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writes:My guy and I have been together for 3 months now and I haven't met any of his friends or family nor him mine... Am I jumping the gun to soon or does that seem weird to anyone else, I don't even think his friends know about me but he will talk to me About his friends... Am I just being crazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 December 2012):
 While after 3 months I think it's a bit odd to have not met the friends, I agree as adults meeting the parents (not siblings) signifies a big step in the relationship.
If there are coupled friends you could ask to double date and meet them....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 I think more or less like IAmHereToHelpYou. I don't think it's strange you haven't met his family yet , because, once you are out of teen yers, "meeting the parents " sort of gives a serious, very official turn to things, whether you want it or not... but yes it's strange that you haven't met his friends. If someone is really into you the first thing he wants to do is to flaunt you and to show you off, plus he will want to incorporate you in his social life , so that you can have both romantic times AND social times together.
But, no need to panic, there are quite a few non-sinister possibilities. Maybe all his friends are single and you'd be the only woman to tag along. Maybe they are all a rowdy,non-introduceable bunch :) and he's afraid that you would not like them- or that they'd make fun of him for having become " domesticated ". Or maybe your bf is still soaking up the romantic atmosphere and too taken still with the " just me and you " moments to have thought about introducing you to his friends.
You can ask him, there's nothing wrong with it. Not like, putting your foot down " it's 3 months and now I demand to meet your friends ". Just tell him... the truth, that you are curious to know these friends whom he always talks about and you would not mind to hang out one of these times, it could be fun. See what he says - if he just had not thought of it, he will comply, if he has a valid reason he won't have a problem in stating it- if he starts fumbling and making excuses and hemming and hawing... then you start to worry :)
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 No, it doesn't sound weird to me. Three months of dating isn't really that long. Certainly not long enough to prove any long term potential.
Actually your boyfriend is doing both of you a favour by taking his time.
If he brought home every woman or even most women he dated, his family wouldn't take his relationships seriously and they'd be more inclined to share unwanted opinions about them. By taking his time, they see that he only brings home women he's serious about and that encourages them to treat those relationships far more seriously themselves. They'll have more respect for someone they think he's serious about than someone he isn't.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 December 2012):
 There isn't really a timeline of when you should meet each others friends and family. Although if it's been say a year and you haven't met them, then there's something fishy going on.
3 months in, there's no need to rush to meet friends and family. You two are still a new couple, you need time before you start making the rounds with everyone. Give it some more time.
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