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Archived questions from: December, 2012 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

My mother's boyfriend treats my brother very badly

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - I've spent a lot of time at my mum and her boyfriend's house this week and I've heard him call my brother a little scrote, douchebag, idiot, prick, pillock. He also threated to smash his wii and cut his signed football in half. He has also banned h...

Ok I need to get this of my chest why is this girl saying this and talking this stuff about me ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

31 December 2012 (M) - Ok, here it goes my brothers gf is saying that she loves me when she hugs me every time I hug her. It was weird she went to hug me and my brother step in the way of the hug like he did not know that I was going to hug her then she step back like wtf ...

Is this a one sided relationship where I initiate all the actions to support the relationship and her? Yet her efforts to support the relationship are scant.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4263 days ago

31 December 2012 (M) - My girlfriend and I are both in our 40's and have been together for 8 months. We love each other very much but it seems like I'm the one always doing the "little things": helping with her kids, shuttling them from place to place, writing her lett...

How can I win my son's love again? Please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - After my divorce, my son changed totally with me, he was so close to me but now he changed and he told his dad that he saw me with another man and this was 5 years back. I thought he forget about it but he didn't .I was not happy with my husband at ...

Eight months pregnant by him and now he's broken up with me on Christmas Eve. What can I do? LDR and he's in the military. He says I've not given him enough space.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I met this guy almost 12 mths ago, we were in love an every was great. Now I'm currently 8 months pregnant an recently he started talking a lot less, saying he needs space and that i message him too much. Then he then dumped me on Christmas Eve an ...

Did my boyfriend's fear of getting caught make him react differently during sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - my boyfriend and i love each other very much, yet he doesn't have his own house, so usually we wait until his parents are out of his house then we go cuddle, have sex, talk and sometimes times cook and eat together while watching tv. his fathe...

Why do men cheat on their wives?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - Why do men cheat on their wives my sister is having an affair with a married man it has been going on for 4 years his wife is ill with fibromylagia and arthritis she also sufferes with severe depression. He keeps telling my sister that he is leaving ...

I feel like a failure for still being in the family home

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I am 27 and still living with my parents. I moved back after uni and stayed longer while me and my boyfriend were saving up to buy a place of our own, which was fine with me and them, but my boyfriend and I have just split up and now I don't know ...

In love with my step mom's step sister but it's a secret. Curious what to do and say?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

30 December 2012 (M) - Ok the situation is I have a STEP mom who has a STEP sister and her and I believe that we love one another. Through the family we believe family. But, at the same time we are no blood relation what so ever. Is it right or is it wrong? I don't kn...

Why can't my family and friends mind their own business about my dating life? How should I respond?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - Dear Cupid, it's has been nine years since I have been in a relationship and now people who I know want me to return to the relationship scene . I feel like I am not ready yet I want to do me right now I feel if I go back to being with somebody...

I want to date. But I'm also carer for my mother and sister. How have other carers been able to juggle studies, caring and me-time or even a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I hate starting these off but basically I'm 17, I have only ever had 1 boyfriend and that's because I'm a carer for my mum and sister, my mum has COPD and my sister has cerebal palsy. Over the past few weeks I've started developing a crush on this ...

A wife, another woman who I love, and kids with both. Tell me how I can fix this situation.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4344 days ago

29 December 2012 (M) - hi there I am 33 years old man and I have been married for 4 years now but been together for 10 years and we also do not have sex my wife treats this like a job. half a year into being married I started having an affair with a woman but only for fun ...

I think I still love him. But it's not mutual. What can I do? Seeing as my partner thinks I'm silly, and wants to leave.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - I dont think my husband loves me because I just cant feel that! I think this question will be a long question. We did love each other a lot, he left his hometown and move to my city, in the frount of all the pressure just came to us, all the bill...

Am I enabling my 17 year old son on how to be a responsible young man?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - Dear Cupid, I want your opinion on this .Well my mom has fallen sick and I have to work because I have a 17 year old son at home and he watches my mom while I work so when I get paid I shower him with money and clothes and shoes. I would like to ...

We had a super-connection. What can I do to rebuild the trust and reunite with my now ex-girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4342 days ago

29 December 2012 (M) - Dearcupid, My (now ex) girlfriend (26 and i'm almost 25)broke up with me over 2 months ago. Circumstances have changed since - i've moved forward with my career and am closer than ever to where I want to be. This was an issue with us as I was del...

Am I being immature or childish or high maintenance? I don't want to be a weekend girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - My story is a little long, but I will try to be succinct as possible. I started dating a guy in January 2012. He is 61 now, and I am 39. He has been divorced for 15 years (his wife cheated on him and married the guy a year later right after they...

