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Archived questions from: October, 2018 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I haven't heard from LDR boyfriend in 3 days

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2242 days ago

31 October 2018 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi ive been dealing with many stuff and been hurt many times to. but my point is october 28 was my last messge with my ldr boyfreind its been 3 days now and he hasn't respond to my messege at all i text hime 2 times saying hey i hope you are ok i love you.i love him i need him ... (101 words)

My married lover doesn't want me to go on trips by myself. Why doesn't he trust me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

31 October 2018 (F) age 41-50 - My married lover travels with his wife up to 3-5 times a year. The longest he is away is a month at a time. It's very difficult for me, even though I've chosen to place myself in this role. I feel resentful and left behind. They are natural emotions. And no less valid because ... (337 words)

Is he just a liar toying with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

31 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's the deal. I met a guy down here in texas because he we was here for work. Long story short we hung out all the time and he added me and my best friend on fb. After he left he told her that he really likes me, not to let me lose interest and that he was going to tell me ... (170 words)

People who were once a part of my life no longer miss me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

30 October 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello all. I am male 33 and married, and doing fairly well in life. I feel stuck in life, stuck in my past memories, people who were near to me once upon a time I miss them so much. I feel so lonely and lost all the time, as if the world has moved on and I am stuck in time. The ... (319 words)

Boyfriends drunken night may be the end of us but I want to make things work. How?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

30 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid Me and my bf of three years had a bad fight tonight and he is not talking to me, i stay in his house. He is terribly druck after fight , fell in the bathroom, refused to take my help asked me to get out. I did leave him there, didn't know what else to do. I'm scare... (157 words)

I'm unable to move on after being rejected by the girl I love

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

30 October 2018 (M)

age 18-21 - In my current state I feel lonely, depressed and unable to get over recent rejection with the *only* person I've had feelings for so far. To give more insight, I'm 15 years old and far from being attractive. In fact, I've not been favoured once by someone before. I've ess... (512 words)

He doesn't believe that I am over my ex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

29 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - So I met this guy via a dating app 9 months ago, we messaged for about 2 months but he was wary to meet up as he was still not entirely over his last relationship. I wanted to meet him but in the end he freaked out, back tracked and asked me not to message anymore. We then bum... (266 words)

Why did my boyfriend treat me so badly and not care that he accidentally hurt me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2241 days ago

29 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend was getting ready to go to work today and we were talking to each other. We both moved in closer at the same time and the brim of his hat hit my nose really hard pushing it backwards and my nose made a cracking noise. I fell back in pain and said, " owww my ... (306 words)

I don't want to make things easy for my ex. Do I move out because he wants me to?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2239 days ago

29 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi This is gonna be long post . I am 23.lets call him A . We met in highschool and offically started dating. His parents and extended family approved of us and things were good. We were both young and immature .We had all ups and downin the relationship and end of the day i... (333 words)

I'm in a messed up situation with a guy from another country

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

29 October 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey dear agony aunts I met this guy one month ago (B) who got my number from a friend of mine. We started talking casually. B doesn’t live in our country and he told me he while we were just talking that he had a girlfriend in a different country than his. They’ve been together... (538 words)

A friend is interested in a poly-amorous relationship but how do I tell my wife?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

29 October 2018 (M)

age - I and my wife have been married for 40 years and our love for each other is as solid now as it ever has been. Our sex life up until 8 years ago was very satisfying. Eight years ago my wife sustained an injury which has left her house bound. She has a great deal of trouble and ... (342 words)

I need your thoughts on how to sort this situation.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2244 days ago

28 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Recently with the past 2 months, my boyfriend of nine years and I ended our relationship. Our relationship had it’s good points, but overall was very toxic and tumultuous. He has a pre-teen daughter and myself an 11-year-old son. He’s been my son’s guardian and dad since we ... (698 words)

During a break I went to work on my flaws but he never took responsibility of his. Now hes forcing his way back into my life. What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

