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writes:Ive met this guy through his cousin, as he was coming from other province and being single, we met on the 27 November 2018. Everything was great.at that time he was staying with his lady cousin, but was forever complaining that she doesn't cook even though he buys food, her kids uses his stuff without his permission. Then out of the blue without discussing anything with me then he moved in. I was afraid to tell him that im not sure of moving in with him cause it was still early and again he was miserable were he was staying Then after three months he started to undermine me, will compare me with his lady friend's on Facebook that are engineers and whatnot, at that time I'm cooking for him, making sure his taken care of. He would be moody for no apparent reason, he would not talk to me for days. I got Feb up then ended up chasing him out if my house.After four months of our separation he then contacted me telling me that I was the best thing that has ever happened to him, then we kept on chatting then I thought let me give it a try. According to him he said I must let him finish buying his place the furniture then he will focus on us when his done. The question I asked him was can't you multitask cause I don't understand how possible it is to tell someone that you are ready to give your relationship a second chance then again it must wait till you finish buying things on credit then paying them. I just thought the waiting part doesn't make sense cause it be a year or two for him to finish paying back. My question is should I let him go? When I asked him he said I'm pushing things.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 November 2019):
 Definitely let him go.
Honestly why would you even TALK to him after what he did to you? Just moving himself in and then undermining you and treating you badly...
Cut all contact and find a guy who is a DECENT man. This one isn't it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (3 November 2019):
 Why on earth do you want to go back to him? You've already had a taste of what life with him would be like and you didn't like it. Why would you want to go back and do it all again? Would you read the same book again and expect a different ending? Even when you two are not in a relationship, he is still calling all the shots and having everything his own way.
Of course he wants you back. Of course you were the best thing that ever happened to him. HOWEVER, that does NOT mean he deserves you. Find someone who appreciates the nice person you are, who does not run you down and make you feel inadequate. Can you not remember how he made you FEEL?
Sister, you need to tell him you've been there once, done that, didn't like it, have decided to move on. Wish him well and let some other poor hapless woman put up with is moods and his bad manners. YOU deserve better.
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