New here? Register in under one minute Already a member? Login

245057 questions, 1084625 answers

Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!

New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us . Articles . Sitemap

To browse questions by day in June, 2009, use the links below (in brackets, number of questions on that day in this category)

1 (7), 2 (9), 3 (11), 4 (8), 5 (9), 6 (9), 7 (12), 8 (16), 9 (7), 10 (11),
11 (13), 12 (12), 13 (12), 14 (13), 15 (19), 16 (13), 17 (23), 18 (19), 19 (18), 20 (11),
21 (7), 22 (14), 23 (11), 24 (15), 25 (14), 26 (7), 27 (7), 28 (10), 29 (16), 30 (9),

Archived questions from: June, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I feel like such a sinking wreck...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - I'm beginning to feel like my life has come to a halt. Just come out of a bad and messy split with my fiancee of 5 years-he has been emotionally abusive and has completely and utterly financially drained me-i managed to get debt help but my cred...

Should I just leave the pieces on the floor and move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Hello...I am a lesbian and my ex girlfriend and I are trying to be together again. We were together in 2008, for a little over 9 months. Through this time she went to alcohol and drug rehab, and I myself was going through a recovery process too. The ...

I don't know what to do. I split from my fiancee.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - please please somebody give me some good advice. i feel so alone i dont know what to do. i split with my fiancee 6 weeks ago. i met him through working at the same place where i was best friends with him. at the time i was seeing somebody else ...

I want a divorce, how do I bring the subject up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - I have posted two other questions. Here’s another. Like ya’ll know my husband has fathered another child. I’ve known about this since last Nov. 2008. We have been trying to work things out for the sake of our family. Things haven’t been going so...

She blames me for everything and split me and him up!

No replies yet: Be the first to answer!

30 June 2009 (F) - friends who dont like you being friends with other flamen people! im sick to death of this. seriously. my so called best mates have a go at me over being out with someone older than them. making me hide the fact im out with him from them so they don...

I can't get over my exboyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Ok, so my boyfriend {now ex} broke up with me a few weeks ago, and i really can't get over it xD. He told me it wasn't working out and tht we were better of as friends. I had saw it coming I guess...I just had blindsighted myself to just ignore it. ...

Am I a horrible person?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - Me and my Ex girlfriend were together almost a year, we split up recently and decided we wanted to be friends. Recently i've explained to her that i've had a bit of a drinking problem and i've been out of control. while at her house i wanted a drink ...

We broke up yesterday, I want her back, how long should I wait before I text her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - ow do i get back my ex-girlfriend? She respected me enough to talk about it in person. She sed she loves me as a friend, and isnt in love with me, what should i do? i would like her back, but i dont know how to go about it.... We broke up yesterday, ...

If I go back to him I'd feel like I was prisoner of my dreams again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Ok, please help me find some kind of relief from this. I am beyond stressed right now. About a week ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I felt it was the best thing for me to do because I had issues with him not being able to co...

She cheated, broke up with me, and I'm still hung up on her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - Hi my situation is very complicated. I dated this girl for about a year and two months. I found out she was still talking to an old boyfriend and that she cheated on me. I thought she was the woman I was gonna marry, and even though she did me wrong ...

Settle for friends, or just break it off completely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Me and my ex boyfriend dated almost 2 years. I am going to be a senior while he is going to college 4 hours away. We had a relationship that was based on our friendship, because we had fun together all the time. We hung-out a lot! We really never ...

I feel powerless. Everything is on his terms it seems. Even the break did not wake him up!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I have been with the same guy for 6 years. I love him, but he frustates me so much because he seems not to care enough to deal with the problems we have. He huffs and sighs and acts like I'm bothering him if I bring up something we need to work ...

How should I break up with a guy that is obsessed and emotionally attached to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5641 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - okay...i'm 14 and my boyfriend is fixing to be 16. we started dating may 6th and have been dating for a while now. he was in miami for a good month and i couldnt take not seeing him...i cheated a few times but he doesnt know about it... the truth is...

How long should I wait before contacting him again and how should I start it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I cut my ex out of my life after a series of bad events (including him cheating). However I still really love him and want to be with him. I actually want to speak to him again because I miss our great friendship/companionship a lot, but I know ...

He sent an email saying it was time to move on, but he's just told me he still loves me! So confusing!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - hi i have been in a relationship for 7 years. my boyfriend broke up with me last year october because he couldn't marry me beacuse of religion. anyway he is with someone else now. since he has been with her they break up and make up beacuse they ...