28 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I of 2 years went on a 6 week break after many rows. This was mainly due to my insecurity issues, which caused many arguments leading to the break. During the break I wanted to make a huge change in my life and went to see counselors to help sort my life out, ... (477 words)

He’s a selfish date, do I get rid or give him one last chance?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2242 days ago

28 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Why am i such an idiot. i arranged a date with a friend of mine we decided to give it a go. He messaged me to say he was home and that i can go round so i got a taxi to his and knocked on his door a few times and he didnt answer. It was late dark and really freezing cold out. ... (317 words)

How can I make her my girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2221 days ago

28 October 2018 (M)

age 26-29 - There is this girl I work with and I really, really like her. Her and I both started working together at the same time and she has been in 2 relationships that hadn't ended well. She knows I like her and care a lot about her, but she keeps saying that she doesn't feel the same ... (111 words)

Lover wants to stay with his children for now

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

28 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - My lover cannot live with me just yet because he still wants to live with his children who are 21 and 19.....He said they still need him .... He doesn’t love his wife... they share no interests as a couple, just stayed married for their kids sake... He said he would miss them ... (96 words)

I'm hurt, confused, angry and betrayed.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2240 days ago

28 October 2018 (M)

age 22-25 - So Last night I texted my gf and asked her how it started and she said that they met at a mutual friends house and he went up to her and they started talking about regulsr shit at first. Eventually they started chatting over whats app and FB .They became friends and th... (470 words)

She said no. Should I keep trying?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2244 days ago

27 October 2018 (M)

age 18-21 - So, I've liked somebody for a long time (2-3 years) and recently, a couple of weeks ago I decided to tell them how I felt. I've been friends with her since we first met and everybody I know was certain she was into me as well. Unfortunately I was turned down. It's been a while ... (183 words)

Has anyone else given up a fairly long-term, comfortable relationship for something new and exciting with so much in common and a strong sexual attraction?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2242 days ago

27 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have just passed 3 years together. We have a great life together: we laugh a lot, we support each other, we cook, we travel, we have many of the same interests and tastes. I know he loves me and I love him too, but it's always been a very comfortable love, as ... (457 words)

Why are these people at my gym being so weird? Do you think the guy likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2243 days ago

26 October 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - For the past few months, a group of people who I see at the gym regularly have started paying attention to me. I have been going there for 3 years and have seen them throughout those 3 years, and they have never noticed me until now, which is strange to me since surely they ... (200 words)

I’m excited at the concept of an open relationship but I’m not really happy with the current situation.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2223 days ago

26 October 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend of 6 years is studying abroad for a year (since mid-September). We’re fairly committed to each other so we are trying to do long distance. We are also fairly sexual people but have only ever really been with each other. We are also both curious about being with ... (323 words)

I can't give either of them up but I know I need to in the long term.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2245 days ago

25 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a relationship with a great man. We have our ups and downs as do any couple but he is undoubtably who I want to be with and we are on the whole very happy. However. I have been having a fling/relationship - call or what you will, with someone else. It has been going o... (303 words)

We met online I'm 18 he's 34. Is it wrong that I want to be with him?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2244 days ago

25 October 2018 (F)

age 22-25 - I just want opinions. I have known a man for over 3 months now. We met online, we Skype regularly, he's amazing. We talk everyday. He lives 2 hours away from me.The only thing is he is 34 and I am 18. I want to be with him so bad. Is this wrong ? He makes me feel loved... (65 words)

I think my bf is bored with me and I'm feeling insecure about sex

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2242 days ago

25 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - So lately I’ve been feeling insecure about sex. Me and my bf had an argument that he was following strippers on Instagram. He ended up deleting it. I told him that it made me feel disrespected and insecure. He said that he thought about why he followed them and it’s because ... (228 words)

After making him my facebook friend he held my wrist.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2237 days ago

25 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I just made a new friend via Facebook on Sunday. I sent him a quick text and he read it but replied the next day being Monday morning. The same day (Monday) I saw him as I was walking in the evening. It was dark but he recognized me. He was walking with a friend and ... (136 words)

