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writes:Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now, every things going great. At christmas he really treated me and bought me amazing expensive gifts, i couldn't believe it. Anyway i went on holiday for three weeks to australia over christmas, and he said he was going to really miss me, and i was going to miss him. Whilst in aus, he was constantly texting me and always on the phone, he was saying he couldnt wait for me to get back and i really couldn't wait to get home and be with him. Ive been home exactly a week and seen him twice! The days i have been with him have been great and he's told me how much he'd missed me and wanted me whilst i had been away. We had arranged to see each other more than that, like when i'd drop him off or when he'd drop me off home he'd say 'u want to come to mine tomorrow?' or ' see a film tomorrow?' but the next day he's let me down, because he's been out with his mates all night before and doesn't feel up to doing anything or seeing me the next day, and it's really starting to annoy me. How could he go from all excited for me to get home and then being like this? He never let me down before i went away. Do you think im over exaggerating? Or do you think there's something wrong, i'm just confused
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reader, shiraz +, writes (4 January 2009):
i think hes got used to the life he lead without you for those weeks. hes had to adjust and has been going out more and doing his own thing and now your back hes finding hard to reajust. dont worry to much, it is a festive time and it could just be that hes partying so much but now into the new year he might calm down and go back to normal. you both need to work at it in order to acheieve a strong relationship. i dont think theres anything wrong he just needs to be aware that its begining to upset you and how much you really missed him etc and now you feel its changed. you could be surprised by his reaction. if he lets you down dont let it wreck your day call your mates and go shopping etc and have your time like hes having his. talk to him and be honest about how your feeling this way your likely to get the same back. best of luck xxx
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reader, ams  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 The fact that he never let you down before you left, but he is doing it now that you are back, could just be because while you were gone, he got used to hanging out with his friends again. Now, he has to get used to hanging out with you more again. I would not worry too much about it because it sounds that you two really love each other.
And i agree with Honeypie, you should go do things on your own. Don't revolve your life and plans around him. I did this all the time with my boyfriend, and I ended up regretting it because I missed out on things like concerts and vacations because I didnt want to be away from him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Tell him that you would love to spend more time with him, don't just pout. But also realize that he needs to hang out with his friends too.
Oh, and if he had a hard night of partying he might have been really crummy company the next day anyways:) Don't let your world revolve around him, do stuff on your own too.
Ps I hope you brought him home something cool from Australia.
Good luck and remember - communication is key to a good relationship.
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