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writes:Is there any men here who stopped using porn once they found a girlfriend who they thought was the one? Am I just dreaming here or can this happen? I have read about this happening as soon as they started the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Ok I'm a girl and I don't get what the big deal with porn is if its not used in lieu of relations in a relationship and or addiction. I think it is or can be part of any normal healthy persons life male or female in a relationship or not...really I don't get it,.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2013): If you really are the "one", and you never refuse him the real thing, I see no reason why any sane man would waste his time with women in a magazine or on a computer screen who he knows aren't doing it just for him.
But maybe that's just me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2013): I personally think men (and a lot of women) will watch porn regardless of their relationship/marriage.Now, the porn usage amount can differ dramatically, depending on how much sexual activity he (or she) is getting. Say, a husband who is having sex twice a month might watch porn a few times a week... whereas the husband who is getting sex twice a week, may only watch porn twice a month... it is impossible to know, and as long as it isn't a daily sort of thing it really shouldn't be a problem.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (14 January 2013):
Like anything that has short term reward, it can be addictive, especially if you are weak-minded. I have used it before myself, but now that I live w my fiancee, I see no need to look on a screen for what I can get in real life. When she leaves for a few days, I may go back to it until she gets back, but thats only because Im a horny bastard. But when you start taking a screen over the real thing, you have a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): My boyfriend doesn't seem to watch it, I've always asked him if we could watch together as I find it dirty and a turn on. . and he always refuses.. :-/ men are strange lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): Even if you tell them stop they have only done it because you've told them to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): There is no way. Even if he says he will stop he probably continues secretly. Or I just dated scumbags.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): A lot of guys don't watch porn and others only do it while single, so yeah it's possible but it's up to you to ensure you find out whether any guy you date is like that. You can't complain if after a year you find out your boyfriend uses porn and you never discussed it with him.
It's up to you to protect yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): Not all men use porn. Not all who use it allow it to drive and dominate their sexuality. I'd say the majority of all men who use porn as the basis for their sexual fantasies do not use it in lieu of or as a substitute for a relationship. Mature, emotionally healthy men don't fantasize about having relationships with porn stars, porn is simply a vehicle for achieving orgasm on demand, it's strictly used to stimulate a physical release with absolutely no emotional involvement whatsoever. Solo masturbation and making love to a woman are two entirely different experiences intended to satisfy two completely different and mutually exclusive desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): It has happened and is possible. But it only lasts as long as the girl is willing to cut down on fights/silent treatment. And if she's actively providing relief from masturbation. The difficulty is in this: most women will not have sex as often and cannot provide relief as quickly as masturbation can. Porn then just becomes a tool to help men think of something else besides sex all time.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (13 January 2013):
What you read about was guys convincing their girls they didn't watch porn anymore.
Men and women see porn completely different in most cases, so it's not like cheating where both agree it's wrong, it's more like shopping too much where men think it's a waste of time, money, etc and women think it's fine. Tell a woman to stop shopping and she might for a little bit, but eventually she'll get back to it because she doesn't see the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): Dare to dream, I'm married and my husband watches porn...but not as much as he use to so maybe the "one" will cut his porn watching time in half.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 January 2013):
 I don't think it matter is she is the ONE or the Nex-tbest thang...
If a guy knows his GF/SO don't like porn and would prefer he didn't watch it, he would either respect it or not. But I don't think a guy without hearing how porn affect his GF will just stop watching it. To many people think porn is harmless or even worse, necessary.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Tbh, there is very little connection between using porn and the relationship that the person is in. I mean it can happen but it should never be expected unless it is a problem such as the sex life of the couple decreases because of it. Do women stop masturbating when they are in a relationship? The answer to that is it depends on the person. It is possible to have a healthy relationship and still use porn for ones own personal time.
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