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writes:My best friend is inlove with a married man who has 2 children with his wife and is the stepdad to her other 2 kids. He lives about 1,000 miles away too. He keeps telling my friend that he can't leave his wife because of the kids, and i know this is every married man's excuse but she doesn't seem to see this! She keeps waiting around for him I guess hoping that he'll leave his wife one day since he says he does not love her anymore. I don't know what to tell my friend when she talks about him. I don't want to keep telling her all the time that he's not gonna leave his wife and that i think he's just saying he will to keep her by his side. What can i do? It hurts me to see her sad over some married man. Sometimes I just want to e-mail his wife and tell her everything! So that he could get caught! Then again, it's really none of my business, I just want my friend to move on and find someone worth her time. What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): Well there is not a lot you can do. This will all end in tears. Please don't email his wife, that is cruel. If she finds out then it shouldn't come from you.
Why can't your friend find a bloke who is single. He says all those things to her to just string her along but really he does love his wife and they have kids together and history and stuff. He is having his cake and eating it and the sooner your friend realises it then the better. How can she be happy, she is the other woman, not nice.
Just put it to her that this is a bad situation to be in and to get out now before the wife finds out and everyone's lives are thrown into turmoil.
Be there for her when this all goes wrong.
Take care
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 What a great pal you are.
I think your right, he will never leave his wife. Well he already said so really. Married men always say thay dont love the wife anymore, but how many really meen that, who knows?.
All you can do is try to get your friend to realise she is wasting her time on this man. Make her see that there is life out there apart from him. (Being cruel to be kind, is a great saying).
Its hard to see your freind like this, but she could be in the same position in 10 years time, and you dont want that for her do you?
Please keep on at her, she will thank you in the end,
Good luck, if only everyone had a pal like you XX
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