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writes:My husband and I have been married for 6 months now. I haven't caught him cheating persay but I have caught him texting several females. The first one said she wanted a relationship from him not something on the side. that stopped. Then I found text about a month later nothing inapporopiate but they did go to dinner at Denny's after work once. They never met up before. he did lie about the texts and the dinner at first until I told him I talked to her. He said I worry to much. Now He is texting yet another female ( this is number 3) I don't know what they say one said happy 4th of July and I do know they text on 2 different occassions ( once when he got off work while I was in the hospital with his son) and then she text him again at midnight the next day and he returned it at 2 in the moring when he left for his other job. He thinks he has gotten smarter because he has erased the messages, but because the phone is in my name I can check the messages ( not what they say but that something was sent.) The point is that he is hiding this from me when he knows how I feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): I can really understand you. My husband has also been actively texting to someone and erasing messages. Unfortunately I cannot check his statements. After I confronted him about his messages he started carrying his phone with him everywhere, even to the bathroom (sorry for too much information, but he goes there naked but carrying a mobile! just in case I start going through his sms history). On top of all this I am 7 months pregnant with our first child.Last night I packed my stuff and moved back to my parents. I feel there is no trust in this relationship and there will never be. I am pretty much sure that my husband is cheating, and want to stop it all because it is too painful. You are the master of your life, and only you can decide what to do. But I have made my decision however painful it is to stop further pains.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 July 2009):
 this guy is shady tell him you cant make a life with some one you dont trust and end it hes married the time to be talking to theese other women is over my space face book texting all goes out the window when you get married he needs to grow up and be a husband i would loose this guy and quick before you get even further into a meaningless marriage, unless he can prove without a doubt these women mean nothing to him in fact he should let you talk to them, it could be a freind but i doubt it. but on another note if its not affecting the relationship besides your fears then i dont see the harm if hes putting bread on the table and taking care of his family. you could play this by ear and see what happens dont harp on him about it and bring every little peice of evidence to his attention wait to you get a smoking gun and drop a bombshell on him hell get sloppy and slip up in time but you gotta get off his back about it. good luck
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reader, RCK  +, writes (17 July 2009):
Gee it don't sound too good aye. Firstly he lied, Secondly he goes out for dinner with IT and lastly he is hiding text messages from you. The question you should be asking yourself is what proof do you need before you will act. Do you need an STD or some crazy chick telling you that she's pregnant to him? Keep snooping until your sure and prepare yourself for disappointment and hurt. Unless you want to turn a blind eye and pretend that nothing is happening and everything is perfect.
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