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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

We're always fighting over the chores!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5801 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a young mother of a3 month old baby and my boyfreind and I always fight now over everything but mostly chores. He runs away to his parents house for a couple days and leaves me here to take care of her. Than he says he wants to work things out and only comes home for a ... (199 words)

I cannot take my husband any more. I am trying, but it gets harder every day.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5787 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I cannot take my husband any more. I am trying, but it gets harder every day. He works between 50 and 60 hours a week, which I understand and respect. Although I have been unemployed for about 2 months, I have, throughout or 14 year marriage, worked both full time (40+ ... (359 words)

Bullied in college, what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - recently in college a girl has began bullying me, making comments about things i have posted on myspace and saying awful things about me i had talked to her a couple of times before and we seemed to get on quite well but now shes just attacking me every chance she gets for... (82 words)

Our first year anniversary and she went back to work! I'm so angry at this.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, my girlfriend and I just had our first year anniversary, before that she was in Japan for three weeks and I had to make the plans for our first year which I did even though I had exams on. 2 days before our first year she got a call to come into work and she accepted! So on ... (88 words)

Sex and regrets

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, i am a roman catholic. I have been with my boyfriend for about 1 year, 2 and a half months. And today, yes, we had sex. (He is also roman catholic) And now im feeling guilty :/ and a bit .. confused. I always told my self i would wait and now .. iv just gone and done... (165 words)

Too old for sport!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) age 41-50 - Is being 35 years old too old for sport because I think I am too old for sport because I'm not as young as I used to be...... (28 words)

In love with my boyfriend and my best friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4189 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys...I don't really know what to do...yet sometimes it seems so obvious... I've had this boyfriend for almost 3 years (we'll call him Rob for this)...he himself broke up with me after a year and 5 months..then we got back together...i could deal with it...then a year lat... (379 words)

My partner is a kind hearted compulsive liar!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married for 8 years to a good hearted guy with a compulsive lying problem. He has lied about everything, his age, his interests, his credit card debt, his salary, his taking care of errands, his losing something, even to hiding a letter my sister wrote me because he ... (273 words)

How can I be as hot as a porn star?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5773 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) age 30-35 - How can I be as hot as a porn star? I'm really adventurous in bed, but how can I be really hot? Equally hot as a porn star? I'm not trying to make my bf stop watching (he's not addicted and he's offered to stop, but I don't want to control him). But I want to know what can ... (283 words)

My boyfriend's penis smells!!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay this is really embarrassing but I have a sex problem. I've been going out with my man for close to four years and the sex is good, when we do have it. I want to please him and stuff, I love to give oral sex and have been told I'm very very good at it, thing is, god this is ... (182 words)

I'm scared shitless in case I don't come up to her standards re sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (?) age 30-35 - Ok this is the problem I'm in, I've been with a girl for 1 year since I was 15. Well now I'm 16 and gonna join the army etc. Well my girlfriend wants to take our relationship up to he next level by having intercourse. I've done the minor stuff with her but might be stupid to ... (104 words)

What are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. After he had cheated on me that ... (176 words)

What would YOU have done???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I was sitting in homeroom and this girl was talking to my homeroom teacher at his desk. Suddenly, she dropped her backpack, ran to the garbage can, and started throwing up. No joke! It was a very strange start to my day (and quite disgusting). When she was done, she tried to ... (111 words)

Explicit!! Guys: how much do you notice when a girl clenches her abs really hard during sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5801 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I can never tell the difference when I do kegels during intercourse, but I notice a TREMENDOUS difference when I clench my abs as hard as I can. There is a huge increase in sensitivity and pleasure for me, the female. So, I spend 60%+ of my time with my abs clenched, taking a ... (171 words)

Please help, I'm so sick of being messed around by this guy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. Im trying to figure out something with this guy I've been sort of on and off with for a while, a good few years to be exact. I dunno if anyone can help me but I'm so confused. See, I've been hanging out with this guy, lets call him Jack, and we're just friends. But a couple... (374 words)

Dysfunctional Friendship/Romance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I live with my best friend in the whole world, but in the past we were a bit more than friends. I regret it now, but we've slept together many times - but it never felt like just sex, it was always really... loving. I started to fall in love with him, and felt he was feeling ... (350 words)

