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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. After he had cheated on me that one time our relationship has gone downhill. Now I have gotten over the fact that he did it, I didnt' forgive but I have forgoten(sometimes). Now I know he doesn't communicate with me as much as we should but I also feel like he doesn't love me like I used to love him. Now when I say I used to love him as I still do but that spark I once had has dimmed and it's about to go out. He has said the same for him has happened. So what I want to know is should we keep trying? and what are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship.
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Sad to say, but once the trust is broken, and the faith is lost. It's usually pretty much is a downhill run!
You've already caught him twice. Yeah, you just found text. Did you get the "real" story, or maybe you interrupted it before anything happened? who knows??
Often times in a situation like this, you will be trying your ass off, and he wont be receptive. Next thing you know, he's trying, and you could care less. Then there's the chats of "let's try together", one will, the other wont!
You can continue to pull your hair out,wondering each day if there is someone else, or you can bite the bullet and move on.
Biting the bullet is a faster more intense pain, but it doesn't last near as long, nor does it scar your soul. It merely allows you to learn a lesson to carry through life!
Like eating crow, bullets aren't half bad when prepared right!
Hope this helps,
Joe~
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