When you are so hot and cold what do you want from me??
Q. Me and my ex split over twelve month ago after two years , I found out she was seeing someone else. I cause no fuss. We all work in the same building. All through the year she ahs been very hot and cold with me yet I have given her nothing to ...
A. 28 January 2009: hiyah, your both obviously missing each other.. past is past at least everything is open as it always comes back on you when you dont want it to. The way you acted was ok as i can see your point but try not to get to involved too soon, your not ... (read in full...)
We're growing apart. What can I do to stop that?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months. We're completely in love with each other, and here's what's happening: We're in a somewhat long-distance relationship because we go to different schools, and we only get to see each othe...
A. 28 January 2009: it certanily doesnt mean what you have is not special any more, its simply that the shine has come of your new found relationship, its quiet normal! it happens to everyone, like when couples get married, they have the honeymoon where its all magical ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want me to have any female friends.
Q. Written here before many times. My gf has broken up with me many times. We keep getting back togethre. During the last break up, which lasted a month, I met new friends thorugh some old friends. When my gf and I are together she is very jealous. I ...
A. 28 January 2009: i think you know the answer. im sure ive answered one of your posts before.. you seem lke a geunine guy for being so considerate but sometimes you can be pushed that little too far. she has you wrapped around her finger, what she says goes and this ... (read in full...)
I see my self in a mirror and I start thinking that I'm ugly...
Q. Hi, this is the first time I have posted on here, but I have been hanging around for a while now and I like the advice and help given. I'm 14 years old and when ever I'm doing anything, or even just doing nothing for that matter I don't care about...
A. 26 January 2009: i dont know any body that looks in the mirror and adores what stares back. everybody is different, the way we look, our personality, our feelings and the people we really are. its normal to feel how your feeling. life gets that way sometimes but you ... (read in full...)
Would you sacrific your own happiness for someone else?
Q. Would you sacrific your own happiness for someone else? say you know that your significant other loves you dearly and you somehow fallen out of love with them. They are aware of it and you both are working to rekindle that love.. but you know that ...
A. 26 January 2009: i think you have to take the risk of hurting them, rather than letting them believe whats not true, then finding out the truth and being torn apart.
the truth always comes out, you can hide it and think your doing the person a favour but in most... (read in full...)
What would you do if your boyfriend kissed his ex on christmas day??
Q. What would you do if your boyfriend kissed his ex on christmas day?? I've only just found out am am very upset. I've been with him for four months five months on the 19th of febuary. I got told that he had done something with another girl so I ask...
A. 26 January 2009: you have to sum it all up, the relationship overall. people do make mistakes but some are just enough to change a person, or make you see him in a different light sort of thing. if its affecting your relationship then maybe you need to rethink. its ... (read in full...)
My guy is acting like a yo-yo--back & forth
Q. my fella keeps running away from our relationship.then coming bac he swears there is no one else.any advice anyone...
A. 24 January 2009: i think deep down you know the answer. a relationship is nothng where you have the constant distraction of askin where it is you stand and where your future lies with a person. its unhealthy for you to remain in the cycle where your unsure whats ... (read in full...)
We're breaking up, getting together over and over..what is wrong with her?
Q. Been with her for a 1 1/2 years. She has broken up with me at least 12 times. I leave her alone and she comes crawling back, calling, texting, emailing, until I agree to see her. We end up back together everytime. Then when we are back together she ...
A. 21 January 2009: youve done the right thing by leaving her alone in the past, you should carry on this only next time when she pesters you keep on ignoring her. i know its hard but you have to almost isolate her from your life, in order for you both to move on. what ... (read in full...)
Is this just a one off feeling because I haven't had a boyfriend for a bit??
Q. I have this friend and we're been friends for a long time. I feel that I could tell him anything except the way I think about him all the time and if I see a really hot guy I then think back to him. The only problem is he is 3 years younger than ...
A. 20 January 2009: firstlty i dont think age is the issue here, when your younger its a problem but your maturing now and are in a position where you make your own descions, im not saying forget it as it will have consequences i think youve noted, just be aware its ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go from just 'loving' him to falling 'in love' with him?
Q. Just wondering if after 4 years, you can learn to love your partner? I love him, but just dont feel 'in love' with him. I dont know if this is something i can change. I often think about other men and dont visualise a future with my partner. I ...
A. 19 January 2009: If what youve said is really true i think you need to take one look at your post and there is your answer. you cannot be in a relationship where the love has gone, it takes two and if your not there then its not going to work abnd the future will ... (read in full...)
All I want is to be with this girl. I don't know what to do any more I am always so upset.