Holiday blues. Why do I feel more alone than ever, and without a partner, especially during the holiday times?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Why is it that I feel more alone over the holidays? I have family and friends, yet I long for the warmth of a man. I feel like I will never find a man and have that marriage I so long for. I'm 43 and never married. Something BTW, I always wanted....

Should I start looking for someone else? I don't think my current GF is going to be the one, long term

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - I am 47 and was married happily for 16 years, and not-so-happily for the last 2 as I found myself dragged down a path of divorce I didn’t want to be on. My wife instigated the proceedings; the reasons no longer matter - suffice to say I had neve...

Is it only me who gets upset that some people cheat, and then want to keep that fact a secret from their partner?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - Some Posters seem to be condoneing cheaters and ex promiscus people. Why do people think that its ok to lie to their husbands or wifes??? I just read where one agony aunt said "don't beat yourself up over it you just felt a connection so yo...

Since my miscarriage and his uncaring attitude I don't think I can love him any more. What are my options?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have really been feeling like I've grown to hate my boyfriend at times. There are times when I think what would I do without him? I feel I don't want to leave him because all my friends either live on the other side of the country or I've ...

Unfaithful in my marriage. Why did I do this? Can I keep this secret forever?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have been married for over 20 years and have always been faithful with the exception of one man, twice. I met him 15 years ago at the gym and I was immediately attracted to him but kept it to myself. After a while, we began to talk and before I kn...

Despicable actions by him in the past. So do I try to forget that? And see him again? Or say NO to him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - My ex constantly said he slept with my sister whenever we would argue. He would do this because he knew that would destroy me and knew that my sister and I were very close. I confronted my sister she denied it and no longer speaks to me. As...

Slept with him, but he became a jerk. Broke up. Later slept with his brother. If they know will they both hate me now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I know I will be judged for this but I really need help please? I slept with a guy a year ago. After I slept with him, he was a jerk to me and left my life, until recently. However, I recently slept with his brother. Now my ex has just started tal...

I can't tell my family about our relationship. Is it wrong to date my cousin? Is it wrong to have sex with him??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have always like him(My cousin) he like me ... He is my boyfriend too but the problem is that i cant never show it in front of My family. Me and him want to tell our family but i dont now how to tell them ?? Is it wrong to date him? And is...

Eleven months later my ex made contact. Is he trying to reconnect? What's my next move?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Hey guys, I'll try and keep this as short as possible but two weeks ago my ex contacted me after us not speaking for 11 months. I deleted his number so I didn't actually know it was him but we were together for 2 and a half years. To be clear, he...

His family all have health issues. Is this a high risk situation, if we want to settle and have children together?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles. I am wondering what is your take on this. I am dating this great guy, who is very serious about me and we have discussed marriage and kids. He has great potential, and we both have nice lucrative careers and by the t...

My story, update and appreciation to everyone who has helped me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4344 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I haven't wrote an article on this site recently and well I think its about time as i'm so valued here that I update my life, and well give everyone an insight to why I came on this site and why I love giving people advice and help. ...

How do I come out to my transphobic parents?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (M) - I am a FTM transgender and gay, meaning I like men. I am currently dating a questioning but that is not the problem. This is my problem. How do I come out to my parents as transgendered when they're transphobic? This is very crutial as I want to ...

I am struggling to move on without closure

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - How do you move on from a relationship without closure? I was with a wonderful man who treated me well for just over 2 years. It was long distance for the majority due to his work but we always ensured we'd see eachother twice a week. He treated me ...

I packed my bags and left after he hid me from his mother.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 2years going into our 3rd. We have been living together for 2years straight. Last year he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and i forgave him. Earlier this year we went for an HIV test and discovered he was HIV+...

Is pursuing a masters degree with a baby realistic?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - Hi Everyone! I'm looking to hear from people (especially women) that have raised a family while pursuing their post-secondary education. I'm currently 25 years old and a full-time university student working toward two degrees (simultaneously)...

Why is my wife's family and my wife keeping big secrets from me? Why is my wife saying she loves me when clearly saying otherwise to others? what are my options?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (M) - Hello, My wife and I live across a ocean! She is doing her post grad studies back home and I am working in Europe. Two months after I left for work and medical reasons (operation) my wife started seeing some guy. She had told her friends th...

Enough is enough! His alcoholism has resulted in him threatening me and make me feel insecure. What can I do and where can I seek help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I have been married for 13 yrs, my husband had been drinking since I met him it didn't use to bother me at first. This is because he will act nice and become nicer later. But lately he had become aggressive. Everytime he drinks he will start acti...

