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writes:Hey. I don’t really know where to start. About 8 months ago my girlfriend (of 2 years) broke up with me. We got into a rut and started to argue etc. Since we broke up it’s been clear we both have feelings for each other as we nearly got back together a few times. However it’s high likely we’ll never get back together. We are civil and friends and care for each other. Since the break we’ve both been briefly involved with other people, nothing heavy. However recently she has expressed interest in this guy, and so has he in her. I’m happy for her, but I told her could she not tell me as it hurts which she hasn’t, but sometimes slips up and forgets.The only place I’m completely happy and content is at college, and now I’ve finished. I’ll still see my college friends however it’s not the same. My mind wanders to my ex and I feel sadness where I want to just sit down and shut out the world. I’m ready to move on and be with someone else, I’m pretty certain of it. I’m just not over her 100%, and I don’t know how. I don’t want to come across as whiny and self centred I’m just in a place where I don’t know what to do. I’m 18 by the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Hi...... i have been in a similar place to you, i think many others have too. Where you compare everyone to your ex?....and still think of the times you had?... The best way to move on is to limit the contact you have with her, to keep the reminders at bay. I Know it sounds corny but time really is the most important thing - by reducing contact and with the passing of time, things DO get better. The people you have met since you broke up may not seem like they are anything compared to your ex, but keep going out and living your life and somebody who will rival her is bound to come into your life. Again, its just about time... Good Luck!
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