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36-40,
*eaf4eva
writes:Hi Basicaly me and my girlfriend have had what i would call a little lovers tiff. We recently celebrated our 1 year aniversary of dateing but i have noticed that her attitutude has changed.She lives a busy life with work, her studies,Pets,Family,our relationship and starting a business. I am aware time is one thing she rearly does'nt have over the last 3-4 months and i can exept that seeing her 1-2 times is a blessing.Anyway its just when i call her she after her day because she does not get home until 9pm some nights i call her to see how she is but her attitude is really getting to me it feels like shes taking it out on me and cutting the conversation short even thou i don't think she intends too.we have some problems with our phones aswell they send messages but neither of us get them when we are supposed to!Sometimes the messages will come in all at once or during the day. This at times i feel is making it look like iam smothering her.So with everything i decided to give her a little space to help her get her head around things .I have explained through facebook why i have not been in touch for a few days (to give her space to chill) but now she is not talking to me at all i have said i still Love her and want us to be together its only a bit of space so you can get ahead of tasks. and i know she has read the messages have i done the right thing? and p.s how long should i wait ?
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reader, deaf4eva +, writes (20 April 2013):
deaf4eva is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ! my only problem with that is my gf owned her own florist for 2 years and everytime men would come in for flowers it was always because the cheated on their partner or a sign of guilt lol so my gf has a bleak view of when men give flowers i know her well enough in the last year :)my other problem at the moment like i said she reads the message but she hasn't texted back or facebooked me since wednesday when i told her why i think she needs space
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (19 April 2013):
She is a very lucky lady that you love her so much.Maybe you might consider sending her some flowers with a suggestion of meeting for a chat and take it from there .Kind Wishes. Nora B.
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reader, deaf4eva +, writes (18 April 2013):
deaf4eva is verified as being by the original poster of the questionReally do ! want to speak to her on this level i really love her so much all im worried about is that she is not speaking to me atm since i told her why i havn't been in touch i havn't dumped her or anything and i know her well enough to know if that was the case she would say she wants out. Its just getting her to talk .
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 April 2013):
Yes you have done the right thing you are being very kind giving her this space yet telling her that you love her.She has so much on hand she will have to decide what or who she wants to give time to.Would you consider talking to her on this level and asking her what she wants.Also does she wish to continue a relationship with you and if so where do you fit in the picture re-time.I would talk to her sooner than later. Best Wishes Nora B.
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