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x-kitycatlok-x
writes:This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it.We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, right? Whether it's to your partner who may not live anywhere near you, or even just down the road. It's considered normal nowadays. However, it may just be a way for a kind of no strings attached sex session with someone you're not in a relationship with. It's an easy way for, to put it plainly, a one night stand in some ways. All you need is a computer, internet connection and possibly a webcam. It's so quick and simple. Type a little here, remove a little there, hands go here, type some more. Oh look! Orgasm. It's cheap, quick and easy.But what if you have a partner? What if you're doing this with your partner at work or school or university? Would it be considered cheating? On one side of things, you're not actually with the person, and there is no physical contact at all. You may never even meet the person. Is that cheating?On the other hand, you're getting sexual pleasure from someone who is not your partner. You're letting someone see what only your partner should see. Another male or female is making you do things only your partner should. In that case, yes, it is cheating. Imagine you're walking into your bedroom, and there is your partner, masturbating on webcam to another person, and typed on the screen is how hot they make them. What would you think? Would you think "Oh, it's just a bit of fun. She's not going to leave me", or would you think "Am I not good enough? Can I not do things that they can do?". So do you, people of dearcupid, consider cyber-sex cheating or not?
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reader, Kadisha  +, writes (20 June 2008):
If this would hurt had it been turned on you, then thats cheating. And i think you also got the answer that your looking for. You said those are things ONLY YOUR BF HAS TO SEE.. So certainly!!
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (19 June 2008):
x-kitycatlok-x is verified as being by the original poster of the question I agree with you all. Personally, I think it's wrong. If that wasn't obvious... Lol.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): i think its cheating. why do you have to get off on cyber- sex when you have a perfectly good human being that your in a relationship with. and if you rather have cyber-sex then you shouldnt be in a relationship with someone who deserves better.
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reader, mum and 1 +, writes (14 June 2008):
its down to the indivdual really. you know your own boundries would you find it actecpable if your boyfriend did it to you? how would you feel? where cyber sex is concerened there is no right or wrong anwser just what you find acceptable! but remember always be safe and never give out personal details on line!!
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reader, guaranteed +, writes (13 June 2008):
Cyber-sex is cheating. Your emotions, mind, sexuality, and even your body are involved. It is interactive. They see you and you see them. You respond to each other. Some may argue that it is like looking at porno and some do not consider that to be cheating but I do.
If people argue that you need to physically exchange body fluids to cheat, then it is like saying if I hire a hitman but do not murder someone myself physically it is not murder. But murder is murder even if you ask someone to else to do what you want without touching the victims body. In principle, in cyber-sex you are doing the same, getting someone to do something under your instructions just not touching the physical body.
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reader, Clarey +, writes (13 June 2008):
 It is cheating. There are so many opportunities for addictions around and this one affects intimacy and trust.
Here is an analogy: You know how we see a move back towards healthy food now after years of burgers and fast food? Well people relaised the fast food made you fat, is addictive and gives you heart disease. It stops children developing properly if they don't get a good diet. It can breed violence in them to be undernourished that way as countelss experiments have shown.
Well sex is the same. People will kid you that it is a harmless and quick fix to use porn and cybersex but it is not. It will change your thinking so it makes it more difficult to be satisfied with healthly and sustaining relationships. Just as happened with fast food.
I really hope that women will stop putting up with partners and boyfriends who try to make them believe they have to put up with this behaviour.
If we all just said no to those men we could leave those who want to live through a computer plugged in, while we have real lives in the real world, look after and care for each other. As well as feeling extremely lucky to be having good sex with a person we really love. That is body and soul food the rest is a shallow relationship poison.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Of course it's cheating. It should be something done with a person you love, trust, and are in a relationship with. Not just a cheap form of sex with a stranger. It's disrespecting yourself and your partner if you take part in cyber-sex without their knowledge. I mean, come on. You've got to have morals.
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