Did my boyfriend dump me as he was scared of commitment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Did my bf dump me as he was scared of commitment? We'd been together for nearly 3 years and in that time things were mostly great but every now and then he'd bottle it and question whether or not we wanted the same thing. I wanted the wedding, the ...

Has he gone off me that quickly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Hello About a month ago I started to speak to a really nice guy.. he told me he liked me.. but I didnt at the time find him very attractive at all.. we got on really well - his name's steve. I was seeing someone at at the time as well. Anyway whe...

He drools over other girls every time we go out!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I am so angry with my boyfriend. He takes me out then drools over another lady looking straight past my face into hers. He has been making remarks at other ladies in front of me and I tried to brush it off, but this time it was too much. He says I ...

Is this too fast?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - This is quite long, sorry but please bare with me cuz i really need advice! Since my last question i have dumped that guy and are now with someone else. Me meet a few days ago literally, just as friends! as he HAD a gf! But we instantly fell ...

How do you stay happy after a breakup?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - What are some ways to keep yourself happy and going, after breaking up with somebody? I'm afraid of my future with my boyfriend and I'm afraid that if we do call it quits I will become depressed again. As we broke up before about four months ago,...

I think I lost out on "The One"!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Ok so I really need some help here. The last boyfriend I had was a year ago. I dated him for almost two years. He ended up breaking up with me after he got a second job because he said he simply did not have time for a girlfriend. I believed him. ...

I still love him, need advice on how to move on!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I broke up with my abusive ex-bf 6 months ago exactly and I am worried that I am still thinking about him far too much. I have sought so much advice and tried to get on with life and have fun being single, but he is still in my head. Just to f...

She wants nothing to do with me, but I want to be her friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - How do I get over my ex GF. I dumped her becuase she kept on being too overprotective and controlling. Anyway now she wants NOTHING and I mean NOTHING to do with me. Anyway I want to be her friend her being as stubborn as she is says no her excuse i...

We were the 'perfect' couple; now he's with his cousin, and I can't get over it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Dear cupid, I really need help. My ex boyfriend broke up with me exactly one year ago and I am SO not over him. We were together for 2 and 1/2 years. The first 18 months were perfect. People used to say we were the perfect couple. We were both...

When is the best time to start talking about "us"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5655 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - hey everyone, i broke up with my 1 year bf about 4 months ago... it was pretty dramatic and lots of shit happened... i dated someone else after that, we met up for sex with my ex a few times, i got into a deep depression and wanted to die, lots of ...

I know it might seem that my ego is just wounded but I know there's something that isn't adding up! Any suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I split up with my boyfriend of 2 years recently. I have a child and he was great with her. Before we dated, he claimed he was very open with his emotions but it couldn't have been further from the truth. He clammed up at any mention of emotions ...

Did I do the right thing giving him an ultimatum? How do you think he will react?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I dated this man two years ago for 5 months and was utterly in love with him. We had an amazing connection, unlike anything I've felt before or since. We ended it because he had just come out of a serious relationship (he was engaged), which had ...

How can a guy get over someone so easily? I broke up with him seven months ago and I'm still not over him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5640 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Why is it so f**king easy for guys to get over their ex-girlfriends!? My ex and I broke up seven months ago after a two year relationship and I'm still not over him! He tells me he has only about a 5% emotional connection to me now and that ...

Ex is with another guy but wants to get back with me. Should I wait and say nothing or convince her to get back with me?

No replies yet: Be the first to answer!

28 June 2009 (M) - I dated my ex for almost 2 years. I still love her to death, but as soon as we broke up, she started rebounding with someone who clearly is no good for her. To make a long story short, she said she wants to try again when her current relationship ...

I'm hurt and confused...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Ok, lets make this short as possible and understandable! i am a young woman with a 4 year old beautiful baby girl that i love more than everything. i lived a very hard life in the short time I've been on this earth, bad bad childhood, i never had a ...

How do I get over her 100%?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - Hey. I don’t really know where to start. About 8 months ago my girlfriend (of 2 years) broke up with me. We got into a rut and started to argue etc. Since we broke up it’s been clear we both have feelings for each other as we nearly got back ...

Update: Tempted to go back to my cheating husband...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5655 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Hi this is an update to a post i wrote on the 18th may please help me. I did leave my h/b and i am living in a womens refuge now for a month iam finding it very hard to stay away from my husband he promises me he will never cheat on me ever or li...

