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writes:Hi,I have never been lucky in love but recently I met someone really nice.We have been on dates.The problem is that i feel i look awful without any make-up on. He thinks i look really beautiful but i feel when he sees the real me he will run off. My ex-boyfriend felt i looked really bad without make-up and i was always relunctant to remove it. Infact no one has ever seen me without any make-up.I dont want to blow this relationship. He has already invited me to his home for dinner and i know i might end up spending the night there. i am so scared. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, :):):) +, writes (5 May 2008):
Your ex-boyfriend is an ex for a reason, dont let his problem become yours too.
If a man is happy enough to get intimate with you the last thing on his mind is whether your mascara has run or if you arent wearing any foundation!
You cou;d always 'tone down' how much you wear bit by bit till you feel more confident wearing little makeup.
I suspect your ex just understood your worries and said this to get a reaction from you.
Dont let your past experience affect your new ones. Im sure your new man thinks that your beautiful with or without make up.
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reader, PreciousNY  +, writes (4 May 2008):
Your ex is a shallow idiot and most men are not. Don't bring your past relationship into a new one. If he has a problem with what you look like without make up, he isn't a keeper. This may in fact be a perfect test to find out just how he feels about you. Be confident in yourself and don't worry about what other people think. He will love you with or without the make up. I too have felt like you and I only recently started to not put make up on sometimes even around my husband of 8 years. I have come realize that if he loves me any less without make up, then he isn't worthy of me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): You could always ask to go to the bathroom, to "freshen up". Lots of women do this, especially on dates. Also, if you're suspecting you're spending the night there, you could wear some nice underwear under your clothes, and once you come back from "freshening up", come back only wearing your underwear? Only if you've been with him for a little while though! If he's new to you, this might be a bit forward.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (4 May 2008):
 I suspect you're going to get a lot of replies all saying this but if hes that bothered how you look without makeup hes not really worth having. Dont worry about it, I'm sure you look a lot better than you think and most men really do prefer to see their partners without makeup. Mostly because its a vulnerable look that only they get to see. Don't let your ex's shallow opinion mess with your new relationship.
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