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writes:(Mod Note - OP's own title) Well, The story is damn long, but I'll keep it simple: I fell in love with a girl that hat a boyfriend. She ended falling in love with me. 2 weeks later her boyfriend broke up, and 3 days after that, we were coming together. Insanely said, I had my first sexual experience with her, at the 23rd December. At the 24th she was laying in the morning by my side, just as I wished once (wish she knew about). I thougt it was going to hold a long time..Well, things started wrong just from the beginning; She used to have depressive days (she already is pretty done in with her life), in witch she had doubts about her feelings. at the 22nd January came the definitive day; she told to me 3 days before that her ex called her telling how much he missed her and so forth, witch made her doubt, once again. At the 22nd she called me and told me she needed time to get along with her feelings, (aldough I was at her's the night over, where she could have said it personally, but well, who cares now) and that she would like to have fun again, go to partys, to "leave the boys be boys again". this last comment came over to me like "have fun with other guys", against what I reacted with "well, okay, you can say it directly. So its off". 3 hours later she called me an asshole and a lot of other thigs, asking also since when I had that decision (breaking up) in mind. I told her that I interpreted her as wanting it too and just wanted to accept her decsion. It came out that I just didn't understand the point. Then, She told me she would need a few weeks to get along with her feelings and so forth. Well, the past 4th February was my birthday. She wrote to me a mere "Happy birthday".But today was the end of the game. She was awkward enough to write her decision in a fucking chat program, so that i would read it as soon as I would go online, instead of (at least) calling me. I'll Quote:"I've made my decision. There is only one person who owns my heart, and that is ******. I want to break all contact with you up. Tell me where we can meet to trade our things. After that it will be all done and we will end it all here."Tomorrow we will meet to get our stuff back. I'm pretty pissed off, because she did this already once to me.And no, I did not mess with her relationship. She was te damn one to come to my place! I only pulled her up and NEVER said taht I love her, ever. She only knew I was a good friend, that's all. I didn't knew about her feelings untill she told me. I NEVER did anything bad to her. I treated her with respect, with all my love and I gave her as mouch heat as I could. I took her to see places, I took her to concerts, to other cities for the crack of looking at them, we always had something damn interesting to talk about, and thus for hours! record was set with 13 hours of conversation. Now she wants to go back to a guy who bites her for the fun of showing off to his friends with it, a guy that once broken up lied to her saying that he would make around with her best friend; a guy that lied to me at the telephone so that I leave her. I don't understand :-S why change an honest, caring, nice guy for a prick covered in lies? well, as sad as it is, I'll have to move on. I wanted to know what should i say to her! I don't damn know how I should speak to her tomorrow.. Help me out, please.Thanks.
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reader, Hellium +, writes (8 February 2010):
Hellium is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think You're right, I'll just Be Kind and still. After all, relationships come and go. I'll get over it. thank you all very mouch for your politeness. Have a nice Day!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 February 2010):
She doesn't deserve any words at all. Say nothing to her. Silently collect your things and just leave and move on. Just ignore her.
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reader, polarkite  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Honestly, just be confident and friendly with her, and wish her well. The more clingy and angry you are the less attractive it makes you.
It's her life. If she wants an abusive guy so be it.
I think the best thing is to laugh it off, at how absurd the whole thing is.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 She deserve nothing, not even your anger... !!!
Good man...you have good future, so forget past, and create new future by using present rightfully.
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