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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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I feel like I'll never be loved or respected
Q. I feel very sad, demoralized and like I should just give up on relationships. I was with my ex for six years. It was a troubled relationship. He was the jealous, controlling type, he was obsessed with my past and thought that I would cheat on him. I ...
A. 6 May 2013: First and foremost please remember that you hae no Need to feel ashamed the problem is Not with YOU but with the guys that yu hae met Believe you me we have all being there.You come to me as a very nice person with a good fashion sense.Would you ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell me he was single again?
Q. Hey everyone, Exactly a year ago,thru my best friend I met this guy nd honest to god for me he was the most good looking guy I'd seen till date,he was stunning and I was attracted to him,it was driving me crazy!now from what I herd this guy had a lo...
A. 4 May 2013: I think your choice to stay away from him was the Right one While he is stunning and all that he seems to have a problem with staying faithful to his long distance girlfriend.Try and just have a happy memory of him but let him go.He may be confused ... (read in full...)
HELP! Does he have mutual feelings for me? I am falling for him...but don't want to get hurt!
Q. I need advice if this guy has feelings for me. We have known each other for 3 years on friendly terms. I have a feeling our mutual relationship is more than friends. He is going through a divorce and he tells me he no longer loves his ex, only as ...
A. 3 May 2013: Thanks so much for your followup Im happy that my reply was helpful but remember time and thread with care.Hope all works out for you .Kind Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
HELP! Does he have mutual feelings for me? I am falling for him...but don't want to get hurt!
Q. I need advice if this guy has feelings for me. We have known each other for 3 years on friendly terms. I have a feeling our mutual relationship is more than friends. He is going through a divorce and he tells me he no longer loves his ex, only as ...
A. 3 May 2013: Thanks so much for your followup Im happy that my reply was helpful but remember time and thread with care.Hope all works out for you .Kind Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend stopped expressing his feelings towards me?
Q. Hey guys, I am 23 years old, and my boyfriend is 22, we have been together for almost 2 years. I have been noticing that he isn't expressing his feelings as well as he used to. Our second anniversary is coming up, and I don't even feel like h...
A. 2 May 2013: As you both have decided not to have sex until after you marry maybe this is his way of self control.This situation needs to be talked about because this is the Only way that you will get answers.There is also something you would want to be aware of ... (read in full...)
He's lost interest in me since he's been watching porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. i am 21 i we've been in relation for around 8 months...he loves me so much...we were very happy ...and he told me many times that he watch porn i didnt care because it didnt show any change in our relationship...recently i saw him watching nude pics ...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes you are in a very difficult situation as he was up front with you right from the begining when he told you he watched Porn and you accetped it as o k. However i do understand now how you feel.This is not a easy one to sort as you love him.Best ... (read in full...)
He's lost interest in me since he's been watching porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. i am 21 i we've been in relation for around 8 months...he loves me so much...we were very happy ...and he told me many times that he watch porn i didnt care because it didnt show any change in our relationship...recently i saw him watching nude pics ...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes you are in a very difficult situation as he was up front with you right from the begining when he told you he watched Porn and you accetped it as o k. However i do understand now how you feel.This is not a easy one to sort as you love him.Best ... (read in full...)
He's lost interest in me since he's been watching porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. i am 21 i we've been in relation for around 8 months...he loves me so much...we were very happy ...and he told me many times that he watch porn i didnt care because it didnt show any change in our relationship...recently i saw him watching nude pics ...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes you are in a very difficult situation as he was up front with you right from the begining when he told you he watched Porn and you accetped it as o k. However i do understand now how you feel.This is not a easy one to sort as you love him.Best ... (read in full...)
Why did I do this if I love my fiance?
Q. I have been with my fiance' for over 4 years now. About 1 year ago, I had this guy friend and him and I shared the same problems we were going through and he was on the computer late at night like me. I feel like I may have started to develop ...
A. 1 May 2013: There is no harm in feeling attraction for this guy-as there is no harm at looking at THE MENU.You are very lucky to have a fiance that you love.STOP RIGHT THERE.Do not play with fire or you cud end up with without anybody.As you stated you were ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still texts his ex. I don't like it!
Q. So my man and I haven't been together long. Hes a sweet man and takes care if me (we both work) but I mean he does things for me no other man has done. My issue is, when he first moved in with me he was on the phone with his ex (apparently we ...
A. 1 May 2013: Yes i can understand why you are upset with your boyfriend texting his ex.Have a long indept chat with your b/f telling him how upset you are Also be very firm when you ask him THE REASON WHY HE IS TEXTING HIS EX.Tell him that Trust works with both ... (read in full...)
I want to get my ex out of my head and have a normal life!
Q. I was in a very tumultuous relationship for 2 years. My ex and I really loved eachother but her behaviors because of her rough past caused many arguments. I, on the other hand escalated situations. We broke up in a major way 3 times but we would ...
