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anonymous
writes:hi. im really insecure about my body. ive got stretch marks all over my boobs, bum, in-between my thighs, and knees and starting to get some on my hips. the thing is im not even fat, im a size 8-10. i had this boyfriend and when ever we got closer and more intimate i pulled away because im so insecure about my body. i just really need these stretch marks to go so i can get on with my life. they are not a light colour they are these really dark purple/red colour and they are horrible to look at. ive had them for about 3 years. please help! thank you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 March 2010):
Stretch marks won't go away. But here's the secret. Men don't care. A man who loves you and wants to be with you really won't care and won't notice. If a man judges you on stretch marks, then he's not worthy. And don't forget that most women get the after pregnancy anyway.
Don't be worried.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Sweety stretch marks really aren't as bad as you make them seem! I myself have had very bad stretch marks from weight fluctuations (the same colour as yours, and I got them all over my stomach, hips, and bum) and believe me, I absolutely despise them. I hated them so much it got to a point where I literally wanted to paint myself entirely white to hide them. Then I found a boyfriend who loved me for who I was and I opened up to him, and he said he found my stretch marks sexy! I was so shocked that I asked a lot of other guys and not one of them said they would be turned off if a girl had stretch marks. Men can get them too, you know. Most of the answers to my question about whether guys would be turned off by stretch marks were either "they don't bother me" "I find them sexy" or "I have them myself, why should I care". Seriously its all in your head hun.
If you believe you have found a man who loves you for who you are and not what you look like, then they will like every bit of you. Even if you think they are imperfections! You are just a normal person and if you talk to whoever you want to see you about how insecure you are about them, a decent guy will be so pleased with how much you've opened up to them than the fact that you have stretch marks.
If you are really that insecure about them then you can try bio-oil, but I must say bio-oil irritated my skin as well as making the stretch marks more visible... I had bad experiences with it. But even then they don't go away, only lighten up. Don't be afraid to be yourself and if you need any more advice then don't be afraid to message me :)
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 In New Zealand we have a product called bio oil that really does help with the appearance of scars and stretch marks. You could see if your pharmacy has something similar. But unfortunately they will never completely dissappear.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Owch, that must be horrible. A couple of my friends have stretch marks and they're not pretty.
Try putting bio-oil on them twice a day, it should lessen their appearance. You can probably buy it in most chemists =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): sorry hunny,,,they will never go away only lighten up.I know from personal experience it is hard,,but the only way to get over it is to just do it,,literally.It turns out if the guy is right for you he is not going to care if you have stretch marks
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