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writes:alright to make a really long story short my BF of 6 years an i broke up more than a month ago. he sent me an email a little over a week ago accusing me of something i didnt do (obviously someone started some drama) and how i made a fool out of him... i didnt respond because im not into drama or high school childs play... i havent done anything to him or even said boo to him in more than 3 weeks. anywho he sent me another email 2 days ago again accusing/telling me that someone told him i was sleeping with a gang of people when we were together.. (hes dumb to believe that).. i dont know if someone is trying to cause probs for me or if my ex is just creating a way to conversate with me... the point is.. i was about to reply to him and simply say "Seriously, Grow Up!" but i dont know if i should even reply at all and just ignore it... so please give me advise... im so indecisive right now..Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Don't write back, ignore his emails - if he had enough guts and was really bothered about being with you he would talk in person. He is just feeling sore and cannot believe you don't like him. Ignore him until he is no longer sour.
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reader, PreciousNY +, writes (6 May 2008):
I think he is making this up to initiate a conversation with you again. You guys broke up months ago....even if it were true, whats the point now of even bringing it up....neither of you are in contact with one another. I would definitely not respond, this is a very childish way of going about this if he wants to talk to you again. Let him know you are not going to take any nonsense. And if what he's saying is true, I'm sure he knows you better than that to believe what other people say!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (6 May 2008):
I think if you respond saying 'seriously, grow up!' is very insensitive to his feelings.
The fact is you DONT KNOW if he is making it up himself or if someone else told him. And can you honestly blame him feeling hurt if someone else told him that? It hurts like hell to hear rumours that you have been cheated on. Sure the people spreading false rumours may be childish but that doesnt make him childish for reacting in the way he did.
I think you owe it to him to set things straight. He obviosuly wants to hear the truth from you, thats why he contacted you.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (6 May 2008):
 Hi, I would write him back, I am assuming you don't want to be involved with him anymore. I would write him in response to his e-mail, because he won't quit, he does want to talk but these people he is listening to, and it could very well be a jealous woman , who wants his attention, and he is gullible enough to believe her, or whoever it is. At any rate, I would say to him, that I am writing to you out of respect for the relationship that we had, but please do not accuse me of something without coming to me, as a mature person, and asking me, without accusing me, what my side of the situation is, or if there is any "my side" of the situation. Did you trust me when we were together as I trusted you? If you did , then why would you think that I would betray that trust? None of the things you stated are true, so please put the issue to rest and move on with your life, find friends who will not lie to you and try to wreak havoc with your life, there are too many other healthy things to do, that are productive. You take care and enjoy the rest of your life, as I am going to enjoy mine. You may change any or all of what I have written, but that is the gist of what I would say. This hopefully, will let him know that you will not respond to any more foolish questions.
Hope this answers your question sufficiently. Good luck.
One more thing, if he e-mails you again, I would not respond, unless you want to re-involve yourself with him, but to me, he has a self-esteem and a trust problem, which can be mind boogling, as he will always want you to prove something to him, because he feels you are not being true. Move on, if you want peace.
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