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writes:I have a question about porn. My grandparents are pretty strict and almost never leave the house. Well, they do but Grandma works part time and Grandpa is retired and is actually a Deacon but they are never gone at the same time unless I'm in school, which sucks. I have no time alone.Anyway, I can't have a computer or tablet in my room or a TV or music or do my homework in there so it's impossible to look at anything if I need to release. The rare chance I get, I use something like YouTube but isn't to avoid adds that will tell on me, erase history and all that.But how do I know these people are 18+? They're all regular people who can easily get a throwaway phone like I have, set up any email address and profile they want and lie about being old enough. I don't want to get in trouble if it turns out a girl is under 18. I just turned 18 this fall.And don't tell me to use the shower because I only get five minutes before they turn the water ice cold. Can you help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2018): "Get a job, move out and watch what you want."
^^THIS!
Or, see if you can get financial aid and go live at a college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2018): Of course your elders have no right to deprive you of having electronic devices in your room and wonder how can they do that in this time and age unless they are members of a strict religious cult or something. Having said that I however honestly don't encourage you to seek porn and sex magazines and books as substitude to the real thing in life. believe me that can affect very badly your brain and your ability to make friends with girls in the future and will affect the developement of your personality and maturity and hamper your success at work because you will find difficulty in interacting with the others. l suggest you should have a hobby that you immencely enjoy doing and have a girl friend. Only I hope your elders don't object to having a girlfriend too.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (22 October 2018):
 There's nothing wrong with wanting help with your urges. Please don't ever think there is. The urges at your age can be annoying and you do need to relieve the stress.
If your 18, you can buy a magazine and hide it in your room. Penthouse has fun letters that should help you out there. Hustler is also good. Keep the number that you won low. I have a 3 mag rule. ie I throw one out if I buy another. That way I can easily hide it.
You could also look at getting a fleshlight. Its pretty close to what a women feels like, but its kinda messy. Look it up though when you have free time.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2018): Why would your grandparents turn-off the hot water to the shower? That's weird! Creepy!!! How do they know what you're doing in your own room with the door locked?
You don't need porn. In fact, the less you use it, the better off you are.
Use your imagination, it's quite vivid at your age.
Porn is designed to reach a certain sector of your brain to create addiction. Every kind of industry now hires marketing experts, psychologists, and scientists to help them to figure out how to manipulate your thinking; and how to make you crave, buy, or horde things.
You get mentally-programmed to want to use it more and more. Until you see little to no use for a loving and intimate relationship with a real female. You may become emotionally desensitized; and too hooked on self-pleasure through masturbation. You'll have a girlfriend, or wife; but you'll seek sexual-gratification from porn instead. It's habit-forming.
Watching a little here and there doesn't hurt; but it's no longer marketed that way. There are sites offering an infinite selection of fetishes and themes to wet the sensual-appetite; and appeal to the male need for sexual-variety. It's intent is to appeal to the darker-side of you.
So be warned!
You're not warned by a disclaimer like gambling; because you're not supposed to know that. It's meant to make money for the porn industry; and they don't care about your mental-health and psychological-development. It's about money! They depend on lust, deviance, and perversion to make billions of dollars! They satisfy/saturate our carnal needs!
Get a job, get into college; then get a better job, and move out on your own. Work on establishing and maintaining meaningful relationships with young women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2018): Sadly, whilst living with them, in their house, they make the rules.
Get a job, move out and watch what you want.
And legit porn has those little notices on the bottom stating that everyone involved was 18 or older at the time of filming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2018): So many people live without porn. Time to learn how to use your imagination and you can use all the porn you want when you live alone. Porn isn't a necessity and warps how people think real sex will/should be.
Your grandparents are being pretty controlling but, at the same time, it's clear you're vulnerable to being manipulated by erotic stuff online, just by the porn desperation here.
Please don't get defensive, OP, just understand that you can easily masturbate without porn and it's better for you in the long run.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (22 October 2018):
 There are bigger problems in the world, and I imagine in your life, than not being able to ruin your future sex life with porn. I AM anti-porn so my advice is biased. I agree that you should learn to use your imagination. It is much healthier.
My last two relationships have been ruined/extremely trying because of porn use.
You do not need to rely on porn.
It also sounds like your grandparents don't live in the modern world and they're bringing you up the way they brought up their own children. It feels odd to me that you're not allowed any technology in your room. Ultimately I think they're doing you a favour.If it's a massive issue start saving to move out!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 October 2018):
 Why can't you use your imagination?
You really think porn is that vital to masturbation?
It's NOT going to teach you how to have sex, it's not going to make you a better lover, all it is, is a moneymaker.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
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