I'm afraid that my husband will never look at me the same if he witnesses the birth of our first son!
Q. My dilema is that I am currently 38 1/2 weeks pregnant and I'm afraid that my husband will never look at me the same if he witnesses the birth of our first son. He says he does not want to see anything and will just stay up north during the ...
A. 2 December 2009: Thanks all. Problem is he says he wants to be in the room, but doesn't want to see anything. He said he wants to be beside me by my head but no matter where he is standing, he is going to witness some un pretty things and that's what I worry ... (read in full...)
More porn on his computer and it's getting me down
Q. hi, i have a bit of an issue, i am with a guy who is 3 yrs older than me, we've been going for 9 months, i stay at his flat on the weekends nd i use his laptop for internet access while im there, everytime i type an address in the address bar, it ...
A. 23 May 2008: It is very normal, and most guys, especially at his age watch porn. It has nothing to do with you or your relationship, although I understand why you would feel that way as most women do. And it certainly doesn't mean he is bored with you or ... (read in full...)
Due to his fathers lonelinest we cant move in together!
Q. Hi everyone I need help I love my BF and I know he loves me. We will be together for about a year now. I am a living in nanny and he lives with his father. I would like to move in with him and start our lifes together for real as soon as pos...
A. 22 May 2008: I think that for right now you should respect his decision to stay at home with his dad. You've only been dating for a year so why the rush? It is a sticky situation, but if you push him into leaving his father to move in with you, he will end up ... (read in full...)
How do I know he really likes me and is not just sex?
Q. So I met this guy and after knowing him for 48 hours we made out in his car. I knew that night he was different and I really liked him. The next day he left for vacation with his family. While he was on vacation we texted everyday, like 200 times a ...
A. 22 May 2008: I don't think I would tell him anything just yet. You are right.....you may freak him out. If he really likes you, he will not hook up with anyone else. You've got to trust him until he gives you a reason not to. He seems to like you very much ... (read in full...)
He loves his mother and sisters and they love him...I feel jealous because he is mine
Q. life is going smooth.married for two n half years.actually the problem is ...my possesiveness,may be overpossesiveness,for my husband whom i love like fish cant live without water i cant without him..its been three yrs that v r together ...i dont ...
A. 18 May 2008: I understand how you feel. I was the same way once, and still am to a certain extent. I have also developed an attachment to my husband and cannot ever find the courage to go out without him. He is like the air.....I can't live without air. Just ... (read in full...)
We've been together for more than 10 years but I'm determined not to forgive his infidelity, what do you think?
Q. I found out my husband had an affair a year and a half ago. The only reason it's over now is because the other woman ended it. The whole thing lasted about a month. He was angry that she hurt him, not sure if he tried to win her back or anyt...
A. 18 May 2008: I would definitely not forgive him either. Not only did he have an affair but he had the nerve to talk to his friends about how great the sex was and how hurt he was that she ended it with him. I don't think that he will ever change and will ... (read in full...)
I want him to notice me. I need tips on flirting
Q. hi, i like a guy and i need some tips on flirting, is it wrong to flirt with one whose got a girlfriend? how do i get him to notice me even if he has someone? and how do i get to win his heart, we work together....
A. 16 May 2008: He has a girlfriend and I don't think that you should pursue him. Can you really live with yourself if you break up their relationship? How would you feel if someone did that to you? And if you actually to get him to leave his girlfriend for you, ... (read in full...)
If I want to look at porn, I have a right, right?
Q. My girlfriend found porn on the computer yesterday that we share. I accidentally left the history up and she looked through it and saw what I had been looking at. I told her I was bored and those websites were in the magazine I was reading so I ...
A. 15 May 2008: I think that most women are against the idea of their men watching porn because it makes them feel like they are not good enough, plain and simple. You might try re assuring her that in no way are you comparing your real life gf with the porn stars ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't like kids but I have a 4 year od son. Can you advise?
