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writes:Okay so basically I met this guy on a dating app. We really hit it off and I don’ usually hit it off with guys. I usually get bored or they annoy me. I honestly don’t know how to explain it any other way. Anyways. I met this guy. He’s 29 and I’m 26 and he too doesn’t really do the whole dating thing either. And behold we Connect. We text constantly. Talk on the phone not so much. Send snapchats of funny photos to each other and all in all we can be ourself with each other. Now when I started to talk to him I didn’t really look at his profile and after a month of this I did and I found out he’s 4’11. I’m 5’6 and this is the first time in my life I wished I was short. And I’m not gonna lie. It does bother me a little bit. But after awhile I’ve gotten more over it, but it does bother me still. I wish it didn’t. But it does. I also make sure not to do any short jokes when we talk because I don’t want to offend him. And I love to joke and laugh with him. Heck he likes to tell me that I’m mean. I apologize I’m talking a lot without getting to the point. Anyways we’ve been talking to each other since March. It’s now October and still going strong and we’ve never approached the subject of meeting each other. We’ve each done hints, but neither have taken the bait. I honestly think we are both scared, but it feels really right when I talk to him. We have confessed that we have feelings for each other, but we’ve both been hurt and basically changed the subject the next message. Basically I want to know someone’s opinion. I’m a tad lost. And once again I apologize for the long rant. :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 October 2018):
 I have to agree, regardless of his height, DO YOU want to meet him or not?
You might meet up and PERSONALITY WISE you are not a good fit. And you might be a GREAT fit.
Meeting up doesn't mean you now HAVE to date him. It's ALWAYS good to see how you get on in person. It's not so hard to be charming over text and funny pictures but when you actually have to SIT across and TALK to someone... that can be a whole other ball game.
You haven't met him but claim to have "feelings"... so GO MEET up and see if you are wasting your time with this text buddy of yours or if he really is a good match!
Instead what do you do? Focus on his height?
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reader, N91  +, writes (21 October 2018):
 Well do you want to meet him or not?
If yes, do so, if not then stop wasting each other’s time. You like his personality but you’re worried what other people will think of the guys height. You have to decide whether or not it’s a deal breaker for you.
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reader, MeShell +, writes (21 October 2018):
MeShell is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your quick response! But we did talk about it a few times and after about two months he added me on Facebook. And I like you maybe thought it may be a typo because he was joking how he made his dating profile while drunk, but no. He really is 4’11.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (21 October 2018):
 Are you sure it is not just a simple typo on his profile and that he meant to put 5'11? I ask this as, if he really is only 4'11, I would have expected him to mention something about his height while you were chatting. Perhaps he has even put it as a joke?
Does he have a Facebook or other social media account? Have you tried looking him up to see if you can see nay photographs of him to check out this profile information?
If he really is only the height he states on his profile, then he will probably be used to going out with girls taller than him. You two need to TALK about this BEFORE you meet.
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