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writes:What would you do if your boyfriend kissed his ex on christmas day?? I've only just found out am am very upset. I've been with him for four months five months on the 19th of febuary.I got told that he had done something with another girl so I asked him and basically he said you want the truth and then he told me.I've forgiven him but I don't know if I can trust him?? I love him and am still with him but how do I know if hes gonna do it again?? I don't want him to and he said he won't!! He said hes never chester before and wouldnt do it again,, so i said well thats coming cheap from a lad who says id never cheat on my princess!! So he said I wouldn't do it again blah blah blah... then he said I love you katy more than anything,, christmas was a very bad mistake!!Im so stressed and upset I didn't think he would do this to me!! I love him like I've never loved anyone before but I don't know what to do?? xXx
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reader, xXxkinki_katiexXx +, writes (27 January 2009):
xXxkinki_katiexXx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok thank you for the advice guys. I will take this on board and see what happens. Thank you! :D xXx
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reader, shiraz +, writes (26 January 2009):
you have to sum it all up, the relationship overall. people do make mistakes but some are just enough to change a person, or make you see him in a different light sort of thing. if its affecting your relationship then maybe you need to rethink. its all happened so fast, forgiveness has been and gone but now its actuall hitting you. personally id ask for some space so you could sort your head out.
its not right to dive straight back into what used to be by brushing whats happened away (although i bet he would perfer this method!) it wont go away. its still hurting and i think before you mve any further you need to stop and think it through.
he says he loves you and wont do it again, so why he do it in the first place?
its up to you what to do next just look at it from all angles. im all for second chances but theres a second chance and being a push over. im not saying thats how it is its just hes got off lightly! you havent really shown him how its hurt you, youve listened to him excuses and apolagses and thats fine its just sometimes its not enough to make it all better. you seem to love this guy and i do feel he will be given another chance, thats not a bad thing just make sure it is the last chance.
you have two ways of going, ending it or giving it that last shot, i think i know which way your heading more and if hes what you really want you can work together through this bad patch, if hes not there, not supportive then its time to say goodbye. best of luck xxx
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 You've been together less than 6 months... and he has cheated. The first year is supposed to be "the honeymoon" stage of love. And you're already stressed an upset.
I'm going to tell you what I told myself when I was cheated on.
You have 2 Choices... you can accept the cheating and and stay with him, but keep in mind if you accept that fact you cannot dwell on it...or you can not accept his behavior, dump him and walk away...
But staying and being mad only makes life hell for you both and ultimately will hurt the relationship in the end.
I'm sorry he's done this to you. And I sincerely hope he means what he says...but he's broken his word once already so the outlook is not good.
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