Q. I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and half. I love being with him, he is amazing. Although he has met my 4 year old son a few times, I don't like to bring him around because I'm afraid that my son may get attached ...
A. 12 May 2008: His comments really don't make sense to me being that he knows you have a son. I don't see how his comments are true because he is with you. But whatever happens your son comes first!! The right guy for you will accept your son and love him too. ... (read in full...)
Should I end my friendship with my ex to make my boyfriend feel more secure in our relationship?
Q. I married my high school sweetheart before he deployed to Iraq. Predictably, our young age and the effects of him being at war destroyed our marriage. We ended up divorcing in 2006. Despite that, we still remain best friends. Now I'm a new relation...
A. 12 May 2008: I also don't understand how anyone can be friends with an ex. How would you feel if your boyfriend was still friends with his ex? It would definitely cause some issues there, so put the shoe on the other foot. I don't think that there are many ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair which resulted in the other woman falling pregnant. The child is almost due, what is the best way to handle this?
Q. This is complex - and difficult to write about succinctly...I'll give it a go! My husband had a year long affair. He tells me he tried to "end it" many times prior to me finding out - but felt guilty and like he owed the OW something. To make mat...
A. 12 May 2008: I am so sorry you were put in this situation. I definitely agree with rcn......make sure your husband gets a paternity test first. If the child is his and you decide to go with option #1, I believe your husband can give up his rights as the ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer curves?
Q. Hey everyone I was wondering if some guy could please explain to me why do they prefer curves over thin girls?? I have got curves and sometimes worride that guys wont find me attractive...What kinda chicks do guys really like? ...
A. 12 May 2008: Most guys like curves and alittle meat. Most do not find a girl so attractive if she appears to be bony and fragile. You shouldn't worry about what guys like or dislike. There is a guy out there for every girl and he will love you for you, not ... (read in full...)
Did someone perform some sexual act on him to 'last blow his load'? Because it obviously wasn't me!
Q. Please I need some help before I start pulling my hair out!! And i'm sorry but i'm going to be blunt there's no beating around the bush with this one. Ok some background info I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years we have a good r...
A. 12 May 2008: He is masturbating and probably nothing more than that. Men cannot go that long without releasing tension, etc. I wouldn't worry about it at all. He probably didn't think before he made that comment, but is too embarrassed to tell you that he ... (read in full...)
I took 2 brands of pill within one month, could I be pregnant?
Q. I am on the pill (estrogen and progestin). I accidentally dropped one and since i had an unfinished pack (a different brand, same composition), i just took one from there. This was the 2nd to the last pill of the packet. I expected my period toda...
A. 8 May 2008: Being nervous and stressed can cause a delay in your period. Try not to worry so much. If you don't get it in one week, call your doctor. ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he care? is it just me, making something out of nothing?
Q. My fiance just doesn't care about my feelings. His brother and wife don't like me becoz i don't wear name brand clothing (that's exactly what was said)and now they ignore me when we are family functions and when i ask my fiance why does he not ...
A. 8 May 2008: Why is it so hard to up and leave? What good is he bringing to your relationship? A man who loves you will NOT treat you like this. If you stay with him matters will only get worse!! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there are hotter girls than me. How can I feel better about myself now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately... I asked him if he was still with me just because of the sex (because it seems it's the time he enjoys the most when he's with me), so he said: "Look, there are hotter girls tha...
A. 6 May 2008: I don't think that you should obsess over this. He shouldn't have said what he said, but he meant well. He is young and probably didn't even realize that what he said could be taken to heart by you. I would be very happy if my husband told me ... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but hes in love with the fake picture of me!
Q. I met this guy and we talked online alot and we got on really well and he said he loved me and i loved him he asked for a picture a few weeks later and then after he saw my picture he didnt want to know he still talked but as friends and he ...
A. 6 May 2008: He is shallow and doesn't deserve a nice girl like you. How can you say you love him with all your heart when you haven't even met the guy. He clearly doesn't want to meet you or have a relationship, so forget about this jerk. Have some respect ... (read in full...)
