them? Breaking off contact isn't something I want to do. My mother can be wonderful but also horrible. She makes snide comments, is passive aggressive, and ...

Wifes past haunts me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2537 days ago

13 September 2017 (M) - I have been married almost 20 years now. When I met my wife she told me that she had been raped. A few months into our marriage she told me that she had been gangraped as well, I didn't question her too much about it and just left it. A few months ...

My fiance is in debt, was married previously and isn't making any real efforts to be with me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2624 days ago

13 September 2017 (F) - Hello everyone. I need advice on my situation. I will try to make it as short and concise as I can. I am in my early 30's. With a bachelor's degree. Currently in between jobs, but have a job offer in the US. I am awaiting my immigration peti...

Should I cut ties with my family to appease my wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2577 days ago

13 September 2017 (M) - My wife and I are 10 years happily married with a 5 year old child. An issue has arisen recently that is causing great trauma and I would be very grateful of some worldly-wise advice and help to find a way forward. We like in the UK , I am fr...

My boyfriend's mother suddenly seems to hate me and thinks I'm an awful influence on him. Should I stay with him or leave?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2624 days ago

11 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend who is 23 years old and I have been together for about 2 years now. At the beginning, maybe the first 3-4 months of the relationship his mother and I were very close. She would text me every single day, buy me things and call me her ...

Angry about my parents divorce.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2625 days ago

10 September 2017 (M) - Long story short, when I was 6 my mom cheated on my Dad with a married man that has 2 kids older than me. Less than a year they both left their spouses for each other. When I grew up my step siblings ignored me like I don't exist. My step dad son ...

Heartbroken even though I dumped him and now I want him to chase me and get me back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2627 days ago

9 September 2017 (F) - I need your help folks. I was seeing a guy who was coming out of a marriage. He was single for about 8 months and we started seeing each other. Both of us knew each other locally and we were both surprised when we got to know each other and ...

I'm on the verge of having an affair

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2619 days ago

9 September 2017 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am about to start an affair, I'm 30 year old woman, in along term relationship. I've been married for so many years and we have 2 children. I have a stable life, extremely loving husband, too loving he doesn't get the concept ...

The tale of two sisters

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2627 days ago

9 September 2017 (M) - The tale of two sisters; 1st issue Sister T and Sister J live 50 miles apart. Their father sadly passes away. Some months later Sister J phones Sister T and asks what they should do with Dad’s clothes. They agree that they should be cleared a...

Any advise on this relationship will be welcome.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2622 days ago

9 September 2017 (M) - I met a woman online about 2 yrs ago where she had posted she was divorced but was actually still married and her husband left her and was seeking a divorce. I told her she needed to finish her divorce before we could date because I don’t date ...

My mother always gives me such a hard time

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2623 days ago

9 September 2017 (F) - Have you ever felt heart ache ? well I have. The feeling of light pain and sour when you're really depressed,and I had one experience for my dying grandma, another one for myself. My mom is a very traditional woman.she always wants me to learn ever...

I feel always destined to be different, to be alone, and on the periphery.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2568 days ago

8 September 2017 (F) - Please can ask your thoughts on something aunts? I'm a lady in my mid 30s, professionally accomplished and financially independent. At work I'm well respected and I get on well with most people. In fact I get on well with lots of people outside...

How should this family go about dividing my late Grandmother's jewelry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2631 days ago

7 September 2017 (F) - My family is dividing my grandmother's jewelery this weekend. The divide is between my mother (daughter), my cousin (granddaughter), me (granddaughter), and my cousin's 15 year old (great-granddaughter). My mom insists that my grandmother told her ...

How to get off on the right foot with his parents?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2632 days ago

5 September 2017 (F) - Hello! I hope you're doing well today. I met someone new and so did his sibling. He is 30, sibling is 28. It's been on 4 occasions that their parents cater to the sibling's new paramour in my opinion. They initiate conversation with them more than ...

My boyfriend's mother is a bully

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2632 days ago

5 September 2017 (F) - At my bf’s family get-togethers, my bf’s mother would rudely tell her husband Tom to shut up if one or two words came out of his mouth. Tom is her 2nd husband and not the father of her children. I was aghast at her treatment of Tom. I think I am the ...