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*arriet-Jayne
writes:I find my body very un-attractive i am an english size 12-14 a 36C bust size. I have a boyfriend and am afraid to further the relationship into a sexual one because my body holds me back, please can someone help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Look now you touched on my nerve here as my gf has about the same size as you, D chest, was 12-14 for ages now gone to 10-12, and you know what... I don't care that she has gone down a size, I don't care about her size but did care about how she felt about it. I could tell her till I was blue in the face, she is beautiful but she wouldn't listen, I am biased... Anyway your bf is with you because he cares about you not because of your waist or bust size, so next time the moment comes, don't think about your size, think about how much you care about him and him you and just let what happens naturally, happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): If he didn't think you were attractive, he wouldn't be with you! And even if you were butt ugly he wouldn't care if he loved you! Any way I reckon loads of girls would kill to be the same bust size as you =]
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reader, chrissa +, writes (4 January 2009):
you just need to relax let your boyfriend take control just take things one step at a time but one of the most unattractive things about sex to a bloke is a woman who refuses to get naked its a real turn off and can actually have an adverse affect on some men and vise versa, for example, when u dont get undressed he might say dont you want to do this, am i rushing/pushing you or others might say do you not find me attractive. these things are all negatives that will make it harder for you to have comfortable relaxed intercourse. You really need to overcome this by relaxing ask him for a massage undress you one item at a time youll both find this sexy and it should help relax you. You should then realise that he really does fancy you and takes you for what you are hell be real turned on. Just go with the flow keep calm.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Why do you think your boyfriend likes you? Solely because of your looks? Or maybe because you have a great personality and is generally lovable?
Stop any woman on the street and ask her if she can find fault with her own body, they will ALL say yes and point out something they don't like.
You need to start getting comfortable with yourself. Don't focus on what you don't like, focus on what you do like. If you are unhappy with your weight, then maybe with the help of your parents and a dietitian you can make changes in your lifestyle.
I think maybe you aren't quite ready for sex either, which is fine. But I also bet that your boyfriend find you quite lovely the way you are. You just need to find yourself lovely too.
We can't all be skinny - we can't all look like supermodels. And even those women who are skinny aren't always comfortable either, nor happier.
It's time for you to love yourself.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (4 January 2009):
 A 12-14 is a gorgeous size. It's so much nicer to look at than the size 6 people you see walking around. And your bust size is slightly above average, too, so don't worry about it. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason - he must love you and your body too. Otherwise he wouldn't actually be with you. Someone will always see you as better than you see yourself, trust me.
However, if you do not feel you are ready to let someon see your body then don't do anything. Or you could try just going shirtless first and see what he does. You can even keep your bra on, if you want to. Or shirtless for a while, then slowly move on from that. It works.
Wishing You The Best.
xx
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