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writes:My girlfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago. I didn't realize that we'll end up like this because I thought that everything is flowing smoothly. We've been together for almost 1 and half years now and she told me that she still have feeling with her ex love who broke her heart 8 years ago. this man actually never been his Boyfriend. They were courting each other 8 years ago but when she was ready to commit to him, he got married with another woman and hurt her so much. She told me that there's nothing i can do about what she feels for him and i can't help her with what she feels. Her problem is that she cannot move on. She keeps going back in the past. Now I let go even though i really love her and I know that she loved me too. I don't know what to do next. should I wait for her until she realized or start searching for next relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank you so much for all of your opinions
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Move on don't wait for her cause when you wait for her you don't see the opportunities that lies around you. I know what you are going through the pain is always there and the love is always there. But she's not coming back she already decided to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Do you need to go straight into another relationship? You could give yourself some space to recover, and spend time with your family and friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): I'm so sorry honey to have to say this, but I think it's time you move on. It's always hard, moving on from someone you felt so much for and had such a great time with it, but it's all just another part of life. If she's not the one for you, then someone else is out there that is. Waiting for a guy like you. Just waiting. So do your best to not stick around and move on with your life, go new places, make new friends, and find that girl that you're meant to be with. Who is over her ex and is destined for you. Good luck :]
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reader, muffy +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Well,sorry to say sweetface,but it would be best for you to move on.I know it hurts,but if she can't get over her ex then its her loss for losing you.Hope you make the riight choice.
love always,
Muffy
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reader, polarkite +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Wow that's hard. She was pretty clear with you though, which is good. I'd say she definitely wants to be alone. So for the time being, you may just want to leave her alone, and find new ways of spending your extra time.
To be honest, I can't really say if you should wait or not, that decision needs to be made by you, and there's a lot of factors at play. But from what you've said it does sound like she wants to be left alone, and she needs to deal with her issue alone.
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