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Archived questions from: November, 2019 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I sent an email to a whole group instead of just the teacher.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

30 November 2019 (F) - Hi Helping people. My issue is with school. A few weeks ago I asked to move a class a little earlier than usual as weren't going to have anything else on. I and some others wanted to finish early that day. 5 classmates thought we were going to...

I'm in a messy relationship with no romance.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

30 November 2019 (F) - I've been with my bf for 4 years. We have one child together and he is 5. Around the time I got pregnant, we were having issues and broke up. Shortly after, he got a new gf and they were together for about about a year and a half, all thru my pregn...

I think this girl was just using me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

29 November 2019 (M) - at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the ...

I don't want my MIL in the delivery room!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

29 November 2019 (F) - I've been with my husband for over a decade, we've been married for 7 years and have one child so far and one on the way. Over the years, my mother in law has made several disrespectful comments about my mom and some of my other family members. She ...

I cant stand up to my wife when it comes to money.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

29 November 2019 (M) - I don't know how to stand up to my wife when it comes to money. She literally spends a fortune on things and activities we just don't need to do and no matter how much I try to put money away for a rainy day, we always end up with nothing at the end ...

What do I do to get people to stop trying to ruin the new life I'm trying to build?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

28 November 2019 (F) - I'm 40 years old and just got out of prison after 10 years almost two years ago. I went straight into a halfway house where I followed the rules, went to AA (my drug of choice is alcohol although I've done other things before prison), got a job a ...

What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

26 November 2019 (F) - What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself? She and I see each other all the time because we're in the same homeschool group where our children go on field trips to the same places. Also, our children are in ...

Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

26 November 2019 (M) - Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity? I have lost a lot of achieved last few years which has led me to become a little quiet. I am trying to build myself up however I cannot accept negativity anymore. If anybody criticises me I can...

I can't tell if its love or lust.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

24 November 2019 (F) - I am a 25-year-old young pretty and successful female, for the last five years I can wholeheartedly say I think I’m in love with one of my friends. It all started one night at a mutual friends birthday party we got really drunk and made out. Ever ...

Rebound sex, should I go for it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

23 November 2019 (F) - Hi, I'm struggling to clearly explain this so for context here is a brief timeline 2008 - met my husband 2013 - married husband 2015 - started new training scheme - met load of people who became good friends and vague friends incl Alex 201...

Our friendship has got to the point I don't want to be her Maid of Honour.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

23 November 2019 (F) - So I’ve been friends with this girl all my life. We lived quite close when we was younger so we spent all of our childhood together. We was inseparable best friends, however as time went on we drifted. We still spoke and still do now, just not as ...

How do I get over this co-worker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

23 November 2019 (F) - I’m married (unhappily) and to cut a long story short I slept with someone I work in a team with. We had sex 4 times over the space of a year, last year. He is now my manager!! Before we had sex, we were very friendly. Now we barely speak. There are ...

How do I not offend people who are trying to help me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

22 November 2019 (F) - How do I not offend people who would like to help me? I will lose my job in two months – end of January. The firm I work for will go bankrupt due to some bad decisions my bosses have made, by their own admission. I will get a very small severan...

Is it childish of me to tell my mother about our arguments?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

22 November 2019 (F) - Hello agony aunts. I'm in my first serious relationship with a man. I've only dated a few guys before but it wasn't that serious and more like short term relationships. Since I'm taking things serious with this man and planning to get engaged,...

I'm tired of my 'bad boy' charade

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

22 November 2019 (M) - I used to be a bloke with low self confidence. I remember celebrating my 21st birthday still a virgin. Not been in a real relationship either. I had many close female friends, though I somehow friend zoned all of them. They kept telling me that I am ...

My wife doesn't want to reconcile so why does she care if I'm drinking or not?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

22 November 2019 (M) - My wife has moved out of our home because I drink alcohol. Since she moved, she had several times if I am drinking. She, does not want to reconcile. So, why does she keep asking if I am drinking when we talk by phone? Thank you for your answers....

