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30-35,
*TFOandi
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months. We're completely in love with each other, and here's what's happening:We're in a somewhat long-distance relationship because we go to different schools, and we only get to see each other on the weekends. So during the school week, we can only talk through phone calls, instant messaging, and texting. My mom recently took my phone away, and I can only get on my instant messaging account on friday, and before my mom took away everything, my boyfriend promised that we wouldn't grow apart at all in this situation, and that it would make us closer as soon as it was over. But things haven't gone as he promised. After about a week, we had a talk and I told him that I felt like we're growing apart, and he agreed. Does this mean that what we have isn't as special as I thought it was? I thought nothing could break us apart. What can I do to keep our relationship as close as ever?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Hi sweetness,
This doesn't mean the relationship isn't special, it means that you two are faced with a lot of obstacles to make your relationship feel as close as it is. Write letters to each other in the mail, that's a good way to keep this romantic.
You are so young and it's super hard to keep a relationship strong when you can't see each other and you're dependent on your parents for rides and whatnot. It just takes a little more effort to keep it strong! You only feel like you're growing apart because you ARE apart. You get used to being by yourself... it happens!
I would suggest writing letters through the mail to each other. It will keep things exciting and old school romantic.
Good luck!
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (28 January 2009):
it certanily doesnt mean what you have is not special any more, its simply that the shine has come of your new found relationship, its quiet normal! it happens to everyone, like when couples get married, they have the honeymoon where its all magical and nothing goes wrong and they they return to reality, fall into married life and become used to what they have. we all take for granted what we have and we only realise it when it starts to change, fade.
its a difficult situation to be in with the distance but you have options, arrange to meet up more, try talking to your mum, explain to her how upset you are getting and the fact that your worried its coming to an end.
you did the good thing by talking to him, however if he agreed maybe you should rethink? sometimes things dont always work the way we want but youve both noticed the problem so now its time to sort it.
whats best for you and him is what should be the main aim to work on. Best of luck xxx
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