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writes:How do I get over my ex GF. I dumped her becuase shekept on being too overprotective and controlling. Anyway now she wants NOTHING and I mean NOTHING to do with me.Anyway I want to be her friend her being as stubborn as she is says no her excuse is "It will bring back memorys of us going out" I still want to be her friend but with her wanting me out of the picture I want to move on with my life and get her out of the picture becasue she wants nothing to do with me but part of me wants to be her friend. But she wants nothing to do with me. Could you suggest to me how to move on. As she was my first girlfriend I have never experienced anything about moving on before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): A boy did exactly the same thing to me. How can you expect her to be your friend, i think you are being quite selfish to want to be her friend to fill a void you have. You should respect her wishes and leave her be.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 She is moving on. She has to, because she wanted you and you dumped her, so can you imagine how she felt? Awful. And the only way for her to get over it was to cut all contact with you, because when she sees you or hears from you it brings back all her pain and upset.
So, I'm afraid, no, you can't keep her as a friend. She is cutting you off because it's the only way she can move forward and feel ok. She has to forget about you. As you pushed her away, you can't expect her to do what you want now, and keep you in her life just a bit - she won't do it.
So you have to forget about her, too. She is basically now also rejecting you, and it feels unpleasant, I know. It was far worse for her. You'll get over it. You're feeling mild emotional upset and annoyance. She probably felt overwhelming hurt and despair.
You should admire her that she has the strength to tell you she wants nothing to do with you - she is doing the only sensible thing. A lot of people can't do that, and end up feeling hurt and confused for much longer. A total break is the quickest to heal.
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