Q. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I split up with my girlfriend of 7 months last week, this has hit me harder than i have ever felt pain in my life, I can't get this girl out of my head, she split up with me as she said she needed to sort her head out and as ...
A. 19 January 2009: its always hard when you fal so deep and it comes crashing around on you, it hurts all the more when theres nothing you can say/do to stop your world from breaking.
i think it got too much, work and home life is 24/7 and sometimes it does brea... (read in full...)
Is this what you'd call cheatin' or wot???
Q. I don't know if this is cheating or not, so here we go... I went to a concert Friday and I left the people I was with to hang out with this guy, and my friend I saw there. The guy is just a guy but he was hitting on me hard and I was playing back...
A. 19 January 2009: erm do you really need to ask? that guilt feeling you get when you leave your guys house tells it all. im not gunna be harsh but seriously see what your doing before it gets worse. if your with someone you dont act like your not with lke 8 other ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to be mad at me... how can I get him NOT to be mad at me?
Q. hello every1 I have a problem with my boyfriend.. 2 days ago he met a girl.. and he told me she was nice and stuff and they talk a lot now.. I got jealous and I stressed yesterday.. he told me I have nothing to be afraid because he loves me.. yea...
A. 19 January 2009: i think this is a classic time for that actions speak louder than words thing! its not what you say its how you are. its hard but sometimes your guy will meet other people but if he says they are mates you have to learn to trust him if not then you ... (read in full...)
Does he not even miss me at all?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months on and off. He ended up breaking up with me because of commitment issues and he felt like I was smothering him. He insisted that we still remain friends and kept telling me how great I am and he didn't ...
A. 19 January 2009: yeah obviously he me misses you but i think hes gettin the impression your playing it cool so hes trying to do the same! ask yourself why had you ignored him that time? if you liked him still then you would of left everything else to meet with him. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend has replaced me
Q. I have had my friend since we were 3, its been 9 years and now she has a new friend! They hang out all the time, that used to be me! I feel like she replaced me. She doesnt know but I'm really mad...what should I do?...
A. 18 January 2009: try not to let it bother you! over time friendships do change and just because you may not be as close or she has another friend does not make what you have any less important to her. tell her that its worrying you, after all these years shes played ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my army guy
Q. i went out with this boy for 2years and i loved him soo much we broke up beacuse i kept acussig him of cheating we then didnt talk for about a year and then he contacted me said how he still loves me and has not stoped loving me and he said he would ...
A. 18 January 2009: i think you will wreck any relationship without trust. His job is his life and is the way he lives, you as his gf have to accept that. if you dont trust him then you dont have a good future with him, he cannot carry on what he does each day if your ... (read in full...)
It just seems like he doesn't care
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having problems at the minute. We keep arguing about stupid little things, and I always get upset and start crying. When I do this, it's like he doesn't care. He won't hug me, or anything like that, he just blanks it out. It ...
A. 18 January 2009: it seems that even when your 'ok' the times when your not are still on your mind and thats a problem as it will affect what you have. its normal to argue and sometimes guys dont know how to react when a girl crys they feel uncomfortable and guilty ... (read in full...)
B/f keeps calling me a bitch
Q. Every time I play with him and he gets mad, he calls me a bitch. He called me that because I use to have a habit of calling him one, but I stopped, because I hate when he calls me that. He said he doing it to me cause i call him that. I Like i s...
A. 18 January 2009: he knows it annoys you thats why he does it. either say im finding it really disrespectful and seriously now stop it or next time he does it ignore him or go quiet so he knows hes upset you. xxx ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever had their heart ripped apart like this, and how did you deal with it?
Q. My boyfriend and I live some miles aways from each other, and every time he comes to see me (he never lets me come to his) he had to take two buses, which took nearly two hours and cost a lot of money which he barely had. Last night he came into ...
A. 18 January 2009: youve shared so much with this guy, hes been a part of you for some time so its going to hurt when all thats changed and without you having any input to the change. its a shock to you and getting over it will take time you need to rebuild ourself. ... (read in full...)
Tit for tat and it smacked me back!
Q. Okay I found out that he was still talking to his ex when i asked he denied it but she called his phone since i was hurt i wanted him to hurt to so i had another man's voice on my answering machine ..he refuse to speak to me and he came and took the ...
A. 18 January 2009: i think you should take a look at how youve both behaved and ask yourself how old are we? and is what we have going anywhere? im sorry to be blunt but taking all into account the situation could of been handeled better with a lot more maturity and ... (read in full...)
There's always an excuse not to meet up
Q. hi i have fallen for a girl at skool and she says she really likes me too and wants to go out with me. But she says she wants meet up more first. Which i'm fine with. But when i ask if she wants to meet up she always says that shes too busy or has ...
