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writes:Hello, I need help, ive been going out with a boy, im fourteen and he's fifteen, hes normal looking but... he writes poems, LOVE poems, he wears wastecoats and ties and says he's got the "italian look" he calls having sex "my expression of my love to you!" he cries on the fone to me all the time, whne i want to end it with him, he blubbers like a little girl. He gets annoyed when my bestfriend calls him a "panzie" plays the piano and loves english literature,he has a strangley high pitched voice sometimes and blows kisses. Is he gay? everyone says he is and tbh i think he is . plus he wants me to marry him now and hava baby oMG NUTTER! X Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): I think I just wet myself with laughter!
Are you kidding me?
If I was confronted with that when I was your age I'd run for the hills.
BUT...
That's exactly what I want nowadays, get him to call me in a few years!
You're lucky, honest. Just make sure you stick close friends with him till you find him attractive ;)
He probably isn't gay, just a little camp is all. The thing is, when he's about 18 he'll turn into a right player and not care for anyones feelings I reckon.
My ex was identical.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 OMG WHAT A PERFECT GUY!!!! Girl don't let him slip away (don't sleep with him yet) but guys like that are far and few between!!!!! BE GRATEFULL!
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 He may be gay, or he may not, that's not really the issue. I definitely think it's a problem if you've tried to end things with him and he's stopped you... by guilt-tripping you with his crying, it seems. That's pretty intense and not something you should have to deal with - it might just get worse from this point on. At your age, relationships are supposed to be fun and about learning how to be with another person, and he's holding you back from those experiences and just adding stress to your life.The next time you try to end it with him, just be strong no matter what his reaction is. Your post makes it pretty clear that you don't want to be with him, and you need to put your feelings first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): wow!
You LUCKY young lady.....what a CATCH.
One day you will look back and have fond memories.
The piano, poems, tears, and waistcoat absolutly fantastic what a character....one day you may be listening to his music, reading his books, or watching him in a movie, who knows. He is an ARTIST not GAY.
JUST HAVE FUN....NO BABIES OR WEDDINGS THOUGH.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): there is no need to have sex at your age. dont try to grow up too soon, enjoy being a child while it lasts.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (13 January 2009):
be honest, you dont exactally like the guy all that much. from what youve said his personality is not what your looking for. remember he is a person with feelings and sometimes you may come across as slightly uncaring towards his feelings and what you say could really crush him so becarfeul how you word things (with him). each guy is different, no one is the same, just because he behaves like this does not make him gay and you really shouldnt let others influence your opinion on him. he obviously has high hope for your relationship and maybe you should really consider letting him know you dont see him like this?
Be gentle with what you say. also although its obviously on his mind, plans for the future should remain in the future your bloody 14 and chattin about marryin and havin babies with a guy you describe as 'nutter'.sort the situation now rather than simply letting him hang on. i get what you saying but take it from his point of view too. good luck
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reader, Fee-Fee +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Oh bless, he sounds like a sweetheart! But I suppose that's just from one paragraph - I can see how it could get annoying after a while ...
He might just be very in touch with his creative side, and trying to be romantic. On the other hand, you might be right and he might be hiding his true orientation, or just not be sure. Either way, I don't think that's the point.
Bottom line is are you happy with him? Tempted to say no because you mention you've already tried to break up with him and he quote *blubbers like a little girl* unquote!!!
If you aren't happy, tell him you like him very much as a friend, but you can't see the relationship going as far as marriage and kids ...
Good luck !
Fee
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reader, Jillybean234 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 he isnt gay, he is just emotional. Just because he isnt a jock/jerk doesnt mean that he's gay. he seems to really like you, give him a chance. and about that thing he said aotu sex,that should be how it is. not just trying to have bang you. and about that marriage and kids thing, let him know that you guys are too young to think about that.But i think what he means though is that he wants to be with you for a long time, he must really like you. Just because he is sweet and emotional doesnt mean he's gay.
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