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writes:Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i dont know the inns and outs of oral sex. can anyone help?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Climaxing is often quite different for a man and woman. A male climax is fast powerful and forceful. A female climax may be extended, wave upon wave. This is something you aren't going to get from fellatio even with as experienced an operator as Sugar Sugar. It is a constant source of misunderstanding between the sexes, and why one or another partner may come from the experience feeling disappointed. Good luck. I hope it is everything you expect.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (20 July 2009):
 From my previous experience I must disagree with the previous poster.I cannot think of one of my ex boyfriends that would ever, ever, ever prefer a handjob to a blowjob.Just relax, enjoy the visual and physical stimulation. Make sure you are very clean beforehand - not just for the first time, but every time. If she does a particular movement that feels good - tell her, if you want the experience to be as good as it possibly can be give her positive feedback.And tell her when you're going to cum.Enjoy!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (20 July 2009):
I think you may be disappointed. As a form of sexual congress it is rated more in popular myth than execution. There is a certain amount of ego involved in having someone do this for you but in a real sense you may be better off with her giving you a hand job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): Also, give her some warning before you bust the nut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): A couple of things. As suggested, your hands have no role to play. If you're grabbing her head and trying to move it, she's no longer *giving* you a blow job, you're f***ing her face, which is a different thing entirely.
And remember that a gentleman gives a warning at the end. If she wants to finish you in her mouth, great -- but that needs to be *her* choice. Give her the chance to back off and finish you by hand if she's more comfortable that way.
Enjoy!
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Hey sweety, yes yes and more yes to everyones comments about hygine, but another thing that mite make the whole expirience better for your lady, something i havent noticed anyone else say is this... If you eat strawberries, and sweet things it'll make your spunk taste better for her, i kno it sounds weird but its actually true! Give it a try :) also, the way to make it more enjoyable for you is to just lay bk and relax, let her kno when its feeling good, you dont have to talk just a little moan every now and again should do it, it'll reassure her and you'll hopefully let go and enjoy it even more! Oh and i dont kno about her preferences but most girls ive chatted to about this HATE having there head pushed down and/or controlled while their in the swing of things. No im not much help but hope all goes well for you. Take care!
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reader, Katy. +, writes (17 July 2009):
 As Uncle Phil said, make sure it's a good hiegine; the better it smells/tastes, the better the blowjob. After that just let her take control, tell her what feels good but don't force it down her neck, i can almost guarantee that most girls hate this; me for one.
For most people, blowjobs are just the norm so there's not alot to worry about, just enjoy it.
Katy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Relax and have fun. Be clean as someone mentioned. Some tips.Does she know she can put her hand round the base and moves it slowly and in a circular manner up and down your shaft,so she only takes what she can manage orally? Also licking around the top in circular motion followed by stronger sucking can be fun for you and easy for her. If her other hand caresses or gently fondles your balls it might excite you more for little work or technical skill from your girlfriend.Anway I suggest you both read about if you want extra advice, there are some great informative sites out there (no not the porn ones!) I hope you return the favour and are appreciative of the attention she has given you. First time bj's can be very intimidating for a woman.Also you should remember that practise makes perfect
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): The ins and outs just about sums it up!
Make sure your hygiene is up to scrutiny. Have a shower or bath beforehand and avoid overuse of deodorant down there. When it comes to it just go with the flow. It'll be an automatic response to what she's doing, and don't shy away from telling her to put her teeth away if she gets a bit too over-enthusiastic.
Whatever you do, don't grab her by the ears and thrust it down her throat. She might not like that too much.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 July 2009):
 JUst stick it in her mouth let her do the rest you can try using a flavored condom, its not rocket science
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