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writes: Ok so I have been seeing this guy for a little over two months. We have been texting every day, once in a while we'll talk on the phone and we rarely see each other. He lives about 30 minutes away from me. I would like to see him more often, but to me it seems like he's always busy even though he says he's never to busy for me. He occasionally invites me to places and says he wants to see me, but most of the time he doesn't come through. Am I expecting too much? Should I bring it up to him? If so how should I bring it up? Thanks in advance
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (17 January 2009):
i think firstly you should look more into your 'relationship' its not all that healthy and change needs to be made if you wish to progress to a future, which i get the imperssion you want. i dont think your expecting to much at all, when your in a relationship with somebody little things like arranging to meet should not be thought of as putting him out or making him have to change plans, if he really wanted this to work he wouldnt have a problem rearranging his scheduael. i thing yes you should gently drop the hinto to him that your unhappy with the current situatin. do this by saying i know its hard that we live a distance but i feel if we want this to work/progress we need to make more of an effort. ask him where he wants to go and how he feels at this point in the relationship.
its not wrong to want to know where you stand, its something you need. put the ball in his court, ask him the questions, not to bluntly but be firm and prepare for any answer. dont go without answers if you carry on the way things are your going to still be questiong the relationship months down the line with no progress having been made. its better to see the problem and fix it now than let it increase and sit and watch it replay itself over again. best of luck xxx
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reader, vampchick +, writes (17 January 2009):
Give him a chance, say something casually like oh i never see u we should just hang for a day, let him no ur unhappy with being stood up. Get him to set the date and if hes a no show, sorry to say it hes no good. Your not expecting to much at the start of a new relationship he should be dieing to see you.
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reader, sheribaby38  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 well if some man i liked alot made plans with me and backed out i would only let it happen once.that would be a definete red flag. i would have been so excited to be doing something with my guy friend and then get let down that would suck. i would tell him in a nice way that your time is valuable also and if he wants to see you then hes needs to foloow thrue and not lead you on.
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