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writes:Why is it so f**king easy for guys to get over their ex-girlfriends!? My ex and I broke up seven months ago after a two year relationship and I'm still not over him! He tells me he has only about a 5% emotional connection to me now and that infuriates me because that makes me feel so pathetic!He's been able to have sex with like three other women after we broke up and I've been stuck at one (him). I don't know if that has anything to do with it but I still feel like my body "belongs" to him somehow. I know this is terrible on my heart and the fact that I might have put a damper on my sanity by still having sex with him about once every three weeks since we broke up.But I don't know how to stop! I still love him and I miss him like crazy and he tells me he misses me too and that it's possible we could get back together if I go to the same university as him.What do I do about this whole situation? Please help!
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reader, Theguynextdoor  +, writes (13 July 2009):
Just by the way.. It took me ages to get over my ex.. and that was only a shortish relationship. So its not all guys out there i promise. Go find yourself a keeper :) let him go
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reader, Manya +, writes (29 June 2009):
vba67's advice is excellent, and it's true that you shouldn't base your decision to go to a particular University on where your young man is going at this point.
I have read that men's brains are built a little differently -- along the lines that they will spread their sperm to procreate whereas women are made to nurture and their love thus lasts longer! Women of the seventies "free love"era paid dearly for their freedom, I feel because women should choose very carefully before beginning a relationship with a man.
Of course you still love this guy, especially if you are sleeping with him every three weeks. He sounds like he is "Playing the Field" and you are one of his flowers. If so, you should realize that you must have a lot to offer to be still one of his flowers -- But, that being said, wouldn't it be great to offer your bounty to someone who could reciprocate in kind?
If I were you, I would try to create some distance away from this fellow and
look around for someone else -- you may find someone
even better, which you clearly deserve!!
Be good to yourself, and love yourself!!
When Legally Blonde followed her man to Harvard Law, she ended up dumping the schmuck when he eventually looked her way, and finding her self esteem and a better life!!!
Good luck and keep in touch!
Love,
Manya
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reader, vba67 +, writes (28 June 2009):
Move on with your life. Sounds like you are fulfilling his need for lust along with three other women and that's it. Believe me, you will meet someone who will appreciate you more than him. And by the way, big mistake if you plan to attend the university where he's in attendance. Choose a college that will help you to established your career goals. If this university can help you, than by all means attend it. But do not choose a university because the boy you like attends it too, you're not thinking of yourself if you make this decision Sometimes, it takes a long time to get over someone, but when you do, you'll never know what attracted you to the person in the first place.Good Luck! There are many fish in the sea, someone else will come along sooner or later. And who knows, maybe later on in life the two of you will cross paths again, but this time the two of you will be much wiser. Just like the fisherman who lets the fish go because it it too small, only to catch it later (some years later) when it's larger.
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