Would You Reply To This Email?
Q. alright to make a really long story short my BF of 6 years an i broke up more than a month ago. he sent me an email a little over a week ago accusing me of something i didnt do (obviously someone started some drama) and how i made a fool out of ...
A. 6 May 2008: I think he is making this up to initiate a conversation with you again. You guys broke up months ago....even if it were true, whats the point now of even bringing it up....neither of you are in contact with one another. I would definitely not ... (read in full...)
Why am I angry alot and how can I control it??
Q. Hi, I am angry alot of the time when i think of my past and how people treated me. For some reason people turned against me, particularly women, any job i have ever had. I had two particular jobs where i worked solely with women, well one of the ...
A. 6 May 2008: Maybe your being quiet and shy has something to do with it. People must perceive you to be stuck up or something like that, when in fact you just happen to be quiet. I too am very shy and quiet and in fact, my own family members perceived me to be ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to get rid of this discharge?
Q. im really really worried, the day after i have been fingered there is all this white gunge in my vagina. it doesnt smell, i just really dont no what it is and hate it!!!! can some one tell me how to get rid of it#?...
A. 5 May 2008: You should see your gynecologist, but I don't think there is anything abnormal about your discharge. If it doesn't itch, burn and no odor is present, it's just your body going through puberty. I had a lot of white discharge as a teenager and it ... (read in full...)
They say, visit a doctor, but I really can't tell my mum! What do you suggest?
Q. Help me! I know discharge is normal but I get SO MUCH. I'm not sure if it's right. I have to put loo roll in my knickers all the time its awful. When i wake up, and then stand up, its realy heavy, as if its been 'collecting' overnight. I hate it b...
A. 5 May 2008: Your discharge seems to be normal but a doctor would be better qualified to answer. I've read on the web that if the discharge is white or clear with no odor it's perfectly normal. I too had a heavy discharge after I got my first period and all ... (read in full...)
He says since all he could offer me was grief he could only really offer me nothing-what does he mean?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years and he ended a year ago. He was adament that we remain friends and I guess I went along with it as I thought something was better than nothing. We have not had a physical relationship in that time. He sent me ...
A. 5 May 2008: I think that what he is saying is that he is breaking all ties with you but blaming himself to avoid hurting you. I am with my husband 14 years and could never be friends with him if we broke up. I don't think that is possible for anyone. Don't ... (read in full...)
Only married a year, and communication has broken down, should I get a divorce?
Q. I am a female in her early thirties, and I want to tell my husband that I want a divorce because at this point in our marriage I am very unhappy. He is a sweet person, but he is not willing to compromise about anything. We are communicating less and ...
A. 5 May 2008: You've only been married a year....divorce is not the answer! The first couple of years of marriage is the hardest. I would also suggest that you start to see a counselor. They will be able to help you in communicating and how to handle certain ... (read in full...)
How do you know when a guy no longer wants to be in relationship but is too afraid to let you down?
Q. I'm feeling stuck and sad. When it comes to my boyfriend, I can't figure out what he wants anymore. He's one of those people who HATES to hurt others. We fell in love 2 years ago. We hit it off so well. We could talk for hours and he was certain I ...
A. 5 May 2008: I think the time you are away is a good thing!! You will both have your own time and space apart. Like the other reader said, it's a good test. I also think that from this point on, you need to back up a little. Don't be so needy of his time and ... (read in full...)
She did consent to what we did. But she was drunk as I, too, was. I feel tremendous guilt!
Q. There's this girl I've known since I was little and deeply care for and respect. This weekend all our friends went to a party and we came back to my place drunk. We slept on my bed and did pretty much everything except sex. I feel so guilty I don'...
A. 5 May 2008: Have you spoken to her about that night? Is she upset with you for it? I don't think you have to beat yourself up over this and I don't think what happened was so terrible. You both wanted to do it and it happened. Talk to her and tell her how ... (read in full...)
