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writes:Ok,So I was seeing this girl which I worked with for a while, we started just running together after work, which lead to us sleeping together and going out, dinners, concerts etc.She has children but she had them at an early age, I wanted to spend more time with her but her children take first priority and she said she couldn't offer me the time. We basically stopped seeing each other over an argument about that.Fast forward 6 months later and I text her happy bday a few says before her bday, we texted for a bit and I offered to take her to dinner. A few days later she texted me and asks me if I want to hang out on a Saturday which I do and we have a pleasent time. The next day she asks me if I'd like to come over when her kids are asleep which I do and we have sex. After sex we cuddled, spooned, held hands, i carreesed her body and planted soft kisses on her, talked and then she asks me if I'm sleepy because she is, after a little while, which I take as my cue to leave.She thanks me for coming over which I found strange, I like this girl and would give up my right arm for her but that seemed a little weird to me. Should I read anything into her thanking me for coming over? She used to say that before as well but it never really bothered me before.P.S. There wasnt any weirdness least on my part, you know you feel wierd seeing someone you dated before and have that akward conversation or run in with. It felt natural and just like before we stopped seeing each other, even the sex was a hot.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 April 2013):
Sounds to me that she thinks of you as a male prostitute. She thanked you for a job well done.
I'm actually kidding and I'm surprised that you're looking for signs here. Thanking someone is a polite habit for people.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2013):
 I thank my husband for taking out the trash and he thinks that's weird because it's his job. But some folks just say thank you for things that don't require it.
I would not read anything into it at all.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (15 April 2013):
Gosh you are two adults. Tell her what you are telling us. I think you are a super guy.. It sounds from the way you wrote it that you were sort of dating. How can you fault a women who loves her kids enough that they our her priority. It sounds to me like she is a great mom! And someone I would be glad to have as a friend. Tell her you want to be a part of her life including her kids. They are a part of her. You have to make a decision if you want a ready made family. Maybe she wants this step too but you are not going to get anywhere without talking to her about it.
Talk to each other and leave the sex out of it. It seems to be clouding your mind. Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 April 2013):
 Seems like she took your Happy Birthday as a way to get beck to your NSA thing you two got going.
She likes you enough to hang out and screw you, but not enough to date?
Have you asked her if she is interested in dating you? Could be she thinks you are only there for the NSA too.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (15 April 2013):
Maybe this is just her way to say thank you However i think the main issue is her children and perhaps she does not want to get into a commited relationship while they are still young.Would you consider having an indept chat with her telling her your feelings and understanding about her children.Best Wishes Nora B.
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