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writes:hi, i was wondering if anyone (female) would have advice for mei am a 15 year old girl and lately my pms is incredibly painful. i have cramps for weeks leading up to my pms just to have that last up to 7-8 days of heavy flow with even worse cramps. they are irregular, they are inconveinent and dear god i wish i was a man!my nurse reccommended me birth control pills since it is so bad im getting nauseous and close to fevers and almost passing out.my mom doesnt like the idea of me on the pill since i have a long term boyfriend and i think she thinks i would have sex if i knew it was safer (i wouldnt but w/e)does anyone have a good arguement for my mom or any home remidies to feel better?i'd appreciate it.thankies
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (16 November 2006):
 Perhaps the best way to handle this could be to show her thease answers to your question. Mums will always want to look after their babies,you still are no doubt to her. My daughter is 26 and still my baby. But there is no reason why you should suffer this, painfull experience every month. And after all, if you really wanted to have sex, the pill is not the only form of birth control. You have to show her you can be trusted. You sound very grown up to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): to reassure her you could offer to prove your honorable intentions by submitting to more supervision that you might previously have done. I know it's annoying, but my guess is that your mom will learn to trust you. remember that she's from a different era, when the pill was only for the "fast" girls. It's frustrating when moms are like this, but I'm sure she's not trying to make you suffer unnecessarily. See if you can work something out.
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reader, des16 +, writes (15 November 2006):
 i too sufered with your symptoms for months with my periods so much so that for my entire week of every month i was in bed on pain killers. i could hardly move to get to the toilet to be sick each time. i went to the dr who put me on a tablet that made me not so heavy but still painful and at passing out stages, so i went back to the dr who suggested the pill. i have controlled, light, healthy, periods that i dont get sick, dizzy and ive not had a painful period in years. i can recomend BiNovum.
i can have a normal life.
my dr said that my symptoms were as if i was giving birth all week, if anything it scared me from having sex if it hurts that much!!! he he good luck with your mum.
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (15 November 2006):
Hi,
I genuinly do sympathise with the way you are feeling, I myself suffered to the same extent as you, I found myself missing school, I found myself in later years missing work as a result of the pain I suffered.
I found as the years went by the more exercise I did the less excrutiating the pain became.
However, I also found myself in exactly the same predicament as yourself, my doctor also suggested I went on the pill, My mum was furious and thought it outrageous! I also had a boyfriend. I was 16 at the time.
I was suprised when my father became involved and he sat down and talked it through with my mum, his argument was that if it alleviated my pain and my moods then surely that would be a good thing.
My mum finally agreed and took me to our local family planning clinic, I knew she wasn't happy about it but she finally saw sense- she didn't speak to my father for a week!
However, we look back and laugh about it now, but this is a huge leap for your mum, when all said and done you are still her little girl.
You have to be honest with your mum and be mature about the pro's and cons of the combined pill- I would book an appointment at your family planning clinic with your mum and both go and have a chat and see what advice they can offer.
I also take evening primrose oil capsules prior to my period these help immensly. also fantastic tablets called feminax i swore by them.
I hope you are able to compromise with mum on this one, I wish you the best - keep exercising, thats the real winner!!
Best Wishes
Adelaide
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (15 November 2006):
 hiya
my periods was like this and i went on the pill at 14 years old its only normal for a girl to be this way periods react in different ways in different bodies.
i think that you should talk to your mum and tell her that you cant stand the pain no more and why the reasons you want the pill and not becuase you have a b/f and your going to have sex!
i think you can understand why your mum is worried though as you would be with your girl having sex rite? but anyway if you explain theres nothing wrong with being put on the pill and she probably just wants to hear it from your mouth.
i found that paramol and a hot water bottle on my stomach helped with the pains though.
hope you get everything sorted!! xxx
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