A. 18 January 2009: if she says she really likes you too then there shouldnt be a problem. maybe shes scared of becoming more incase she wrecks what you have or if shes scared of getting to know you for a reason were unaware of. theres a lot of possibilities but the ... (read in full...)
How should I bring it up to him?
Q. Ok so I have been seeing this guy for a little over two months. We have been texting every day, once in a while we'll talk on the phone and we rarely see each other. He lives about 30 minutes away from me. I would like to see him more often, but to ...
A. 17 January 2009: i think firstly you should look more into your 'relationship' its not all that healthy and change needs to be made if you wish to progress to a future, which i get the imperssion you want. i dont think your expecting to much at all, when your in a ... (read in full...)
I hate my body...
Q. My problem is about my body... I'm 19 and I'm not overweight or fat, I'm a size 10 on top and 12 on bottom and no one has ever said anything bad or offensive about my weight that would make me feel self conscious, however, I really am. im in my fo...
A. 17 January 2009: hiyah, you cannot live your life worrying about things such as 'what he thinks' and 'do i look wrong or right' your bf loves you for who you are not what your not. its ok to be insecure and to worry about how we look, everyone does in todays world ... (read in full...)
He cries, writes poems, and is a pansy - and he want me to have his baby!!
Q. Hello, I need help, ive been going out with a boy, im fourteen and he's fifteen, hes normal looking but... he writes poems, LOVE poems, he wears wastecoats and ties and says he's got the "italian look" he calls having sex "my expression of my love ...
A. 13 January 2009: be honest, you dont exactally like the guy all that much. from what youve said his personality is not what your looking for. remember he is a person with feelings and sometimes you may come across as slightly uncaring towards his feelings and what ... (read in full...)
I found out he lives with someone and confronted him...
Q. I found out he lives with someone and confronted him when I did he said let's be friends what does this mean?...
A. 12 January 2009: your very breif in your post and i dont blame you for avoiding details, hes put you in a bad situation and is trying to come out on top like hes been fair in all of this. dont let him fool you, you know the ins and outs you know him as a person, so ... (read in full...)
How do I get her out of our lives?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now, we get on amazingly and are very happy together. however, his ex girlfriend is clearly still not over him, they broke up over a year ago but i can see she still loves him. when she first di...
A. 12 January 2009: i dont think its you that can i think its your boyfriend who needs to speak up! He is the onl one shes really going to listen to and no matter how hard it is to accept its something she needs to do for her own sake as well as yous. Tell your ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for him to touch other girls at parties when he doesn't like me touching other boys?
Q. Ok this is my first question so im kinda nervous anyway I have been dating my boyfiend for some time now and there are somethings that he does that hurts me and gets me thinking things. For example he has letters in his room from his ex girlfriend ...
A. 12 January 2009: to be honest i think he still has a thing for his ex maybe? im sure that question is on your mind but its difficult you cannot pressure him to answer and hell only deny it anyway. if they have a big history then it might be something hes holding ... (read in full...)
I want to start tap dancing!
Q. Hiya im 17 and i really wont to start tap dancing i wonted to start when i was 15 but didn't have much money but now i get ema My brother thinks tap dancing is weird and my bf just laughed 1. question.. Am i to old ??? 2. and what...
A. 11 January 2009: I don't think it's funny, it's normal. I did tap dancing for years but work got too much and I couldn't juggle both, it's the one thing I regret most, not keeping it up. Although you will need the support of people at home such as your bf and mates ... (read in full...)
Why can't I sleep?
Q. hey everyone, again.. i know i post these like everynight, but WHY CANT I EVER SLEEP!!!!!!!!! hopefully you have read my other questions and such, but if you haven't. i am 15. i am pregnant. i am having a boy. i am engaged (but nothing more, no ...
A. 11 January 2009: You're not the same as your mates any more, you're in a different situation with a different state of mind. Talk to someone, whatever your age sleeping whilst pregnant can be a struggle but you're young (I'm not judging!) and you have more on your ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to approach this in a way that's not embarrassing if he doesn't reciprocate my feelings?
Q. I've liked this boy from afar for about 15 months now, and haven't really spoken to him one on one. Last night, I was out at a club and we ended up speaking and spent most of the night kissing. I think it was just a few drunken kisses (we both kis...
A. 11 January 2009: Just drop the hint but play it cool. Simply say god last night was a laugh but I enjoyed it! and wait and see what he says, you could be surprised by his reaction. Don't be afraid to be honest, if you lie to him from the start and cover how it is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend extremely needy and doesn't trust me
Q. hi, okay i've spoken to some people about this already, but they are no help and their answers are biased. me and my boyfriend have been together for only 3 months and he's already saying he loves me more than anything and that if i wasn't his he ...
