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writes:i went out with this boy for 2years and i loved him soo much we broke up beacuse i kept acussig him of cheating we then didnt talk for about a year and then he contacted me said how he still loves me and has not stoped loving me and he said he would love me to consider to go back out with him i thought about it for about week or so and i decied yes beacuse its what i want i love him and i still do but now his in the army and we only just got back and the next day he got sent to cypurs i miss him soo much but i neeeed to learn to trust him i get this thing in my head saying like his making a fool off me he dnt love me even when he says i love u eveyday its not anoth to me i hear about all army men cheating plz plz plz help me hes the one i know it! but i will wreck it if i dont trust him : ( xxx
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reader, cheyjustin  +, writes (21 December 2009):
Our stories are so similar. My army man was unfaithful to me one time when he was on leave and i stayed with him. We broke up 19 days after he left for Italy. He contacted me about three months after this break up and we just got back together, he admitted to me that he slept wihta HOOKER while in Italy. H e just left for Afghanistan and i DO NOT TRUST HI AT ALL. I believe him when he tells me he loves me because the love i ahve for him is truly amazing. I owe it to myself to give this a try. As do you!!! If he is what you want,, treat him as though he couldnt live with out him. Best of luck to you!!
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reader, Zertz  +, writes (20 January 2009):
I'm a reservist so of course I know alot of army couples. Its tough, and the stereotype of army relationships being strained is definately true, but alot of them work GREAT.It can be dangerous, but worse it puts physical distance between partners and it stresses both.Trust and all these worries are tough. In Canada we have the Military Family Resource Centre and the Deployment Support Centre. They offer referals but i think more importantly they offer a willing ear day and night that knows. Maybe there is a UK equivelent.Do you know what he does in the army? Maybe learning a little about what he does will help, army guys don't want to worry their partners but from what I've heard its a help to have the knowledge.
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reader, survivor1987 +, writes (19 January 2009):
I am the wife of a soldier.He is currantly serving his third deployment and 19th year in the service.We have only been together two years, and married almost as long, but I still worry.I am always worried when someone sends him a care pack or emails him abou someone trying to take him away from me.I think every woman fears this when she is so far away from her man, and its normal.If you love him, be patient, and take things as they come.
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reader, Lovesouthernmen +, writes (18 January 2009):
It sounds like you really need to learn how to cope with trusting your boyfriend.I understand he's in the army and that's a job that he chose to sign up fore and such. It shows that he really loves you and why would he call you if he was cheating? Not all Army guys cheat but, I know that there are some out there that do. You just have to learn how to trust him and feel his assurance.I wish you too the best.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (18 January 2009):
i think you will wreck any relationship without trust. His job is his life and is the way he lives, you as his gf have to accept that. if you dont trust him then you dont have a good future with him, he cannot carry on what he does each day if your constantly accusing, hes aware you need reasurance and he was the one who got back in touch with you so he must really like you, why would he waste that. Dont judge him on what you hear, army guys cheat and all that shit your guy sounds genuine and not all guys are the same so dont wreck it on some myth! you realise you need to work on the trust issues and there is help out there you have to take it step by step and use patience. your in a worse situation given his job yet you have to overcome this in order to have a future. trust him, he loves you, best of luck xxx
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