A. 29 April 2013: I feel the difference between you and your girlfriend are to great and this has been proved not once but 3 times with your breakup.Sometimes it is not easy to let go but wise because if you both continued to keep breaking up you could feel bitter.As ... (read in full...)
HELP! Does he have mutual feelings for me? I am falling for him...but don't want to get hurt!
Q. I need advice if this guy has feelings for me. We have known each other for 3 years on friendly terms. I have a feeling our mutual relationship is more than friends. He is going through a divorce and he tells me he no longer loves his ex, only as ...
A. 29 April 2013: Right now this man is going through a divorce-so on that level i think it might be best if you were happy to remain friends.As he will need time space understanding and yes friends.Otherwise there is no point in getting someone on the rebound.So ... (read in full...)
Why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger?
Q. i need help understanding something. why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger? and i dont mean just a few year either. im talking 20 years or more. and why would anyone want someone that much older? i have read all ...
A. 29 April 2013: This is a very difficult and painful situation for you to handle.But your letter is very much together and your seeing things as they are and this s a good start.Some men need younger women to feel good about themselves and they feel great that they ... (read in full...)
Why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger?
Q. i need help understanding something. why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger? and i dont mean just a few year either. im talking 20 years or more. and why would anyone want someone that much older? i have read all ...
A. 29 April 2013: This is a very difficult and painful situation for you to handle.But your letter is very much together and your seeing things as they are and this s a good start.Some men need younger women to feel good about themselves and they feel great that they ... (read in full...)
I miss talking to her! Will time bring her back?
Q. i still love this girl so much it hurts and i feel like crying. we tried being friends the first 3 weeks of our breakup. but she said i act crazy asking how she is i slipped i love you a few times as well. sex jokes with friends and simple stuff ...
A. 28 April 2013: LOVE is hard work at the best of times.Right now yes you do need to keep busy ,make new friends,join a club.It will get easier i know that is not easy to accept now but it will.You talk about TIME well it will do either one of these things I-It will ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and feeling sad knowing my child's father won't be in the picture
Q. Im having to face being a single mum and only in the last week or so I have been feeling loss of love towards my baby. I know it could be hormonal but i dont like feeling this way. Especially when I felt nothing but excitement towards my baby from ...
A. 28 April 2013: This is a very difficult time for you and quiet soul searching.But well done you with your lovely daughter she is indeed a precious gift.I hae no doubt that you will be able to cope just as you managed with your other children.You answered your own ... (read in full...)
I liked him. Do you think he liked me or was just trying to recruit me as a volunteer?
Q. I met this guy in a cafe this morning. He asked me if I was one of the volunteers. I said no, and he introduced himself and shook my hand and started telling me about his work. Then he invited me to sit down with him to have my breakfas...
A. 27 April 2013: Well yes he likes you but otherwise its to soon to tell how much he likes you .Stay friends with him and let him make the next move.Thread with care and see what happens in the not too distance future .Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
He can't seem to feel love for me. He does care about me. Should I break up with him? Or are there other options to consider?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years we live together and get along great. All the arguments stopped once we started living together and everything flows great. The one problem we still have, is that he can't seem to feel love for me. ...
A. 27 April 2013: I think you have it very well decribed.Also for a start -One must love and understand onesself before we can Love or understand another person.Very important a child in his own family must have been shown love otherwise he is as a adult unable to ... (read in full...)
My ex. When I see her now I get a burning feeling in my stomach and tears are always close. What to do?
Q. I need help dealing with this. I've recently broken up with my first serious relationship. Anyways i feel like I'm bipolar. I am sad then depressed then I'm ok for a short while, then back again. I miss her a LOT. I don't know how to handle...
A. 27 April 2013: NO NO You are not being stupid you are reacting in a normal way believe you me we havw all being there.Trying to heal after a breakup of a relationship is very painful and it take time.Would you consider making new mixed friends . Doing a ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to meet another girl I like. Is it a confidence thing?
Q. I had a long term relationship end about 4 years ago. It ended not the best, and I was silly enough to stay in contact with the ex. Anyway I know she has changed and also I couldn't see her the same again. But I can't seem to meet another girl...
A. 27 April 2013: Thanks for the follow much appreaciated.Wishing you a happy future. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
If I stay with him is it possible that he will just make me even more unhappy? Because he's not the Bf he used to be. He takes me for granted.
Q. My bf and I have dated for almost 3 years. We've never dated before so being in a relationship with eachother is our first. I have made a few mistakes in the past such as lying. When I first met my bf I lied to him about a few things such as g...
A. 24 April 2013: There is no one prefect we all have our little problems to overcome.You did your best and opened up to this man and was not treated in a nice way. The problem now is with him as he has not built Trust with you over the years.If as you stated that ... (read in full...)