I'm having weird sexual dreams about my inlaws.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

21 November 2019 (F) - I’m 30 married for 9 years to a great husband with a good family. My father died when I was 2 and went thru an extremely traumatizing, sexually and physically abusive child hood. Now that I really trust my in laws and am pretty happy, I find ...

The guy I am interested in lives with a homeless woman who does drugs and they used to have sex.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

20 November 2019 (F) - I recently made contact with a guy from my high school from years ago. We talked for about a week, mostly through text, and made plans to meet up over the holidays, when he dropped a bombshell, and I need help sorting through it. Basically, he told ...

I've been married three months and I am totally miserable!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

20 November 2019 (F) - Firstly, thanks for taking the time to read and respond.. I’m miserable, totally. Been married 3 months although we dated for 8 years. My husband sleeps on the floor when we fight. At first he claimed to have a bad back and generally prefer...

Is it ok to have secret savings?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

19 November 2019 (F) - I have some savings that my partner doesn’t know about. It was money that I saved up over many years and that I have set aside as an emergency fund, in case one of us loses our job, or gets sick, or we break up (I’m not planning to break up, but ...

S somebody who has suffered from major depression four times still entitled to hope for love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1780 days ago

19 November 2019 (M) - Well, the subject says it all ... that's basically the question I have. But I'll briefly give you some background. I'm willing to answer any questions and hoping for some dialogue, I don't expect any answers based on the short summary I give here. ...

Roommate took in a person who is way overstaying her welcome

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

17 November 2019 (F) - I moved out of the dorms last year because of shitty roommates and in with a gay guy I thought was a friend. E and I work full-time and attend school part-time. Other than him quitting jobs suddenly (he at least gets another one) and refusing to do ...

I'm not sure if I should trust this girl, or not!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

17 November 2019 (M) - Hey Aunts. I have recent gone on a few dates with someone who I met online. I was wondering when to remove my profile from the site, but she got there first and told me she had done so. Great I thought - best go and do the same quick. But as I ...

I met a guy on facebook, and even though he has a ring on his finger I cant stop thinking about him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

16 November 2019 (F) - Dear Cupid, A few months ago (~4-5), I saw a profile picture of a very handsome guy on Facebook. I opened the profile picture and it showed that we have about 30 mutual friends. So I befriended him. Since then, I liked his profile picture ...

I've realised my partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger who doesn't bath frequently enough.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

16 November 2019 (F) - Hey everyone what do you when you realise your partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger when I first met my partner he had a job his own flat and looked after himself that was 6 years ago fast forward to now he is a selfish scruffy low life who thinks of ...

Would you be furious if your partner came home with a dog without consulting you?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

15 November 2019 (F) - Can I ask a serious question - would you aunts be mad if your partner went and got a dog without consulting you first? Right now I am sat here absolutely raging! My partner went and got a dog last week and the thing just craps everywhere! We c...

What's wrong? Trying asexual dating but that also isn't working. What's wrong?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

14 November 2019 (F) - Hello. First of all, thank you for your mostly kind responses to my last post. I'm the lady who posted about being raised by my grandparents. (I did not write the title). After a long period of failed relationships (four with men one with a woman...

What can we do when his ex is lying so much but gets away with it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

14 November 2019 (F) - Hello. We are in a tricky situation at the moment and could do with some advice. Me and my husband have been together 9 years. I have 2 Step children. He broke up with ex 2 years before me. His ex is a true narcissist. She doesn’t have ...

His comments seem to imply that I'm not hot anymore

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

14 November 2019 (F) - What does it mean when a man says you must have been hot/ pretty when you were younger or asks if you used to look like some famous star . I’m trying hard not to be offended by his comments but they seem to imply he thinks I’m not hot anymore ? And ...

