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writes:Hi this isn't really a help question more i want peoples opinions on what they think the definition of love is?my definition is someone you love and care for is always there for no matter the circumstances someone you can never stop thinking about and never want to stop thinking about and someone you plan a future with, someone you feel is more than just a boyfriend but also a friend, someone you can tell your secrets to and not worry about them being told to anyone else someone you completely trust :).would like your opinions everyones going to have a different opinion on what they feel is love so please come and share :)x ilovebowsandcherries x Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (17 July 2009):
ilovebowsandcherries is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys :)
just a random thing i know lol just wanted to know peoples oppinions :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): I'm not really an expert on this! But I can tell you my definition.
Love for me, is wanting that person to be happy, whether it be with ir without you. Being there for them during the good and bad times, not giving up at the first hurdle. Being supportive, and encouraging to the decisions they make. Feeling their pain when they are going through a rough patch, and wanting to do anything to ease the pain.
I agree that it is definately a form of temporary madness.
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Love is what you want love to be.Love is the blazing fire which ignites the soul.The power to drive people mad.The spark of divinity that breeds creation. Ultimately though love is emotion unique to the person feeling it. Love:1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.2.attraction based on sexual desire.3. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.4. unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.5. the fatherly concern of God for humankind. We each have it within ourselves to love whomever we choose to open our hearts to.As such love is among the least important qualities in a real working relationship.Trust,communication,happiness,friendship,kindness,compassion,affection,loyalty,warmth,understanding,commitment,respect.If you have these things then you have love even if your eyes are blind to it.It is equally possible to not have these things and still have love.The dog that loves his master no matter how much he is abused.Love is a powerful emotion and can make us do many things that are not healthy for us. We all have the love of father God in us.And that love is unconditional.That is why we can continue to love and care for those that do us harm.The problem is we become calloused from that and become unwilling and afraid to open ourselves to new possibilities.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 My definition of love is.......when you would rather take a blow for someone than have them take it themselves, but if they do take a blow, you feel it with them and don't stop worrying about it until they do.
But, if you mean "in love", that's a whole different thing.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 July 2009):
 theres diffrent kinds of love
religious family and sexual theres love you fall into then theres love at first sight.
im going to give my opinion of sexual love the love i feel your most describing and asking opinions on.
when you see someone your attracted to you body is flodded with chemicals endorphins and things kinda like opening the fridge and seeing a big cherry pie or a honey glazed spiraled ham kissing some one you love is like the smell of bacon doughnuts and coffee in the morning causing glans in your body to create saliva
when you bite into a delicious slice of pizza powerful chemicals are realesed from your brain causing you pleasure
Love is a simple word for a complicated chemical process caused by physical and or visual stimuli.
Love is all in your brain not in your heart.
why do we love becuase thats how nature ensures life will go on it would be wholefully easier to be by your self and you would acomplish more if your head wasnt in the clouds if people didnt love or even want to fall in love or mate for that matter we would go extinct
so when your out with your bo and think your in love think about this your brain is actually producing powerful chemicals that give you pleasure so when you see his smile or hear his voice you remember that plesure you ggot form being with him, and when hes away those chemicals stopped being produced if oyu break up there gone poof and guess what you get withdrawl syptoms just like any drug abuser would
but hey its love
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 This is one of my favourite quotes and I think it sums up pretty well what love is, and what it should be.
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."
-- Captain Corelli's Mandolin
I think there needs to be a distinction between "love" and being "in love" - too many people these days end relationships because they are not "in love" anymore, however the reality was that they never loved that person in the first place. Love is not just all the exciting bits at the start of a relationship, if you base a relationship or marriage on those initial feelings then it is almost guaranteed to not work out. As the quote says, anyone can convince themselves they are "in love", when you have all the excitement and passion. But when that is gone, that is the make or break time. While some passion always lasts in a relationship, everyone knows that eventually you hit a point in time where "the romance fades/honeymoon period is over" so to speak. If you find at that point that you have become best friends, that you cannot possibly imagine your life without that person then that is real love.
As for your thoughts on love, they sound pretty accurate with the exception of loving and caring for someone no matter the circumstances - that sounds like you believe that romantic love can be unconditional which is sadly untrue. Because there are conditions to love - like cheating, lying....all sorts of things like that. So in a circumstance where someone you "love" cheats on you, I dont think that many people could continue to love in that circumstance. Unconditional love only happens when it is for a family member, like a mother will always love her child no matter what that child does in its life. But the same cannot be said for romantic love, and too many people make this mistake hence why when something does go wrong in a relationship it hurts so much!
But most of all I believe that true love is rare, you wont find it with many people in your life. So when true love comes along, the sort that will last years and years, you should hold on to it for as long as you can.
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