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writes:Hi my situation is very complicated. I dated this girl for about a year and two months. I found out she was still talking to an old boyfriend and that she cheated on me. I thought she was the woman I was gonna marry, and even though she did me wrong and I can't stand her sight, I can't stop thinking about her and it makes me angry I can't quit doing it. what makes it worse is that she's one of my best friends cousin! When I started dating this girl, we made a pact that no matter what happened between me and his cousin, that our friendship wouldn't be compromised, and that she was a grown woman and he didn't care who she went out with. I was fine with this, but since I really wanna put this girl behind me, I don't know if we can hang without me thinking or asking him about her. I'm not in love with this girl, it's just the thought of her being with another man makes me very sad and powerless. I dont know what to call it, it just won't go away after 2 months when we broke up, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Look,
Move on mate. Never be dependant on anybody.
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reader, vba67 +, writes (29 June 2009):
Holikdad's advice is right, you will find another woman to fancy. Reading your story was just like deju vu for me. I thought I was reading about my life three years ago as I read your question. Believe me, the world will continue to go on and you will move on with your life (even if it doesn't feel like it now). Right now it is hard to think about anything else. You are probably listening to all the sad love songs about being hurt and wondering if she's even thinking about you or does she have any guilt for cheating on you? You're not going to get over this in one day or one week. It is going to take some time. Trying to talk to her will only prolong your hurt. It all depends on you getting back out there and living again, meeting new women and letting past stay in the past.Oh yeah! There's one thing you must do. Forgive her and move on. Hating her will keep an emotional link between you and your ex, a negative one at that. Good luck with your future and don't look back to the past!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): You should do what everyone does and avoid her/dont ask or talk about her, try to get over her first. If possible just tell your cousin that you need some time since you actually do...its much worse to hang out with your cousin and you are gonna end up asking about her...or you can tell make a pact with him to not tell you any info about his cousin no matter what you ask. He's your best friend and I think he is willing to help you move on. It'll be worse for you if you try to pretend that you are over her.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (29 June 2009):
It's called weakness, don't worry everyone has it. I've experienced it before and I doubt it'll be the last time.
Find someone else, there's nothing like getting over a broken relationship by finding a better, more attractive woman to be with.
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