How soon is too soon to call?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1838 days ago

12 November 2019 (M) - This question is more for the female Aunts but i am always open to hear from the men as well. Ladies (and guys) do you still believe in the 3 day rule? I met a real pretty lady last night and she texted me her number before having to go home. I d...

Should I fade my manipulative friend out?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1839 days ago

12 November 2019 (F) - I have been "best friends" with a woman for over 25 years. I started to notice when the bill came at dinner, or anywhere we were, she'll begin to complain about how broke she is and I'd end up either paying the entire bill or some of her ...

If I decide to quit a church associated group, how do I do that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

10 November 2019 (M) - I joined the Knights of Columbus a few years ago, and I regret it. I still believe in my Catholic Faith and I still want to attend the Catholic mass every Sunday. I just no longer wish to belong to the Knights of Columbus. When I joined,...

I need help with online dating ettiquette!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1839 days ago

10 November 2019 (M) - Hey everyone. I was just wondering at what point when dating someone is it normal / the etiquette do you not chat with other people / ask for dates? I've been online dating for a while, but without much / any success. Had a second date recently, t...

My ex is a jealous, negative-minded selfish idiot in the relationship area, should I take him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

9 November 2019 (F) - I have a tricky situation that will probably receive mixed reactions based on whether you're a dog-lover or not. Basically - I broke up with my partner a few months back. We fought at first but eventually learnt to be civil. We don't have any k...

My boyfriend has a separate SIM card for his cell phone

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1842 days ago

9 November 2019 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and during all those months I noticed multiple times that he has an extra SIM card in his phone cover, but I didn't ask him why does he have another phone number, I gave it time and thought that he might ...

Why are straight guys upset when gay guys don't like them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

6 November 2019 (M) - Today I had a conversation with a guy who found out I'm gay. Him - It's fine with me, just don't come on to me. Me - Don't worry, you're not my type. Him - What do you mean I'm not your type? Me - I don't find you attractive. H...

How do I handle rejection?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

6 November 2019 (F) - i have often realised there are times i can think about someone a lot and I don't think this is a bad thing but in a way I want to stop myself or reduce the times I think about someone . I do feel I can become infatuated with someone, sometimes in a ...

Would you be scared to email someone you treated badly?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1843 days ago

5 November 2019 (F) - if you knew that you had treated someone very badly and they left you and changed their phone number, and they lived in a different country from you and so you asked a mutual friend to contact them by email and they more or less ignored that mutual ...

Should I return the call of my estranged aunt?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1848 days ago

3 November 2019 (F) - Hi All, I've been estranged from my father's family for over twelve years. It's a very long story but in short, after he and my grandmother died, there was a lot of anger, resentment and accusations. Because he and my mom were separated at the...

My husband is extremely self focused and highly sensitive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1849 days ago

3 November 2019 (F) - How do I help my husband whose overly sensitive (and this is an understatement!) when he gets stressed communicating with people? When he thinks that others do not react to his jokes or look away when he’s answering the question THEY asked or pr...

My husband likes watching other women and I like other men watching me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1848 days ago

3 November 2019 (F) - My husband uses porn he says to meet his need for visual variety . I on. He says porn is just his sexual kink he’s not doing anything wrong or breaking any marriage vow and it makes him feel good The other hand like to feel desired and like to ...

No one seems to like my daughter

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1847 days ago

2 November 2019 (F) - My 12-year-old daughter is constantly being rejected and I'm sick of it! When she was 6 month old I sent her to an in home sitter so I could actually get work done. (I'm a medical transcriptionist). I sent her w expressed milk, cloth diapers, and ...

He wants us to have a relationship after he buys his furniture

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1846 days ago

2 November 2019 (F) - Ive met this guy through his cousin, as he was coming from other province and being single, we met on the 27 November 2018. Everything was great.at that time he was staying with his lady cousin, but was forever complaining that she doesn't cook even ...