Why am I now not attracted to my boyfriend of five years!?
Q. So I love this guy we have been through thick and thin together. He's everything I dream of and the best Bf I've ever had in bed. We moved in togther about two years ago. Been dating since we were 16 and we are both 21 now. We have experienc...
A. 24 April 2013: While you love this man are you in love with him .This is a question you might ask yourself because sometimes THE MAGIC fades.This is a difficult situation to be in and one you would need to think about in a indept way.Because there is the future to ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 24 April 2013: This is a very difficult call for you as the wedding is just 2 weeks away.I think you are quiet right that he never grieved properly for tis girl.Now if you decide to get married in 2 weeks and if this continued with him you could suggest that he ... (read in full...)
Should I keep that little place in my heart for him and move on?
Q. I used to date O years ago he was sweet and we had known each other since we were just 6. We lost contact and I met M who messed me about constantly but I was young and in love. He dumped me for someone else. O asked me out again I said yes bu...
A. 22 April 2013: Yes yes keep that little place in your heart and move on.This is a very wise choice on your part because as you stated you have it all with M and your son and dont risk in doing anything else.Part of you will always care for O but leave it there ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying or is it time to throw in the towel?
Q. So I've been in a relationship with "A" for almost 3 years now. In the past 6 months or so I've been "dumped" 3 times by him. It's always the same situation. He is feeling depressed and unsuccessful in his life and things aren't going his way, h...
A. 22 April 2013: He is very lucky to have a girl that loves him so much.It not easy on you to handle the situation when he is depressed.Maybe his depression is the problem and when he feels overload he cant handle and dumps you.Would you consider suggesting to him ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to meet another girl I like. Is it a confidence thing?
Q. I had a long term relationship end about 4 years ago. It ended not the best, and I was silly enough to stay in contact with the ex. Anyway I know she has changed and also I couldn't see her the same again. But I can't seem to meet another girl...
A. 21 April 2013: Its nor easy to heal after a relationship of 4 years.Try and not be so hard on yourself give your yourself time and space maybe take time OUT of the dating scene for awhile.As you stated you are picky when you come to girls and that is fine for you ... (read in full...)
Have I done the right thing
Q. Hi Basicaly me and my girlfriend have had what i would call a little lovers tiff. We recently celebrated our 1 year aniversary of dateing but i have noticed that her attitutude has changed. She lives a busy life with work, her studies,...
A. 19 April 2013: She is a very lucky lady that you love her so much.Maybe you might consider sending her some flowers with a suggestion of meeting for a chat and take it from there .Kind Wishes. Nora B.... (read in full...)
Competitive friend that destroys me emotionally
Q. Hi there, I have a friend that I have known since I was 10 and when we were little we were very good friends. She has always been a little jealous of me but loves me at the same time if you know what I mean? We are now 30 and we have always stayed i...
A. 18 April 2013: First of all it is youe RIGHT to keep your priave business or personal to your self.You will have to be very Firmwithyour friend and just say to her you do not wish to discuss a issue with her and stick to it.To be honest after reading your letter i ... (read in full...)
Have I done the right thing
Q. Hi Basicaly me and my girlfriend have had what i would call a little lovers tiff. We recently celebrated our 1 year aniversary of dateing but i have noticed that her attitutude has changed. She lives a busy life with work, her studies,...
A. 18 April 2013: Yes you have done the right thing you are being very kind giving her this space yet telling her that you love her.She has so much on hand she will have to decide what or who she wants to give time to.Would you consider talking to her on this level ... (read in full...)
BF cheating with his EX, Help
Q. My boyfriend confessed to me that he took his ex home to northridge yesterday when i ask him when was this he change the subject on me than he told me it was last wk. i think he is cheating with her please help....
A. 18 April 2013: This is a sad situation to be in but difficult.Try and find out if he is cheating for sure because .Before you comfront with this Or you could ask him straight out.However if you find out that he is cheating you will then have to decide -1 are you ... (read in full...)
How many more years am I suppose to invest in this relationship when I am already tired and over him?
Q. My head tells me to leave him but my heart tells me to keep on fighting for his love. He is so indifferent towards me he no longer comes to have lunch with me and he is gone all day. He says his works keeps him busy but what about me what about hi...
A. 17 April 2013: I understand your painful situation and how lonely and alone you feel with your children.Before you decide to leave talk to him again and suggest a visit to a counsellor would be helpful.If he refuses to go -you go alone and talk the matter over ... (read in full...)
My Bf is getting angry unneccessarly and calling me names. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Today is my bf birthday. I called him several times from the morning to wish him, he didn't pick up the call and not responding to text. He is in his parents house now. I know he is not sick nor busy, got the information from c...