I feel rejected by my boyfriend. I don't know how to make him interactive with me...
Q. my boyfriend and i have had issues on and off since we met for various reasons. however we still keep coming back to each other and want to make it work. but im so insecure, and i think its my fault, but i keep getting hurt by him and getting really ...
A. 5 May 2008: You showing him your insecurities is definitely making matters worse. Men love "confident" women. You both love each other and are together, so experiment. As much as something he does bothers you, let it go and don't get upset, or atleast don't ... (read in full...)
We have a great relationship but in the past 3 weeks, I have been experiencing little to no sex drive. Could it be the pills?
Q. I've been with my Bf for a little of 3 yrs now, we have an awesome sex life. We have sex 4 to 5 times a week. I'm 32 years old, The past 3 weeks, I have been experiencing little to No sex drive. Before the past 3 weeks Even on the days that i'm not ...
A. 5 May 2008: It definitely can be the pill. When I was on them they did the same thing to me. I agree....talk to your doctor and have them change your pills with less hormones. I don't think it's something else, because your lack of sex drive started when you ... (read in full...)
Is what he's saying normal or not?
Q. I have met a guy through some friends and we were just friendly to begin with. I was interested but I thought he wasn't. Then as I had planned a trip to Greece, I went out the night before my flight and he happened to be there. We just acted ...
A. 4 May 2008: I have to agree with Older Sister on this one. He is playing awful mind games with you trying to gain control of your life. He is the one who came on too strong, and when you fell into his trap, he turned the tables on you. Not a good start to a ... (read in full...)
I feel I look awful without any make-up on and makes me feel too self-conscious about spending the night with guys!
Q. Hi, I have never been lucky in love but recently I met someone really nice.We have been on dates. The problem is that i feel i look awful without any make-up on. He thinks i look really beautiful but i feel when he sees the real me he will run ...
A. 4 May 2008: Your ex is a shallow idiot and most men are not. Don't bring your past relationship into a new one. If he has a problem with what you look like without make up, he isn't a keeper. This may in fact be a perfect test to find out just how he feels ... (read in full...)
My husband likes porn and I cant help but notice that the women in the porn he masturbates over always look very different to me?
Q. I have read a lot of the questions and answers on here about porn and there is some interesting reading for sure but I have a question...my husband likes porn and I cant help but notice that the women in the porn he masturbates over always look very ...
A. 4 May 2008: I absolutely understand what you are feeling, but all men, no matter what size or shape their wives are look at porn with the thin, perfect figured, girls. It is in no way a reflection on you or what you look like. And it certainly will not make ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I've got my self involved with another man...a little too deep, what shall I do?
Q. I feel completely trapped. I am 32, my husband is 38 and I have been married for 10 years now, and although my marriage is good and solid, it has survived many rough patches and there´s always been love and affection between me and my husband. I fell...
A. 3 May 2008: Having one affair doesn't qualify you to be a sex addict. I may suggest that you take some time for yourself and think long and hard about what you really want. Do you feel that you want to be with the other guy or your husband? You are right....it ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating or is she just selfish?
Q. So I've been dating a girl for more than a year, and we plan to live together soon. We live on different sides of the country and met when she was in town on a business trip, but manage to meet up quite frequently, often for several days at a time. ...
A. 2 May 2008: It doesn't sound like she is a keeper. You say that you love her, but love is blind. You can't see through her, but you should listen to your friends and family....they have no emotional attachment to this girl and can see through her phony ... (read in full...)
He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, Is he cheating on me?
Q. I'm living with my boyfrend. I suspect that he's cheating on me. He turns his phone off when we're at home together, or puts it on silent. He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, especially when he's checking his email, facebook, etc....
A. 2 May 2008: It seems as though he is hiding something. If you really want to know what's going on, you are going to have be sneaky. If you come right out and ask him he is going to lie about it and as the other viewers said, he is going to get rid of all ... (read in full...)
I know it was wrong but I looked in my girlfriend's phone and I felt destroyed!!