A. 11 January 2009: well face the facts you cant stay with someone like this! its completely unfair and your never going to win, if its like this after three months whats it going to be like in a year? you cannot carry on like you are doing with somebody like this. ... (read in full...)
Is he using me to get over his ex?
Q. My friend for a while just told me that he's really feeling me. But he has a situation dealin with his ex-girlfriend. He says that he don't know if he's feeling her more or me. I was just wondering if he using me to get over his ex, because that's ...
A. 11 January 2009: unless he makes his mind up youll never know! dont let him call the shots, who put him in charge? why should he be given the choice and not knowing who to pick. i wouldnt want to be part of his games until he sorted himself out. make it clear that ... (read in full...)
My ex won't go out with me again
Q. I'm wondering if someone can help me..my boyfriend broke up with me because I had been a bad girlfriend, I was the very jealous type when I had no reason to be and it drove him crazy. I was heartbroken. Months later he contacted me and we talked ...
A. 11 January 2009: i dont think youve scarred him at all i think hes tried his hardest to say it in a way he thinks youll understand (sometimes when guys do this it doesnt come out the way they wanted it to sound) but hes failed at this! he has his reasons for not ... (read in full...)
Do most guys answer the door 1/2 naked?
Q. Hello everyone! :) I have a very quick question to ask y'all: Is it normal for guys to answer the door topless? I recently had an experience where a guy I had only met once before opened the door to me with no top on. I was a little taken aback...
A. 11 January 2009: its normal most guys to that. its a 'guy' thing obviously if a girl did it it would be a different matter. now im not gunna go on or read into this too much but i was thinking maybe if he was expecting you round he did this on a purpose! just so you ... (read in full...)
Would you care if they were ill?
Q. If someone you were seeing - not offically, but were hanging out and being intimate - and you did hurt them by not being honest and you are aware of it...because of that you agreed to be friends..and you throw in "friends for now/not ruling i...
A. 11 January 2009: of corse youd care! you have history with this person and however bad it may of turned out for whatever reason all they need is your support right now. dont worry about how you show it! when somebody you know is ill its normal to worry and to care ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these negative thoughts and just be happy?
Q. I keep feeling a bit depressed.. my bf and I have been together nearly 2 years, I love him and I know how he feels about me but he seems to treat me like one of his mates rather than a gf. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to be treated technically but ...
A. 10 January 2009: firstly you have to stop thing of all of his faults picking at little things evntually develop into this huge situaion causing more problems. everybody has good and bad features in your post you didnt mention one of his! he cannot be perfect! but i ... (read in full...)
Overexaggerating? Or something wrong?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now, every things going great. At christmas he really treated me and bought me amazing expensive gifts, i couldn't believe it. Anyway i went on holiday for three weeks to australia over ...
A. 4 January 2009: i think hes got used to the life he lead without you for those weeks. hes had to adjust and has been going out more and doing his own thing and now your back hes finding hard to reajust. dont worry to much, it is a festive time and it could just be ... (read in full...)
He's a bit slow on the uptake - any ideas for dropping hints?
Q. I've fallen for the most irritating person! Ok, lets say he seems perfect - tall, good looking, generous, sweet, kind, friendly and we can talk for hours BUT he never can keep an appointment. For example he invited me round to his, but I couldnt ...
A. 4 January 2009: if hes slow only you can point him in the right direction. you say he likes you so just reassure him of your own feelings, also you say you can chat for hours if you have that bond then dont worry about going into that deep convo as he obv wants it ... (read in full...)
What signals do girls give to let you know they like you?
Q. I'm a shy male teen who essentially goes unnoticed by the female sex! I don't think I'm ugly or unattractive,but I also don't think I'm amazingly handsome. I have some confidence issues as well as trust issues. One of my female frie...
A. 4 January 2009: you need to start taking control and giving yourself some help. get socilizing more and come out of your shell. you dont have to be loud and gobby for people to notice you just more yourself around the oppisite sex. start talking to them more and if ... (read in full...)
I'm angry...she is being over friendly to this other guy! What do you think?
Q. Hi. I've just had an argument with my ladyfriend over this guy in the office. Both she and I have worked at the same company for about 3 years . We started dating about a year ago - but kept the matter secret. I used to have an office right next to ...
A. 4 January 2009: she may have not seem it as the way you have. your almost the outsider in this and are looking at it from a different view. those lingering flrty smiles to you may of been a simple good morning from her to him. dont read too much into things. your ... (read in full...)
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