A. 17 April 2013: When you see him again have a firm chat with him telling him that you will not allow anyone to call you names.Also the reasons Why he is not answersing your texts or calls.Let him contact you first.Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
does my boyfriend seem into the relationship?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together a year now. We're quite happy together. He has a very stressful job, and whenever he gets very stressed at work, I notice. He gets distant, and he's not able to keep in contact with me as much during the day, ...
A. 17 April 2013: This is not a easy one to read and to make sure you would need to have an indept chat with him and ask him all those questions face to face.He comes across as taking everything for granted and is somewhat selfish that he does not buy you some little ... (read in full...)
How do I stop loving this mean manipulative man? I have to see him almost every day
Q. My boyfriend of three yrs recently broke up with me and we have a daufhter together. This man is mean and manipulative but i still love him. I dont know why i would love someone who calls me names and hurts me because he doesnt love me back anymore. ...
A. 15 April 2013: Its very difficult to unlove someone your still in love with and that you also share a daughter. However i think TIME will heal the hurt and also you are seening him for what he is-As you stated he is mean.manipulative,and calls you names,I think ... (read in full...)
His friends are rude to me and know too much of my personal business
Q. How would you deal with your boyfriends friends being rude to you? I've found that I'm not really comfortable at all around my boyfriends 5 main best friends. They all make very rude comments to me and even just make rude comments about our relation...
A. 15 April 2013: FAST FORWARD.Your boyfriend would need to have a firm word with his friends re their treatment and lack of respect for you .Also when they are belitting you they are in turn disrespecting your boyfriend .Have a chat with your boyfriend about this ... (read in full...)
What should I read into her comment?
Q. Ok, So I was seeing this girl which I worked with for a while, we started just running together after work, which lead to us sleeping together and going out, dinners, concerts etc. She has children but she had them at an early age, I wanted t...
A. 15 April 2013: Maybe this is just her way to say thank you However i think the main issue is her children and perhaps she does not want to get into a commited relationship while they are still young.Would you consider having an indept chat with her telling her ... (read in full...)
Is he commitment phobic? He told me he loves me but then destroyed my trust in him. What's his problem?
Q. Hi, Would like some thoughts on the following... Dated a guy for two years and for the last seven months we have been going through a rough patch about living together. We arranged to sell our houses and live together. I sold mine first and ...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks for the follow-up its not easy to say goodbye.But well done you .Wishing you a happy future .Nora B.... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks so much for the -follow up- it was much appreciated.Hopefully in the not too distance future you will meet a special lady and soulmate Wishing you happy future and thanks again.Kind regards Nora B.... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 15 April 2013: Thanks so much for the -follow up- it was much appreciated.Hopefully in the not too distance future you will meet a special lady and soulmate Wishing you happy future and thanks again.Kind regards Nora B.... (read in full...)
Married for nearly nine years, together with my wife for eleven and a half years and I've fallen for a 20 yr old girl
Q. Hi, I have been married for nearly nine years and together with my wife for eleven and half years. Recently the marriage has been going through a lull and I fell for a 20 yr old girl. We get on really well and cant stop wanting to be together...
A. 14 April 2013: Well your first duty of care is to your wife and also care for this other girl.As you dont want any threats to be carried out i would advise you to go IMMEDIATELY to a counsellor and ask him for advise as to how to handle this situation.Kind ... (read in full...)
How do I develop a social life again? I look after my Mom at home and I work as well. At the end of the day I'm tired.
Q. Hi I'm 24 years old.. And I'v been working for a year now but it has completely taken a toll on my social life! When I was a student I was very active,hang out with friends,go to a lounge..BUT now after work all I want to do is come back and sl...
A. 14 April 2013: Well done you and take great credit on the care of your mum she is THE BEST FRIEND YOU WILL EVER HAVE.However i can understand that your friends might get irritated if you keep refusing to go out with them.As you are so tired after work would you ... (read in full...)
Does she need more time, even if she says that she would like to be in a relationship with me?
Q. Dear community, here's my problem. There's this girl, I've always liked her (as a friend of course). One day, she broke up with her boyfriend (they've been together for three years). We started texting a lot, met several times, had a great g...
A. 14 April 2013: Yes she needs lots more time to heal after the break-up of her last relationship otherwise she will be on the rebound with you.However i would take things at a very slow pace.Im somewhat concerned on your part as well.As you stated that both of you ... (read in full...)
Is he commitment phobic? He told me he loves me but then destroyed my trust in him. What's his problem?
Q. Hi, Would like some thoughts on the following... Dated a guy for two years and for the last seven months we have been going through a rough patch about living together. We arranged to sell our houses and live together. I sold mine first and ...
A. 14 April 2013: This man does not know if he is coming or going and is very selfish and very hurtful and unfair to you at all levels.Dont let him use you when it suits him.Hopefully you will stsrt a NEW life with a man that loves and respects you.Tell this guy a ... (read in full...)
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