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female
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41-50,
*IKINAKS
writes:I am so angry with my boyfriend. He takes me out then drools over another lady looking straight past my face into hers. He has been making remarks at other ladies in front of me and I tried to brush it off, but this time it was too much. He says I am just too jealous. Am I being selfish by breaking up with him over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): embrace it - or leave him
try this - ''honey, when you ogle other women i feel like your comparing me to them. please dont do it anymore.''
wait a week - if it works, then introduce women yourself, in a non threatened way ''oh honey check her out, shes got a nice rack eh?''
if he feels the security you display by being laid back and yet apart of it , he could settle down
or im talking out of myass
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reader, identifiable  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 What the hell he must be pretty confident to think he can do that and keep you as a gf ... i wouldnt stand for it, he says your jealous or over exagerating but fact is your not , he clearly insensitive and you must do it back to him first! Loud and clear and if he dont get the message of ouch yh this hurts she correct, then you end it straight. So you are giving him a chance, btw why would you want a future who make you feel bad because of the simple fact he cant control his eyes with other girls (per his mouth). He should grow up ! No one wants that in their life so start again you always can! Goodluck
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 my bf was similar, he still is but i have asked him not to make those comments anymore. I know he talks like that around his friends and it drives me crazy, but i guess its guy talk, thats how they are. But if he isnt respecting what you want then no its not bad to break up over this. I would suggest having a serious talk first, maybe he doesnt know how much it hurts you. Good luck
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Is it being selfish to you?
Every reason is a reason to break-up with someone (when there's no reason, there's no break-up). I know a lady who divorce her husband because he wasn't getting the garbage out.
Silly? Yes it might seem that way for other people but we're not the one who's in that situation.
Is leaving someone who's making remarks about other woman silly? Yes it might seem that way for other people but we're not the one who's in that situation.
In your situation, I would probably be fine with it since I've been quite open to those things in the past. I was asking her opinion about boys we saw on the street like "What do you thing of the abs he as?" or "Does that guy seem attractive to you?" she was doing the same with me about girls.
It felt more like a little game than anything else.
I understand that some people can feel insecure about it though, it all depends on how you see yourself.
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reader, trtr  +, writes (29 June 2009):
not at all, you did the right thing; those guys never change and they'll always tell you you are too jealous.
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