Am I her shameful secret?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I have been seeing a girl for around four months. She works with me, but not closely. At work we always take breaks together and mostly have lunch together. We sort of started to see each other outside of work, we have slept together, and talk every day. We send lit... (233 words)

Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5401 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thing quite traditionally. I... (297 words)

We're very close and act like a couple but he has a girlfriend...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - So, me and a guy are very close. But the thing is he has a g/f for about 2 years. We both know each other for about a year and a half. Me and him talk every day, and do everything as a couple. We are practially like a couple, but he has a g/f. When the topic of "us" and "what ... (84 words)

Too much bitch!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5800 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife and I have a normal relationship. We get along and we get on each others' nerves from time-to-time. Usually - again just recently - my wife starts getting REALLY bitchy with me. Not PMS related - maybe stress? In any event, I try to be supportive for a time period, ... (111 words)

I am looking for hair extensions.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I've been trying to look for hair extensions in the UK but I can't find any. I live in London now I was wondering if anyone knows where I could get them from? I want clip on hair extensions and how much would they be? Many people have said for say 16 inches it would be ... (69 words)

I feel like sometimes I am more of a annoyance than a friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex and I were together for 5 years and split up for 3. We were best friends going into the relationship. Now it's definitely not the same. I've moved on and so has he. Which we both are totally comfortable with. He always says he wants to hang out and when I try he never ... (143 words)

I always end up giving my friend oral sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4989 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I really need some help. For the past year there is this guy that I used to work with. When working together we would run off after work and fool around. Now that I don't work there any more we still talk and I'll go see him on his lunch hour and I always end up giving him ... (97 words)

I am very confused at the moment, I seem to lack any kind of emotion...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age - Hi, I am very confused at the moment, I seem to lack any kind of emotion, I have completely gone off sex (with my wife only) I feel a great urge to have sex in massage parlours, on sex chat lines and I seem to want to live out fantasies of the woman dominating me sexually, I ... (91 words)

I'm much better looking than she is, why did he dump me for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya I still have contact with my ex bf, we speak everyday and see eachother still, Anyway basically he tells me about all these girls hes been sleeping with and how this one girl he sleept with her 7 times in one nite, then again, the other nite twice, he says now she is t... (298 words)

Will I bleed the first time we have sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I want to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I am scared I'm going to bleed. He has fingered me 2 times, and I use my fingers when I masturbate too. I haven't seen any blood yet. Will I bleed the first time we have sex?... (50 words)

Infections in having anal sex???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5801 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Today I lost my anal virginity to my boyfriend of 7 months but what I didn't actually know [until today] was that you can't use the same condom/finger/whatever in the anus and vagina.. Is there a chance I could get some sort of infection??? and if so, what sort and how can you ... (67 words)

Irish catholic?????

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy described himself once as "Irish catholic." obviously, this means he's Irish, but does it mean he's also of the catholic religion? Sorry, this is probably a stupid question.... (30 words)

I was planning on giving my boyfriend a saucy striptease of some kind as a little surprise for valentine's day.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiyaaa :) As we all know, valentines day is coming up and I was planning on giving my boyfriend a saucy striptease of some kind as a little surprise. I was hoping to get some tips and stuff - as I've never given a strip off the tease variety before. I've got the ... (107 words)

I feel so lost in life...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5800 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or anything like that, bc it invo... (317 words)

How should I prepare for my first, real high school kiss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5788 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I had my first kiss a while ago, and it was barely anything. just a peck, so I have virtually no experience. How should I prepare for my first, real high school kiss (tongue, etc.)? I don't want to be bad at it, you know?... (45 words)

I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi. I have never gotten what I wanted in terms of love. I've always jumped for the stars, but landed even harder for it. I continually go for the girl who is my dream, rather than reality. I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?... (52 words)

How can I experience sex for the first time without thinking about the pain???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5784 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and we're both really wanting to have sex but I'm always so scared to. I'll decide that I really want to try and then when it comes down to it I get so scared about the pain that I'm getting ready to experience and I ... (76 words)

Seeing Michael... need advice.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5793 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing Michael for two years. Things were good.. we had a huge fall out and were apart for a few months, because he had told me that he didn't want to be in a relationship, etc., we talked here and there... then he pursued me again and told me that he just didn't ... (113 words)