I wont to move across country and leave this life behind, but worry if I am doing the right thing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2247 days ago

24 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I move across the country? I have grown up in New York - originally born in Europe but immigrate here when I was 9. I am 33 now single female and for my education oout if the way and currently working 89 hours a week to pay off my debt/loans and start from the bottom. ... (471 words)

Men never notice me, it makes me feel bad.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2247 days ago

24 October 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 23 and I never get hit on, catcalled, approached, or asked out. I've never even had a boyfriend before. My friends seem to get hit on and catcalled and it starts making me feel like I am unattractive. I never thought I was ugly but not getting male attention has really ... (222 words)

I cannot tollerate my ex husband so why do I feel angry and rejected?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2247 days ago

24 October 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - I absolutely know that I cannot stay with my husband. We are near divorce and there are things I cannot tolerate about him. However, I still ache, I still miss the good stuff....and honestly word of his new relationship is killing me. I have emotions festering that I did not ... (111 words)

I think my husband is deliberately making himself unnatractive to me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2248 days ago

24 October 2018 (F)

age - My husband never showers or brushes his teeth when he is home with me , even if it’s a whole week . We’ve been married less than two years. The last time we had sex was three months ago , he says he’s tired from working but watches porn ( sometimes gay porn )and masterbates ... (94 words)

My mother's controlling attitude has put a huge strain on my marriage and I was too much of a coward to deal with her. What do I do now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2248 days ago

23 October 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - I dated my wife for 5 years, now we are happily married for 6 years with 4kids. My mother was ok with her the first 2 years of us being together but after that she hated my wife for no reason. My mother became jealous of our relationship then she started to bully my wife. I ... (312 words)

I'm a finance director at a mid-size company but I’m singled out at the very bottom of the website. Should I bring it up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2246 days ago

23 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Here is my silly question! I’m a finance director at a mid size company and my bio just got added to the companies website. The team are ranked by the title but I’m singled out at the very bottom of the page. I don’t know if it sounds stupid and childish if I mention it? And if ... (84 words)

After years of putting up with my wife's drunken behavior, she gets sober and 6 months later she is getting righteous on me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2248 days ago

23 October 2018 (M)

age 51-59 - I first met my wife in college. I drank once in a blue moon, but not really. If was before I met her, but she told me she was a binge drinker who was hospitalized because she threw up blood from an ulcer after a lot of drinking. When we dated we sort of had a compromi... (564 words)

Does introducing a girl to your family mean anything special?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2248 days ago

23 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - We have been dating for 7 months. I am 32 and his age is 41 years old. During the 7 months, he said he does not introducr everone to his fanily. He only introduces people are special for him. After 7 months, he said he wants to have a future with me and thinking about long-term ... (171 words)

How can I talk to someone that doesn't listen to anything I have to say?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

22 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello and thank you for your opinions in advance My husband and I have been together for two years. When we were in a relationship he was extremely loving, expressive, a real sweetheart which didnt take me long to fall hard for him. For the first 9 months it was beautiful... (301 words)

My lesbian partner seems too close to my friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

22 October 2018 (F)

age 22-25 - Hello mates :) I've been in a relationship with a lesbian. We're bestfriends and turns into lovers. 2 months of love :) But mates, I start to wonder why she's way too close with my girl bestfriends and heck they look so sweet :( I'm pretty jealous but I kept it lowkey not ... (138 words)

Should I take this job I really need even though I’m over-qualified?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2247 days ago

22 October 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been offered a lecturing job which I really need - I already have 2 other jobs, but since splitting from my ex, this isn't quite enough for me to live on. The job that was offered would have been permanent ie.a permanent contract - but was for one day a week. Howev... (498 words)

I need emotional support which my husband can't give me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

21 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone.. its been months since my last post here. I had my 2 weeks old son now after long labor and he is perfect. Im the one who posted about trouble with my husband and mother in law. Things are not getting better. Im still living in my in laws house and my husband i... (807 words)

I have a question about porn.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2248 days ago

