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writes:I have very strong romantic feelings for my cousin and I know its wrong even if she is my step cousin I know its wrong. The problem is I suspect she feels the same way. She plays with her hair when she speaks to me, tries to get closer to me when sitting down or walking outside, she winks at me when no one is looking, has recently started to hug me randomly, that sort of behaviour. I have tried to forget the feelings or push them out of my mind but its been over a year and the feelings wont fade if anything they have gotten stronger.What do I do? Should I see if she feels thee same way?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (22 October 2018):
Great answer by YoucannotbeSerious. My uncle's niece did this to me a lot when we were teens, because she knew I had a crush on her when we were kids. She was just trying out her sexuality, and I was the perfect target.
Not that she didn't want to, because she did, but she got a lot of enjoyment out of teasing me about it. Don't worry, she only brings it up every few Christmas dinners to cause a total ruckus at the dinner table. We're actually really close friends now, as she has a great sense of humor, and almost got together when both of us were single in our later years. But I'm glad we didn't as she would have crushed me. LOL.
Now as for you, the fact that it's your step cousin would be perfectly fine, if not beneficial, as the trust is already there. If you like each other, there is nothing wrong with being together. But I agree with Youcannot, as she could just feel very safe with you, knowing that you have put the barrier of dating up there yourself. Maybe she's a little bit unhappy you're not going for it, and is trying to give you some incentive. If you know she's single, just pick a good time when you're alone and not rushed and simply ask her "You want to hangout sometime" or something like that. She'll figure out what you mean, without it being awkward, and you should know from there.
Hope this helps
Good luck.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (21 October 2018):
 This is the sort of thing that blows up in your face and people remind you of 20 years later.
Just saying. Adult works, try it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (20 October 2018):
 The only problem I foresee is that some family members may find this a bit "too close". HOWEVER, that is THEIR problem. There is nothing legally to stop you two having a relationship, if that is what you both want.
Just a cautionary note: be careful that she is not toying with you because she feels it is a "safe" thing to do because, like you, she thinks nothing can happen, especially if she is a few years younger than you. Girls often "practice" flirting etc with family members before "doing it properly".
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2018): Step-cousin? That's not a blood-relative! It's cool if she's up for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2018): If you are not blood related I dont see any problem in your relationship.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (20 October 2018):
 I cant see the problem mate. You guys are not even related. If you dig each other - go for it! If anyone gives you shit about it- point that out
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