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writes:The basic question here is how important is oral sex to you?I'm aiming this at both genders just to get an overview from both sides. I've been with some people who absolutely love oral and others who aren't really that interested in it and i'd like to know what you all think.I'd like to know from both sides as to how much you like to receive oral and how much you enjoy or are willing to return it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): I believe it's important that both parties be willing to do things that pleases their partner. I don't care if she doesn't do it a lot, but she should be willing to do it from time to time. And I, of course, will enthusiastically give her what she wants too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Well I can tell you that I love getting it. It's the only way I'm going to orgasm during sex. Sadly I married a man who refuses to do it. I accepted this and knew this from the get go. I'm sad. I miss it.
My husband on the other hand, would not have married me if I did not give blow jobs. Since I like giving them and he likes getting them it worked well.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (24 January 2013):
I love receiving and miss it when it there's a dry spell.
I very much enjoy giving, and am sad that my wife doesn't really care for it.
How important? Very nice, but I can live without it.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (24 January 2013):
 When i was with my first boyfriend (now my ex) we did oral all the time on each other~ it felt amazing. He was really into it and I loved it, and didn't mind giving it either.
With my current boyfriend, he tried giving me oral (i was his first sexual relationship) and he hated it. I'm not going to force him to do it as i really love him, and since i love him so much I'd rather have him, instead of someone who would give me loads of oral but not have real feelings for them, :) I can live without it, though in all honesty i do miss it a bit...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): I cannot stand having oral. It makes me shiver at the thought, I love giving oral to my bf... but no I hate oral on me. It feels so wierd and does nothing for me.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (24 January 2013):
I wouldnt date someone who didnt participate. If she doesnt want it, thats no skin off my back, but Im more than willing to provide it. I wont budge on the recipient side though.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Yea I love giving to women. Longest ive done is over an hour straight. It is amazing and at the same time I dont prefer a woman who doesnt know how or is awful at it.
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (24 January 2013):
It really depends on the person. There are SO many sexual activities you can perform and oral is just one of them. Me for example I don't have to have oral sex but it's a damn good thing to receive from a partner. It's entirely up to you and your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Great answer, Cerberus!! I am female and I love it when a guy enters my forbidden zone and takes me away. I agree, no oral means no relationship. I love it and love it more than sex. Quick and easy and hits the mark every single time. My guy loves it when I wear skirts for the very same reason. Can just pull it up for easy access or loves when I sit on his face. He is an expert at it. He knows my body and hits the right spot every time. I guide him if he gets a little lost since I know exactly what I like and what feels good. I orgasm so easily this way and they are pretty awesome I have to say. I do believe that we women do climax a lot easier through oral sex. He also loves to watch me pleasure myself with my own hand. He really gets off on this. There is just something very erotic about it.I have no problem giving a guy a blow job. Guys love blow jobs. Let's face it. If you don't give one, you are definitely not going to last too long. My guy sometimes wants a quick one to relieve stress or get rid of the horniness. Other times I take my time, lick his balls, shaft and slowly build him up to climax. It really depends on the mood at the time. You have to be willing to explore each other's bodies and let go of all your hang ups and do what feels good. The guy does not care if you are not always fresh. He just wants to get down to business. If you're concerned, just shower right before. Should be fine.If you don't do oral, you are missing out big time. That is how I see it. It is a huge part of the sexual experience and should not be missed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Non-negotiable. No oral = no relationship.
It's not that I love receiving oral per se, it's more that I became bitterly disappointed whenever I found out the woman I was with wouldn't give them regularly, or waved the feminist flag about not having to do them then think I'm some kind of asshole because it's supposedly not a need. But it is a need for me, I'm not happy nor sexually fulfilled without them.
The exact same goes for giving, I need to be allowed have my face down there and giving that form of pleasure, you'd be surprized how many women hate receiving it because they're self-conscious about their vagina, the smell or their labia etc. Very easy to weed out those ones early though.
I give and receive quite a lot, about 90% of the sex we have involves me giving head as foreplay, that's mainly on the ass too as that's her thing. I don't like to get head before sex, she gets me off too quickly she has her technique too well refined, but that's awesome because she loves giving them, gives them about 3 times a week and it makes the whole process really fast and efficient. I'm not a fan of the long slow BJ at all, it's not a damn ice cream cone haha. Plus if she's not in the mood for sex when I initiate she'll usually give me a BJ instead, unless she's just too tired or pissed at me for some reason.
The same works the other way around, she loves receiving oral especially as a stress reliever and again quick and efficient is what she likes.
Although she does love to do the Head Rush oral position a lot since we first discovered it last year, even wears skirts specifically to allow easy access for that on nights out etc.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 January 2013):
 The interesting thing about "sex" things is that there are oodles of replies.... from across the spectrum.... and nobody who tells you that they have "your answer" can really be certain that they're correct....
The ANSWER is: Oral sex.... like genital sex (intercourse) and manual sex (fooling around with hands, fingers and toys and other paraphenalia).... and ANYTHING ELSE that two consenting adults like to do.... is "OK"....
This is a personal issue.... between the two people who are taking part.... and there are really only the "guidelines" to which those two adults consent.....
Have fun. and Good luck....
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reader, itcantjustbeme +, writes (23 January 2013):
 I think oral is kind of a hit or miss with me... Sometimes it's exactly how I need it, how I want it... but other times it's a mess, it's done wrong, and a complete turn off from the idea of even getting to the sex. Also there are times when I want to tell what I want, but I just don't want to be seen as bossy. So most times if I can prevent going down that road I will try not to have oral sex given to me because if the moods right I don't want to ruin it by getting frustrated.As for giving it. I love it, I just never know when to do it. A lot of the times its not like the movies where a guy just pulls down his pants and says "blow me." Which I kind of wish it was that easy. Instead I have to be dominate for a moment, figure out the situation and try to figure out how to get the pants off to give. I'm much more of a pushover when it comes to foreplay, and just go with the flow.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 January 2013):
 For many women oral sex is to them what intercourse is to men. Only 25% of women orgasm from intercourse but 85% from oral sex. So to that 85% of women it's kind of like asking how important is intercourse to men? Personally I don't like receiving it that much, I prefer other methods but I think I'm in the minority. I used to hate giving it, but with my current partner I really like doing it.
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