21 October 2018 (M)

age 22-25 - I have a question about porn. My grandparents are pretty strict and almost never leave the house. Well, they do but Grandma works part time and Grandpa is retired and is actually a Deacon but they are never gone at the same time unless I'm in school, which sucks. I have no time ... (206 words)

My LDR guy ignores and hurts me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

21 October 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - We are certainly not young in age: I'm 45 and my partner is 61 years old but both are new in LDR world. 2 years ago my partner has lived and worked in different country and we have been apart since then. He is workaholic. As a result he focuses on his work very much and he... (210 words)

I find myself wanting more but he appears lacklustre!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

21 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - I’m seeing someone new and we’ve been dating almost a month. In that time Ive seen him about 6 or 7 times. Real dates. Dinner or movies etc. He is great about showing up and doing fun stuff I don’t feel like he’s just looking for a physical relationship. We’ve made out etc but ... (314 words)

He didn't disclose his real age. Am I overreacting?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2249 days ago

21 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy several months ago, when we were taking an evening class together. I was too shy to talk to anyone for a while, but then one day he and I found we took the same route home after class. We got talking. I mentioned I'd just had my 25th birthday, and asked him how old ... (509 words)

Five years on and he is still accusing me of cheating!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2249 days ago

20 October 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - How can I get my partner to trust me? We've been together 5 years, I've NEVER done anything that's remotely disloyal or unfaithful. When we met I had a few male friends, I'm now not allowed to speak to any of them despite the fact that all I've ever had with these guys is fr... (353 words)

When discussing sexual history, do handjobs count as sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2252 days ago

20 October 2018 (?) age 41-50 - When discussing sexual history should people you didn't have sex with but gave handjobs to count? I know to count oral and vaginal ( I never had anal.) but do handjobs you've given typically go into that count?... (38 words)

I went out of my way to make my friend feel special on his birthday but he didn't do anything for me on mine

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2250 days ago

20 October 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - It’s really bugging me that I spent my birthday alone. When my best friend has his birthday, I planned dinner, made sure all his friends were there. I personally took them, paid for him etc. We had a great time. Recently it was my birthday last week and I did not plan ... (286 words)

Online dating but he's much shorter than me and we've never met. I don't know where this is going

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2252 days ago

20 October 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so basically I met this guy on a dating app. We really hit it off and I don’ usually hit it off with guys. I usually get bored or they annoy me. I honestly don’t know how to explain it any other way. Anyways. I met this guy. He’s 29 and I’m 26 and he too doesn’t really d... (326 words)

How do I change my desperate tendencies regarding men?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2141 days ago

19 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - I have realized that when I get into any relationship my main goal is to win the over - and close the deal. This is all mentally obviously I never reveal my intentions out loud but with my bf two years ago he approached me asked me out etc and we started dating and I ignored he ... (330 words)

Should I fly 4,000 miles to go see my ex? Would it be cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2251 days ago

19 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - So... we’ve broken up for 5 years after an incident and subsequently I moved home to my home country. Contact was lost eventually as we were sick of crying over the phone. Recently, I thought I saw him whilst on vacation and sent him a text. He replied... and I just found ou... (210 words)

How do I move forward and stop letting his coworker get to me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2253 days ago

19 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - So my husband has a female coworker and their work relationship has made me uncomfortable. More so because of the actions of my husband. He has lied to me numerous times and all lies have been associated with her. While this was happening, I was going through some pretty rough ... (286 words)

Can I just turn off some thoughts?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2251 days ago

19 October 2018 (M)

age 26-29 - I have very strong romantic feelings for my cousin and I know its wrong even if she is my step cousin I know its wrong. The problem is I suspect she feels the same way. She plays with her hair when she speaks to me, tries to get closer to me when sitting down or walking ... (132 words)

How do I stop being so socially awkward and silly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2251 days ago

19 October 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - I've recently started experiencing terrible anxiety and it's really effecting the way I am in work. I was wondering if anybody had any tips to help deal with day to day life. I have an issue with looking clean and tidy. I have a bath before work and then one when I get h... (281 words)