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writes:Dear Cupid, A few months ago (~4-5), I saw a profile picture of a very handsome guy on Facebook. I opened the profile picture and it showed that we have about 30 mutual friends. So I befriended him. Since then, I liked his profile picture :) I continually like and comment on his posts on FaceBook. He also responds to my comments on his page. Last Sunday, for the first time, I messaged him on Facebook messenger and we chatted well. He works abroad but told me he would be returning for a break and would like to meet me for a chat and wanted my phone number. He immediately gave me his mobile number. I was and still thrilled because just before he asked me I had already wanted to say that it would be nice for us to meet! So, happily, I said yes and gave him my mobile number. Although I told him I was taking a trip a trip and would not be there when he came, he said he would still be around. Since then, I can't stop thinking about him. Do you think he likes me or is it possible he wants to tell me to go away? (He has a finger ring). Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2019): I caution you to keep your feelings in-check! Falling for people based on their looks is superficial; and you're uncertain if he's married. If you fall for guys so easily; you might be tempted to ignore the fact, if it turns-out he's taken.
Take a chill-pill! Best you get a grip, girlfriend!
Besides, you don't exactly know why you like him! You haven't met him. Shouldn't you ask if he's married before meeting him? Odd you didn't ask before accepting an invitation to meet him!
I recommend you ask a friend, or check his status on his Facebook profile before you meet.
In the meantime, curb your enthusiasm. Never let-on how anxious you are over a guy, or you'll get played! He'll tag you for needy or desperate; and he'll turn-up the charm to take advantage of your crush! Players can be quite irresistible when they know you've got it for them! Don't come back here with a post that you fell for a married-man!!!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (17 November 2019):
 If you are friends on Facebook it should (I would presume) be easy to see if he is single or not.
If he is not single, my advice would be the cut it out and look elsewhere. It's not going to end well if the guy has a wife or fiance or gf. You are old enough to know that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2019): Do you want to be some married player's sex toy sweetheart? He is most likely happy in his marriage but likes variety (recreational sex) on the side to keep things exciting and to boost his ego. He would only be using you. He will never feel the way you do nor change his life for you. In the end, your emotional and mental health will be destroyed after he uses you and throws you away. Believe you me, once he gets sex and the thrill is gone, you will be back here in tears asking why he isn't contacting you anymore. That's because he never cared. And he will go on without you quite happily while you are on the floor trying to find the obliterated pieces of your heart. Save yourself the heartache and the LOSS of your SELF WORTH. Stop trying to fix your self esteem by thinking you're special because a married man who is with another woman shows interest in you. This married male would show interest in ANY woman who is willing to give up their standards, morals and self respect. These types of women are an easy target. The exact type married men prey on. You've got a vulnerability and feel this guy is going to rescue you. No, he will not. He will only make you worse in the end. My guess is you're at a low point in your life. And your judgment is clouded because you need to escape. I suggest dealing with yourself and the areas which are lacking. Make yourself stronger. Love yourself first. This man will never be your savior. He is the devil in disguise. Sadly I learned that lesson far too late. I hope you won't be like me. Please STOP talking to this SCUMBAG. You are playing right into his hands sweetie. I know all about the magnetic pull. That pull is the beginning of a soul destroying fantasy that ruins you from the inside out. But if you build up other areas in your life, you will find fulfilment elsewhere. I am only learning that now after my destruction. I hope you can do it before you go through the depth of emotional pain I have suffered having to let him go after 7 years. Harsh? Yes. But so is reality once it hits you in the face after your fantasy turns to dust. And all you're left with is your brokenness. Even more broken than before. Stay strong sweetie. You deserve better. Know your VALUE. XO
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 November 2019):
 It's possible he likes you, but your main concern should be finding out if he's married or in a relationship - not whether he likes you or not. If he's in a relationship, you need to cut contact, even if he wants to see you on the side.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (17 November 2019):
 Can I suggest that your priority should be finding out if he is in a relationship/married, not what his motives are for wanting to meet you? As you have mutual friends, this should be easy enough to do.
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