How do I deal with my alcoholic father?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I'm having a crisis of loyalty. I'm 20 years old and for the past 10 years i've been aware that my dad has had a drinking problem - my parents separated soon before this realisation. Throughout the years there have been many instances where ...

I'm afraid to intoduce my bipolar boyfriend to my family

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I'm scared to introduce my boyfriend, who has bipolar disorder, to my family. I think he feels offended because he hasn't been around my family much yet. He doesn't know why i don't want him to be around them too much though. I don't think they ...

Suspicious of my wife. I keep a voice recorder in the house and heard her and my younger brother being over familiar. I am confused.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

26 December 2012 (M) - Hi all, Seeing other posts, I think I can get opinion here. Please suggest for below a thing that occurs in my home. Me and wife, 28 and 24 yrs and are married for 3 years. We have good relationship. But due to some suspicion, I kept voice rec...

Is my boyfriend taking advantage of me financially? He also makes me feel insecure.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

26 December 2012 (F) - First of all I'm sorry for the long read I'm guessing this is going to be but I need help in what I should do. I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and well I have basically lived with him for that whole year. I give him £75 a week for rent...

How do I get people to stop gifting me live Plants? I tell them I don't want them. I give them alternative ideas. They all ignore me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

26 December 2012 (M) - This sounds really stupid, but it is getting on my nerves to the point where it is very hurtful to me. The issue is that I really like plants and I have a green thumb. My wife and my in-laws knows this, so for some years know they have been gif...

I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

26 December 2012 (M) - Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...

Husband is never around for me or our baby. Should I wait or hand him the divorce papers?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

26 December 2012 (F) - I'm young, this I know but like most people my age I don't have all aspects of my life figured out and i'm not sure where to go from here. I have been married for about 2 years now and I have a 8month old baby with my husband, but now i'm not sure...

I'm lesbian and I don't now how to tell My family

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

26 December 2012 (F) - Help !!! I have Been lesbian since i remember but the problem is that nobody knows just a friend but i dont now how to tell My parents im afraid they are going to judge me and the thing is that i have to fake that i like guys ...

When does he put me first as part of his plans and consider me? I seem to be last on his priority list

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - My boyfriend and I were planning a trip to a large city for New Years. Originally, we were going to take his daughter to a special destination (to delight her) but she's not coming (another story). So, we then said we'd just go ourselves but then...

Three months of dating. And still have not met his family and friends? Is this normal? Or weird?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - My guy and I have been together for 3 months now and I haven't met any of his friends or family nor him mine... Am I jumping the gun to soon or does that seem weird to anyone else, I don't even think his friends know about me but he will talk to m...

Why is my Bf so protective about his phone, hardly talks about his family, and is very guarded about his life? Yet does seem to care about me,

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now but only really official I guess for a month. I'm just trying to decide if things are going anywhere with this relationship. He is very weird about his phone and refuses to leave...

Would he really leave his baby's mother for me? Or is he just telling me what I want to hear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I have been with this guy for seven years and during the process of five years we were facing problematic issues because he was cheating. It happened that he made love with this other gal and she became pregnant, I left this guy immediat...

Do I let him go? I am now drug free. Trying to get my baby back. But my Bf talks the talk but still does drugs.Will he ever wake up and get drug free?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - Here's my issue .I met a man a few months ago and things were great. Shortly there after he became a drug addict, shooting drugs all the time. Selling everything. Stealing. I cared about him so much, but being a former drug addict (I quit 5 months...

I've been flirting with guys the last 6 months. Should I leave my husband and start afresh in a more meaningful relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I met my husband when I was seventeen and married at 21. Now 28 with a child I am so unhappy! We argue a lot, over stupid and small things! I will admit I am bad tempered and may indicate things! Sex life gone down to a point I ask and be let ...

Thank you Dear Cupid. This is a WONDERFUL site. You showed me good directions when I was lost.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I just want to say thanks to all the wonderful people at dear cupid. Since from the beginning of the you have shown love and good advices. Mostly thanks to the wonderful founder of dear cupid. Its so good to know that there's someone out there who ...

Child Support issues. Am I asking for too much? He thinks so.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - After separating from my husband if many years, I started to claim for child support When he got to know this from the agency he sent me a text saying, "can't believe you're doing this to me, taking my kids and family away and now also causing ...

Engaged but having second thoughts.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - Just got engaged but now Im having second thoughts, and these thoughts are not leaving me alone. Won't get into details why Im feeling like this, but let's just say I don't feel as loved and appreciated as I think I should feel, especially after ...