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writes:Okay... Right so ive started seeing this boy in year nine and im in year eight... We were talking and i realise that the boys in his year have fingered girls. I dont want to be fingered and i told him that but i dont know if he expects me to let him. He said he wouldnt push me into anything but still... I would only let someone finger me if we had been going out for a long time and i trusted him and he respectes me loads. :S. He hasnt fingered anyone but i think he wants to and mighy expect me to become ready some time in our relationship... :S... What do i do! X Reply to this Question
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reader, FroggieGman  +, writes (8 March 2009):
Get another bf. This little boy is just wanting to be like his mates and expects you to be like the other "Fingered" girls. Remember , it's your body and if you do NOT want anybody putting their dirty hands or fingers on or in you, then do what you say you're doing and just say NO!
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Okay, I'm going to give you a scenario.
Let's say I'm 15 right now and you and I are 'dating'. One night, I call you up and say, "I'm going to go jump off the Port Mann Bridge. Come with me."
Now, think with that little brain of yours: Are you seriously going to consider it?
If your answer is "Yes, because I'm your girlfriend", then please go sh... No, wait, that's too harsh. Then please think twice because if you want to be stupid, no one can actually stop you. Well they can, but you'll just find another opportunity to do it.
If your answer is "No, because I don't want to", then awesome. You're one step in being stable minded and knowing your own limits and standards.
If you have standards, keep with them. Don't let others, NO MATTER who they are dictate what you should or should not do, of course, putting the law and your safety into consideration at the same time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Then Don't - you aren't comfortable with it and you are also underage.
Why is everyone collecting badges on achievements at school, so pointless. Don't! you aren't happy, so wait and enjoy later when you aren't being forced into it. If he loves you then he will wait.
Star.x.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (8 March 2009):
 I would say no if you don't feel ready,he will understand if he is a nice lad. When you are ready then you will know and you'll feel comfortable! For now enjoy hugging and kissing, there is no rush at all, don't give in to peer pressure!x
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Well at some point in your relationship, I'm sure you are going to want it. If he has told you he's not going to push you then trust his words. He said them for a reason, so trust him. He may want to finger you, but if you've told him you don't want it then he should respect your wishes until you tell him you're ready for it. And if he asks if you are every once in a while, it does not mean he's pushing you. He's trying to find out if you're ready and if you say no then I'm sure he won't keep pressuring you.
If he does make you feel pressured to give in, however, then I would just leave him. He obviously doesn't respect your wishes.
But if he tells you that he won't push you, just trust him. What good is a relationship without any trust?
Wishing you the best
xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (8 March 2009):
 NO means NO, if he moves his hand down there, move it away and say "NO!" if he has said he respects you he won't push it.
If and when you do feel ready (sixth form should be ok!) Move his hand down there and show him what you like, because he is a little boy and doesn't understand how girls work, so he'll try and stick two fingers up there and stab away expecting you to enjoy it, and trust me you won't!
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