The waiter has my number, should I call him to ask him out?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Okay so there is this really cute waiter at a restaurant that my friends and I frequent. I met him about a year ago and recently he seems to be showing more interest in me because every time he sees me he greets me with a hug(a little longer than the normal hug)and a kiss on the cheek. He comes to find me in the restaurant if he sees me come in and will take a moment to talk to me. He always looks into my eyes when we are talking. When his sister started working there, he introduced us to each other and one night when she was off and had come in, he made sure to tell her I was there and that she should say hi. He complimented my perfume and wanted to know what kind it was. One night, he noticed I was cold while I was in the restaurant and brought his jacket to me and put it over my shoulders in the restaurant and then told me "not to look in the pockets because I might find something incriminating" and then smiled. He asks me about my life and what is going on in it and asked me to come see him at the other restaurant that he works at. So my thought was that he just wants really good tips... As we were leaving the restaurant he saw my car and ran out the side door, flagged me down, and asked me when he would see me again? In my stupidity and lack of smoothness I choked and didn't know what to say. He then gave me the number to the other restaurant along with the schedule of when HE works there and then he wrote down his own personal cell phone number and said, "Here is my number too!" Call me or text me before you come! Hope to see you soon." About a week later, we decided to try the other restaurant so I called him and told him we would be coming that evening for dinner and drinks and when I got to the restaurant, he greeted me at the door with a hug and a kiss on the cheek(just like before). He seated us and then when things died down came and pulled up a chair next to me(very close to me) and put his arm around me. At the end of the night when I was leaving he helped me put on my jacket and walked me outside to my car and spent ten minutes talking to me. I was waiting for him to ask me out but I think he got nervous. So here is my thing, I dont know what to do next... He now has my number and I feel like the ball is in his court and I really want Him to call me because I would like to spend some time with him on a date outside of his work but I dont know if he is even interested. Should I call him and say, "lets hang out?" or should I just let it go and if he calls he calls? Are guys really scared out of their minds when it comes to a girl? What do I do?

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