Should I assume its never going to happen, or should I wait a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've had an emontional relationship with a guy at work for nearly a year. We've never been too physical with each other because I was married and he had a gf. We've been good friends for almost tow years. But within the last year things have been more than friends should be. ... (209 words)

I am soooooo unhappy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5788 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Hiyya everyone, I'm 11 and i am soooooo unhappy. At school there's this girl who thinks we're like best friends, and i just hate her i only have say 2 half close friends, i feel like i have no friends, like i don;'t WANT an of the girls in my class to be mt friend, i just h... (103 words)

Abusive husband and started divorce proceedings, is he making me jealous on purpose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - if you finally had enough of your abusive husband and started divorce proceedings to which he never answered back to the petition and then you saw him with another woman but still continued with the divorce and got your divorce and never had any further contact with him after ... (88 words)

I'm trying to get pregnant -- help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5782 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Everyone, My husband and I just started trying to get pregnant and a friend keeps telling me that it is going to take a long time as it took her about 9 months. Iwent online and printed my ovulation calendar and practiced before and during my ovulation period. I am due for ... (141 words)

What's the best way to get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, theres this guy I really really love and I know we wont work and it's best to get over him :( But whats the best way to do it ? Should I delete his number and msn and bebo ? Its far to hard to remain friends with him :( please help ! xxx... (56 words)

Every day we get a "run-down" of pregnant co-worker's condition!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, i need some advice on how to deal with my colleague.She is 7 months pregnant and all she goes on about all day at work is her baby!!! Its her 1st and i know she is excited but honestly from the moment she gets in work at 9am until 4.45pm when she goes home all she doe... (271 words)

When should I tell him about my past?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5799 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'd like your advice and i'd be grateful if any male could also give me advice and women :). i'm curently chattin with a guy hes 24 i'm 18. its been nearly a month and we have had lots of arguments mostly my fault and we always make up....but its because of this i think he is ... (552 words)

I'm scared when its time to have sex I'm going to get sick!

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31 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - In a couple of months i'm due to get married to my faince, we've been together for a long time, haven't had sex justed kissed, (i prefered to get married and have sex so i stuck to my oath) and then he proposed to me so i said yes. But the problem is i haven't told him that i ... (284 words)

To shave? Or leave it?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi...im a 14 year old girl and i have my first boyfriend now and we have been going out for a couple of months and i think he wants to have sex! i dont know what to do,do i shave off all my pubic hair?? please help...:)x ... (47 words)

My b/f didn't call me because he said he was emotionally drained

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Yesterday, my boyfriend and i made tentative plans to get together. His parents were in town so he was not sure if he would actually get a chance to see me but he told me he would call me when he knew for sure if he could. well, he ends up not calling me and i finally get in ... (203 words)

Why am I still single? I don't get it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Why am I still single? I have loads of friends, accept every invitation going, meet men when I go out and do not sleep with them straight away, I dont go out looking for a relationship and the ones I have had I've given it a chance and they end up dumping me the last two tim... (133 words)

How can I collect my things and have closure with my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5795 days ago

31 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello all, thanks for reading. I've posted two messages before on here, I'm sure you can find them through my profile name if you want any background. I've decided to leave Uni and will be leaving to go home (overseas from where I am now) in 2 weeks. My recent exams wen... (428 words)

It feels like he just wants to do it and get it over with

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year and we used to have a very active sex life, we used to have sex practically everyday sometimes more than once a day. but in the past month we have hardly had sex at all, i think it's been about 5 or 6 times in the last ... (153 words)

She's winning people over..especially him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5798 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Right ok this may sound confusing but really it is quite simple. Basically this last that aprently used to like me n i liked him, we had some awkwardnes last eyar between us. But we sorted it all out n we've been like the best of friends for these past 2- 3 months. Honestly ... (836 words)

Should I go for it? Or just stay friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5802 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - There’s this boy he’s 18 and I am, we met a long time back, and we really got on. Gradually we became friends, and he took me out to restaurants, and movies etc…. We had a great time, and I always did with him for some reason. Then a feeling grew inside me and it was I liked ... (637 words)

Did I just experience an orgasm?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

31 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I need your help girls. I need to know if this was an orgasm or not... when my bf would finger me on my clitoris I would start getting short breaths and making noises and breathing heavily and very very fast and I would grasp him very very tight... it actually feels good, a ... (112 words)