How do I ask her to move to a different country?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5656 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - I'm Scottish and my girl is American. We met five years ago when she studied for three years at the university I am now a graduate from. We've been together for four years and eight months, over a year and bit's of that being long-distance. In my ...

So many half-commitments! Why can't she just tell me ...yes or no?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5656 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - Hello. My girlfriend and I broke up a few months ago. I admit, as I did to her recently, that I realize that the way I was acting was kind of abusive towards her. Actually, I made a huge mistake and did and said something when she was leaving me ...

He was feeling a bit "nostalgic" indeed!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I had dated a guy about five years ago - Our relationship lasted about 1 year. We were very passionate and I felt like we got along well and had a lot in common. Well we broke up eventually and he met someone new about 4 years ago. I told him I ...

Should I suggest we reconcile our relationship, while both of us are on a holiday in Jamaica?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - I recently found out from my hairdresser that my child's father is going to Jamaica for the summer to do voluntary work. I saw him last week and mentioned that I willl be going on holiday to Jamaiaca. I did not mention that I heard he will be. ...

Having a baby-should I stay with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - Should you stay with someone, just because you are having their baby? Hi, me and my ex boyfreind broke up late last year. We were together for a very long time, and i truly loved him, however i broke up with him, as i wasnt happy in the relations...

Do you think I'm going too far wanting to give the items back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - When I met the guy that I used to date, he told me he loved me more than anything in the world and he would love me as long as he was breathing. I do know that as time goes on people sometimes change. Our relatoinship was damaged due to the fact ...

Should I fly and see my ex, who has a gf, or should I wait for him to come to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - My ex and I dated for three years, one of those years was our freshman year in college. After that, my family's business was suddenly not doing well, and I needed to come home, as there was not enough money for tuition. We broke up and since, he ...

He's stopped texting me -- have we broken up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - he just stopped texting me and im assuming we're broken up. its painful to just act like nothing happened and move on. i know it will not be a good idea to contact him. all my friends say wait for him to contact you, but im in pain. what do i do?? ...

My porn use and cyber sex obsession ruined my marriage! How do I get my wife back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5641 days ago

27 June 2009 (M) - I have been married 19 years. For 8 yrs I watched porn and engaged in cyber sex, and even Emailed women. This became an obsession. My wife found out about it and I tried to lie my way out of it. I did stop eventually, but she left me anyway. How can ...

Should I really move on? Everyone is telling me I'm in denial.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - I'm so confused cuz I love a man who has been abusive with me and the last incident was yesterday when he tried grabbing me by my hair for trying to get out of his car. I broke this relationship off cuz I'm so tired of his bullshit and excuses on ...

All he ever did was break my heart...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I recently split up with my bf, I had only been with him for 3 months, and the last of which doesnt really count as I was ignored completely. However, the previous month, I was seeing him whilst he was still with his girlfriend. I thought that we ...

Should I still see him if they broke up? I need advice badly!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - i desperately need advice from anyone.. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago because I discovered from his mobile phone that he was having an LDR with a younger girl who he claims is much prettier than me. This killed me inside but i beg...

Does he still love me but trying to forget about me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - i am 15 year old, recently i met a boy and fall in love for first time but it is not a facination. after one month he said he cant do anything and he need a breakup i agreed and he just became only my just friend and if only a friend he should talk ...

How do I show him that I am meant for him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I'm so confused! Me and my boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 months broke up on the 18th. I was really crushed and still am to this day. It was so unexpected ;( He told me he wasn't ready to be with me because he was hurt too much before. I told him I was ...

HOW do I get rid of this abuser once and for all?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I need help on how to be strong and leave an abuser..An incident occured today where we were having an argument in his car. I was so fed up of hearing him say that he is going to move on and find him a new girl because he asked me a question whether ...

I can check his Facebook mail..Cant resist the temptation!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Hey To cut it short, my exboyfriends facebook account still logs me in and he definately doesnt know. its really hard not to check his emails!! does anyone have a suggestion for me not too do it? Thanks......

My world is crashing down on me... he's registered on a sex site but I'm am afraid to break up with him because of my financial situation

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I am devastated! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We have been having relationship/financial problems for sometime. I just lost my job and cannot maintain household without his income. I am 3 months behind on my ...

Who to pick? Do I split with my fiance and get with my best friend? Or do I stay with my fiance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

25 June 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiance for just over 6 and a half years now, we got engaged a year and a half ago, my whole family love him. we went through a rough patch a few monthes ago where my mum thought i was cheating on him with my best friend, but i ...