Q. My girlfriend and I have have been having the time of our lives over the past 8 months. I'm 48 and she's 45. We're both very much in love, and then last week I saw a dramatic change in her. Even in the bedroom she was cold. Something she has alwa...
A. 1 May 2008: I agree with Danielepew!! And I think she is a manipulator and had no business setting you up like that. She also came into your relationship with negativity from her previous boyfriend whom supposedly treated her badly. You do not bring past ... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at porn. How can I make him understand?
Q. My husband will not stop looking at porn. i have asked him to stop but he does it behind my back. when i catch him he turns the argument around on me. i am a heavy woman and i am trying to lose weight. it hurts me because i believe he thinks i am ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hi
I have written in about this very same issue that most women have, and came to realize from everyone's opinion's that a man's watching porn really doesn't have anything to do with their partner or how they feel about you. It is a guy thing and ... (read in full...)
Torn between my wife/family loyalties and my new love-help!
Q. I am in a terrible situation. Ive been married 30 years, 3 kids. The marriage was not good, as my wife has a medical condition that causes severe anger. I was tempted to go many times, but could not leave my kids to her (un)tender mercies. I never ...
A. 29 April 2008: I really don't see why you are staying with your wife, this is only going to cause more hurt and pain for everyone. Your marriage is obviously over and has been for a while, so why stay? In my opinion, you should have left before you started ... (read in full...)
Is it true going on the pill makes you put on weight?
Q. hey i was just wonderin my mum has suggested i go onto the pill and at first i thought this could be a good idea but some people have told me it makes u put on weight..is this true?...
A. 29 April 2008: Going on the pill has its advantages and disadvantages. Birth control pills are all hormones and everyone's body's react differently. In some yes, putting on weight is a side effect, but for others it's not. When I was on the pill, I did not have ... (read in full...)
Why do guys dump a girl after a one night stand? Bad sex, lack of respect...?
Q. Come on guys. Why do guys really dump a girl after a one night stand? Was it because the sex was bad, average? Or because you didn't respect her? If it was amazing and mind blowing and made you cum would you come back for more? Now be ...
A. 29 April 2008: A guy will never see a "one night stand girl" again because if a girl is willing to sleep with him during the 1st day in which they met, he is going to tell himself that you are not worthy of a "relationship." And if you'd slept with him on the 1st ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he loves me and doesn't care if we never have sex again. Should I believe him? I have a low sex drive!
Q. my partner and i have been together for nearly six years. over the last year or so, my sex drive has completley vanished. its very rare i feel "in the mood". my boyfriend tries to initiate sex a couple of times a week, to which i just ignore him,...
A. 29 April 2008: This is a very complicated situation you are in and unusual being you are so young and do not see eachother 24/7. Your boyfriend obviously loves you very much and is being extremely supportive and sensitive to the problem, but he is a man and men ... (read in full...)
I was agitated at the fact that he told me to fructify my opportunity abroad without him! I wouldn't have ever considered leaving him anyway! What do you think?
Q. I am in a HUGE dilema. I'll try to keep this as short as possible... I have been with my boyfriend 3 years. We initally had a rocky relationship, but now everything is perfect, and i've never stopped loving him. Everything is great. I rece...
A. 29 April 2008: You definitely need to leave and get your degree. If you stay because your boyfriend won't leave, you will later resent him for it, especially if your relationship ends one day. You have to think logically here. This is your life that you are ... (read in full...)
I know it was wrong but I looked in my girlfriend's phone and I felt destroyed!!
Q. My girlfriend and I have have been having the time of our lives over the past 8 months. I'm 48 and she's 45. We're both very much in love, and then last week I saw a dramatic change in her. Even in the bedroom she was cold. Something she has alwa...
A. 29 April 2008: I must agree to the tee with lisard89 and collaroy. This lady is no good and not trustworthy. In my opinion, a cell phone is not a friggin diary and you had every right to look through it especially when you are innocently trying to figure out why ... (read in full...)
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